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#1 ~ Four Blessings ~

Posted 20 May 2007 - 10:00 PM

Hi Everyone

Just wondering what everyone's views are regarding strippers at a bucks night? My DH went to one last night and he told me the stripper that came to the bucks night (it was my cousins bucks night) and apparently she was really full on, she went completely naked and she had my cousins head in her crotch and made him eat marshmallows off her nipples etc he was able to touch her breasts etc.

Do you classify this as cheating??? or do you think its just one of those things that happens at bucks nights and leave it at that? Would you be ok with this happening at a bucks night for your partner?

It got me thinking, I am lucky that my DH never was into having a stripper at his bucks night he just went out for a night out on the town pub crawl type of thing. but I said to him there is no way that I would be ok with that sort of thing happening to him etc. He said it was just harmless fun that my cousin did this> My DH would never want to do anything like this, but i have to say that I really consider what happened at that bucks night to be cheating (my cousin to his fiancee)

I guess my reasoning is is that how is it any different if you went to a pub and picked up any girl and took her home and touched her breasts had her crotch in your face etc, you wouldnt do that so therefore why is it ok to have a stripper that does this? where do you draw the line?

Anyway just be interested in seeing your views.

Anita

Edited by AnitaWillHayJack, 20 May 2007 - 10:16 PM.


#2 76 others

Posted 20 May 2007 - 10:24 PM

DH has a stripper on his bucks but was no touching. I was fine with that.

But he has been to some where she has inserted a lollipop in herself and given it to someone to suck. Put a dildo in someones mouth whilst they are laying down and sat on it etc:sick: I would not be okay with that. He said one the girl basically stuck her whole hand up herself and went to wipe it on DH's face and he told her no.

I wouldn't care about licking cream off stomach or even nipples, but body fluids would make it go a (huge) step too far.

#3 KirbyCat

Posted 20 May 2007 - 10:31 PM

Is cheating IMO, I wouldn't be fine with that at all.

#4 TaraD

Posted 20 May 2007 - 10:52 PM

I dont know if I'd call it 'cheating' but I would not be fine with it!! rant.gif  rant.gif  rant.gif  rant.gif

#5 Our LovelyLiv

Posted 20 May 2007 - 10:59 PM

QUOTE
I dont know if I'd call it 'cheating' but I would not be fine with it!!

Ditto.

#6 Guest_Dark~Abyss_*

Posted 20 May 2007 - 11:07 PM

I wouldnt call it cheating because it wasnt in his mind to cheat IYKWIM..it was a bucks night with a stripper who makes her money by taking her clothes off.

Not sure how I would feel if my bf ate marshmellows off another womans breasts and had his head in their t*at mind you. glare.gif I wouldnt be thrilled by it but at the same time I wouldnt classify him as having cheated on me.

If my bf went to a bucks night with strippers there, Id rather not know what went on, unless of course he went too far with them and someone thought they should tell me.

#7 15 Year Gap

Posted 20 May 2007 - 11:30 PM

QUOTE
If my bf went to a bucks night with strippers there, Id rather not know what went on, unless of course he went too far with them and someone thought they should tell me.

I agree with this comment.  And like a few of the PP's, I definitely wouldn't call it 'cheating', but I wouldn't particularly like it either.

Unfortunately, the bucks night is generally organised by the best man and sometimes they seem to make it their mission to find the most feral strippers around!  wacko.gif

Personally, I know that bucks night strippers tend to take things a few steps further than 'normal' strippers ... (my mother found peeled bananas in the bins outside the shed where DH had his night and my FIL went home with a carrot in his pocket!  ohmy.gif  sick.gif ).  But I really tried not to think or talk about DH's bucks night at all because my feelings were that whatever happened would happen IYKWIM.  I trust that my DH loves me and knew what I would consider to be unacceptable behaviour.  My step-dad was also present on the night and I knew he would tell my Mum if he thought anything had gone too far ... <and then she would tell me  blush.gif > ... so I was content to just know that nothing had happened which would affect our married life together.

DH came home to me at the end of the night ... and I to him (after having my own stripper who also went 'full monty'  ph34r.gif ) and I honestly feel that it was a once-in-a-lifetime night of harmless fun.


#8 pinkpinkblue

Posted 20 May 2007 - 11:40 PM

I wouldn't be ok with it. I don't think DP would be happy if i let another man lick anything off my body or any of those other things mentiond, so i would not be happy with him doing it to another woman.
We both agree its fine to look but not touch.... works for us both.

#9 LynnyP

Posted 21 May 2007 - 07:07 AM

I don't think of it as cheating.  I do think of it as crass, vulgar and really quite tedious.  My respect for my husband would plummet if he participated willingly in such behaviour.  Watching a stripper is one thing, getting up close and personal with her DNA is another.

#10 Melimuru

Posted 21 May 2007 - 07:45 AM

I agree that it isn't cheating but there is no way I would like my partners head shoved into another woman's crotch.

There aren't many men who are going to tell the truth about what happens at a bucks show, DP went to one years ago and it was mutual friends of ours getting married and they had two strippers who stripped the buck completely naked and then they got naked, laid him on the floor and started rubbing all over him. He told his wife to be that nothing happened but my DP told me the truth and I was pretty disgusted.

#11 --descentia--

Posted 21 May 2007 - 08:08 AM

QUOTE
I don't think of it as cheating. I do think of it as crass, vulgar and really quite tedious. My respect for my husband would plummet if he participated willingly in such behaviour. Watching a stripper is one thing, getting up close and personal with her DNA is another.

Exactly!

I have never seen a stripper get so up close and personal!  That is just so yuck and tacky. My husband has good friends (women) who are strippers on the Gold Coast, a couple of really nice women. He would go and watch strippers if it was a mates bucks night I guess but he definitely feels weirded out by the whole scene.

I would never have a problem with him going to a party where something like this was on as I can imagine him sneaking out the back to talk about computer games with his mate! Tounge1.gif

He was pretty adament he didn't want anything like that for a bucks - neither of us had traditional bucks/hens nights.

#12 Beautiful-Day

Posted 21 May 2007 - 08:27 AM

I do consider it cheating.
My husband and I have strong views on strippers we both didnt have one and never would.
It crosses the line of respecting your partner in my humble opinion.

#13 MadamFrou-Frou

Posted 21 May 2007 - 08:29 AM

Thank god I know that my husband would be revolted by some feral stripper sticking his head in her crotch and wouldn't go along with it. Tacky to the max.

I don't thik it's cheating though, just rather unfortunate and sad.

#14 -Lila-

Posted 21 May 2007 - 08:29 AM

As aweful as it is, I wouldnt call is cheating. DH went to see strippers for his bucks and the stripper was rubbing ice cubes on her nipples and then getting him to eat the ice.  unsure.gif  This isnt as bad as the situation you mentioned but it made me feel crap. I think its an unfortunate part of out society. Its acceptable for men to watch women do this stuff. I have heard some aweful stories lately from DH as we have lots of friends getting married. Lots of dildos, bannanas, touching, but never anything with bodily fluids  sick.gif
I guess its hopefully once in a lifetime thing.

#15 PinkLizzy

Posted 21 May 2007 - 08:33 AM

QUOTE
Vulgar, crass, demeaning, neanderthal.


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#16 ~JellyBelly~

Posted 21 May 2007 - 08:44 AM

I wouldn't consider it cheating, but I would be mighty p!ssed of if he allowed it to happen to him.

#17 leanneperry

Posted 21 May 2007 - 08:54 AM

BUCKS NIGHTS ARE A BIG NO-NO IN MY HOUSE... WHY??

My DH hOSTED a bucks party for his brother back in about '96. The stripper they hired cancelled earlier that day and they rang around all afternoon looking for one at the last minute. They finally found one willing to come out to my house.

The bucks night was just a quiet party at the house with a Keg and about 10-12 guys. BBQ dinner, I even did all the cooking of salads, potato bakes etc for it before I went to spend the night at my mums... (with 2 kids)

When I got back the next morning.. There was a hole in my wall...(But no one did it, it just appeared all by itself.)And I heard about the stripper.
She had 3 guys lying on the floor and SAT ON THERE FACES and yes she was naked... She also got one guy to eat a mars bar or similar that she had hanging out of her ....... (apparrently he had a few bites but wouldnt get too close to the other end. Rubbed her tits over everyones faces but that wasnt the worst of it........

She got dressed in MY BEDROOM. and after her show mentioned she was going to get changed but If anyone wanted AFTERS she will wait in the room.

MY ROOM.....MY BED WAS IN THAT ROOM>>>

I can tell you, although nobody took her up on the "AFTERS" offer, bucks nights are a very bad topic..

Although my hubby just watched and didnt participate... if he had taken part.. well... lets just say I would only have 2 kids right now!

Now we did have a hens night for my SIL the week before, we went on one of the cruise strippers in Sydney Harbour. THE differense?? They do not take it all off...There is no touching anywhere too personal...AND THERE IS DEFINATLY NO AFTERS OFFERED.

Forgot to answer the Question too...
In the case of a naked stripper sitting on MY husbands face.... Yes I would consider this cheating
My husband eating a mars bar out of a strippers hummmm...... Yes I would consider that cheating
A stripper rubbing her tits in my hubby's face....No, just SICK fun Had he have taken up the offer of "AFTERS" f**king oath!

Edited by leanneperry, 21 May 2007 - 09:19 AM.


#18 cherub27

Posted 21 May 2007 - 09:08 AM

Leanne i know how you feel.
I was very insecure when I got married so DH and I agreed to just a combime hens/bucks party at our house. It was really just a party with all our mates. And we had agreed NO STRIPPERS.
Unfortunately his mates had other plans and hired a tacky looking 'police woman' to entertain him. And they were planning on all the boys going out to the shed with her!
I lost it and screamed bloody murder at his mates.
After discussing it with DH (while the skank was waiting on the doorstep) I tried to be rational and agree to it for the sake of fun, but only on the condition we were all in the room (guys/gals) and I could sit on DH's knee the whole time so she couldn't get to him.
She respected my wishes and left him alone and focussed on his mates instead.
I actually foundf it quite funny to watch. The most 'yucky' thing she did was pull a very long chain from her 'ahem' and make one of the guys take one end and walk with from one end of the room to the other!
But the worst part was she got changed in my bathroom! All I could think was get her out of my bathroom! That is private!
Needless to say I scrubbed the bathroom from top to bottom after everyone left!

ETA:  Forgot to answer the question... No i don't consider it cheating, but as you can see I'm not comfortable with it. I think it has a different catagory to cheating.

Edited by cherub27, 21 May 2007 - 09:10 AM.


#19 ~*Caroline*~

Posted 21 May 2007 - 09:17 AM

I don't class it as cheating but I am not 100% comfortable with the idea of DH seeing one or having acts thrusted (no pun intended) on him like that.

In fact, my ex partner was organising a stripper for his mates 21st.  He asked me to book it.  Back then I was pretty young and pretty insecure.  I ordered a fat-a-gram instead for the guys.

They still think that the stripper parlour got my order wrong.

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Needless to say I doubt they will ever want a stripper again.

#20 Mokar

Posted 21 May 2007 - 09:18 AM

Id be p*ssed if my DF went to a Bucks night and he had been touching a stripper... or stripper touching him. Head in crutch or whatever- he'd be paying for that for months!!

Luckily for me... in the time we have been together- he has only ever been to one bucks night, and he left it early to come home snuggle me.  wub.gif

#21 ange78

Posted 21 May 2007 - 09:23 AM

laughing2.gif Caroline!!

#22 TeamBlue

Posted 21 May 2007 - 09:24 AM

QUOTE
I don't think of it as cheating. I do think of it as crass, vulgar and really quite tedious. My respect for my husband would plummet if he participated willingly in such behaviour. Watching a stripper is one thing, getting up close and personal with her DNA is another.

ditto

#23 Boombox

Posted 21 May 2007 - 09:35 AM

What is with these X rated strippers? They seem more of a freak show than an erotic experience. Many years ago my DH went to a cousins bucks where the stripper inserted vegetables etc. This was with my DH's and the bucks older (60's) fathers there!! Apparently most men were horrified, and thankfully she stayed on a stage and kept her dirty parts to herself.
QUOTE
Vulgar, crass, demeaning, neanderthal.

Agree.

#24 samanthan

Posted 21 May 2007 - 09:57 AM

eewwww most of these stories have made me feel sick sick.gif Ummm probably not cheating but definitely NOT ok.

#25 Nut

Posted 21 May 2007 - 10:13 AM

Well my DH's stripper for his bucks night was really quite skanky and did strange things with barbie dolls (yes, that kind of strange). It was a no touch rule anyway...

Funny though one of his friends yelled out Talley Ho! (she was a cowgirl... best man asked for my opinion but do you think he listened to it???). She thought he called her a filthy ho and nearly got beaten up by her body guard... but anyway!...

My stripper was absolutley gorgeous!!! And there was not a no touch rule... Part of the show was for me to rub oil on his back... so I did... He put my hands on his thighs and all that... It was all in good fun, Paul saw the photos and we all had a good laugh...

Probably the only thing that might have been a little out there was him asking me to put his g-string back on... He had an erection at the time (and what a site that was! Oh my!). I did comply but in such a way that my hands did not touch his genitals.

We actually had a really good chat with him afterwards and he was the nicest guy. Dutch from a very strong religious background, had a girldfriend who was in hospitality... Really lovely guy. We ran into him later when he was doing another show in the city (though this was not full strip) and we were invited in to watch  him again... We had a good laugh when he twirled his sock in the air and threw it to us as we had a discussion previously about how to erotically remove socks... hehehe...




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