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#1 dora the explorer

Posted 13 February 2008 - 01:29 PM

Do we need to bring a gift to the bride-to-be on her hen's night? And put a card as well? What do we write on the card?

Sorry..never been to any hen's night before...

THanks

#2 Lees75

Posted 13 February 2008 - 01:34 PM

In my circle of friends, we have always bought each other a gift.  It is something for the honeymoon, and dependent on the personality of the giver, might range from crotchless undies (or worse rolleyes.gif) to massage oil. It's great fun original.gif

ETA - Forgot to mention, I don't normally bother with a card with a thoughtful comment - just a bag with one of those little cards attached so she knows who gave it to her

Edited by Lees75, 13 February 2008 - 01:35 PM.


#3 *~Bee~*

Posted 13 February 2008 - 01:35 PM

None I have ever been to have needed a gift or card.

#4 ~Billy~

Posted 13 February 2008 - 01:49 PM

I've never taken a gift to a hen's night, but have bought the hen(s) drinks and contributed towards the cost of their dinner along with the rest of the group.

Have a great night  original.gif

#5 breilla

Posted 13 February 2008 - 01:54 PM

Naughty stuff!!!!

It's a bit of fun, so give something fun. Even if she never uses what you buy it will get a laugh on a hen's night.

Don't be embarrased walking into sex shops nowadays, most of them employ female staff and it is not as taboo as it used to be.

fun fun fun.  grin.gif

#6 maurie

Posted 13 February 2008 - 01:53 PM

We never did the gift thing, just kept the bride-to-be plied with drinks all night.

#7 gossip~girl

Posted 13 February 2008 - 02:00 PM

Forget the card.  Buy the Hen losts of drinks and give her a pen!s straw to drink them with  dev (6).gif

I got arrested on my Hen's night  blush.gif or was that just the stripper with handcuffs  unsure.gif

#8 Pocahontas

Posted 13 February 2008 - 02:00 PM

QUOTE
I've never taken a gift to a hen's night, but have bought the hen(s) drinks and contributed towards the cost of their dinner along with the rest of the group.
  

We're the same as this.  Sometimes the cost of attending can be quite high: horse races, massages, expensive restaurants, wine tours etc.  This is enough, I think.  If the night was in someone's backyard and food/beverages were supplied then I might think differently.

#9 dora the explorer

Posted 13 February 2008 - 02:49 PM

Oh well...I'd better have the chocolates for myself then..I bought chocolates in heart shapes...

Pfffhhh..never been to the sex shop...do you think a baby is allowed to get in? Because I will go there with my 7mos old baby...LOL..

#10 *Jen*

Posted 13 February 2008 - 02:55 PM

I have never taken a present or card to a hens night.
With engangement parties, kitchen teas then the actual wedding, i think that is sufficient enough amount of present giving  tongue.gif

#11 Lees75

Posted 13 February 2008 - 03:30 PM

You don't have to go to a sex shop - just go to the back of Bras n Things  tongue.gif

#12 *I~Dreamed~of~You*

Posted 13 February 2008 - 03:36 PM

I thought gifts were only for Bridal shower/kitchen tea/the actual wedding etc. shrug.gif

I never got any gifts for my Hen's night .. didn't expect them either.

I agree with some of the PP's, just buy her lots of drinkies!! Have fun!  wink.gif

#13 michls

Posted 13 February 2008 - 10:14 PM

I just went to the local variety shop and bought a beautiful gift box, the size you might put a necklace in, I am putting a box of panadol, earlplugs, 1 vibrating condom and a pair of baby socks. I know she will get a laugh out of it, the panadol and earplugs are for her to deal with her new whingy husband!I am also taking any further suggestions but they have to fit in the box!

Ummm if the question about the baby in the sex shop was serious, then Nope you cant take him/her in. Over 18 only, just like the casino gambling area! wacko.gif

#14 tres-chic

Posted 23 January 2013 - 05:06 PM

No.

The one I just went to we had to pay for the meal and drinks up front and it was expensive so no gift.

I did buy them a lovely engagement gift and will buy a wedding gift too in due course.

That is more than enough IMO.

#15 JustBeige

Posted 23 January 2013 - 05:11 PM

QUOTE (Billy.123 @ 13/02/2008, 02:49 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've never taken a gift to a hen's night, but have bought the hen(s) drinks and contributed towards the cost of their dinner along with the rest of the group.

Have a great night  original.gif

Same.


If it was a really close friend and I knew them very well, I might buy her something naughty, but it really depends on our relationship

#16 Justaduck

Posted 23 January 2013 - 05:21 PM

Yes you can take babies into the sex store.
We were down the coast with a group of friends. Everyone wanted to go into Condom Kingdom, I saw don't worry I'll wait on the bench outside. Someone went and asked if I could take DD in & they said Absolutely. I walked in, around the first rack to shut them up, and back out again and waited again

Have never had to give a gift though, just money towards whatever is happening

#17 **Xena**

Posted 23 January 2013 - 09:11 PM

At mine people just bought me a drink or something. No presents as such original.gif

#18 Peppery

Posted 23 January 2013 - 09:16 PM

I have never taken a gift just paid for the Hen's dinner and drinks

#19 au*lit

Posted 23 January 2013 - 09:23 PM

Have not bought or received hen's gifts. Buying drinks and contributing to the cost of her dinner is the norm in my circles.

#20 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 23 January 2013 - 10:11 PM

QUOTE (indomum @ 13/02/2008, 01:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do we need to bring a gift to the bride-to-be on her hen's night? And put a card as well? What do we write on the card?

Sorry..never been to any hen's night before...

THanks

Never given a gift.  All the guests have pitched in to shout the hen for the night (dinner, drinks and whatever entertainment costs for the night)

#21 LynnyP

Posted 23 January 2013 - 10:20 PM

I think the original couple are probably divorced by now.

I wouldn't take a gift to the second one.  Weddings where participants have to take a mortgage out to participate are getting silly.  An engagement gift, a wedding gift and a small kitchen tea one (if you are subjected to that) is plenty.

#22 MissingInAction

Posted 24 January 2013 - 07:56 AM

I don't remember getting gifts at my own hen's night but i did receive a few cards!!

I received gifts at my bridal shower though (you know, the family friendly event...)





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