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#1 dogmac

Posted 10 May 2007 - 01:34 PM

Sounds lovely, doesn't it, but I am wondering if things like that (Mothers Day teas, Fathers day ditto, christmas parties during the day, etc, etc, etc) are actually such a good idea.

After all, most of the kids are there because their parents are at work.  And it just adds extra pressure on them when you have your child saying "Can you come too, pleeeeeease Mummy.  Everyone else will be there" and kind of isolates the children whose parents CAN'T make it.

Or maybe I'm just bitter because I can't go to the one tomorrow.

But do you think they are a good idea or not?  Theoretically?


#2 butterfli

Posted 10 May 2007 - 01:42 PM

I think if we all lived in a perfect world, where everyone had all the money they needed(and wanted grin.gif ) it would be a great idea. No one would have to either take time off work, or feel left out! JMHO

#3 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 01:44 PM

I think you can't win. If they don't do it, they get shot down for not doing something for mothers day.

I suppose most schools do it for the lower grades so it is something you will need to get use to.

ETA: DS's ELC does it as a breakfast at 8am in an effort to minimise the disruption for working parents.

Edited by JRA, 10 May 2007 - 01:45 PM.

#4 Julie3Girls

Posted 10 May 2007 - 01:46 PM

I think I actually agree that it isn't such a great idea. Playgroup, yes. Daycare, nope. If they want to recognise Mother's day at the daycare, they are much better do a craft activity with the kids "Let's make something for Mummy"

Our daycare does have family events, but not during work hours. Like the Christmas party was on a Friday evening.

#5 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 01:49 PM

I also think the biggest challenge for daycare is which day do they do it. Some children will miss out

#6 diamondsandpearls

Posted 10 May 2007 - 01:51 PM

I think its a bit odd to have it at a daycare, isnt the reason why most kids are in daycare is because their parents have to work?
My DD's daycare made mothers day cards to take home to mum.

#7 foofoo

Posted 10 May 2007 - 01:52 PM

The childcare centre DS goes to have breakfast for mother's and father's day, it runs from 7.00 to 9.00.  They also have a morning tea for those that couldn't make breaky.  Last one DH took DS at 7.00 and stayed to 7.45 and still made it to work on time.

#8 muser

Posted 10 May 2007 - 02:14 PM

I think it's a nice idea but I think alot of kids will crack it when their parent leaves again *after lunch* or the afternoon tea.
Our daycare is having a lunch week next week with the parents. I'm going because I'm on leave next week anyway and I've never had the chance to be involved before due to work, but I wonder what DS will do when I tell him "I'm going now, but will be back later".   unsure.gif

#9 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 02:15 PM

I think it's a nice idea but I think alot of kids will crack it when their parent leaves again *after lunch* or the afternoon tea.

At ELC (for 3yos) last year, none did.

#10 ~mimo~

Posted 10 May 2007 - 02:30 PM

I thought they were going to try and do something different after this happened at Christmas??

#11 mischiefmaker

Posted 10 May 2007 - 02:30 PM

We went to a Mother's Day morning tea at DS's daycare last Saturday. Being a weekend, most parents were able to make it.

If it had been held on a week day, most wouldn't have been able to make it.

#12 cookieluck

Posted 10 May 2007 - 02:35 PM

Our centre does them. I think they are a great idea. Yes, kids are in daycare because their parents work, but our afternoon tea is at 3:30pm so it just means slipping away a bit early on that day and making it up at another time. Also, we have told the families that if their mum canít come then they can bring a grandmother- keeps it wider open.

Also, from what Iíve seen of these things, the kids donít really seem to care if their parents arenít there. These are under 5ís and they just roll with the punches. I havenít seen anyone feeling left out or crying. They are all just having fun and enjoying the cake.

#13 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 02:39 PM

I think it's a bit weird to get the mothers there at the same time.

Would it be weird when school does it?

#14 ~ Cez ~

Posted 10 May 2007 - 07:15 PM

Our daycare is having a Mother's Day morning tea tomorrow morning from 10.00 - 11.00am. Unfortunately I start work at 8am so won't be able to go.

#15 TwistedIvy

Posted 10 May 2007 - 07:38 PM

Maybe they are trying to get the working parents into practice of taking small bits of time off to attend those things important to their children  wink.gif

Maybe by the time your kids are competing in school sports carnivals or plays etc. you'll have it down pat  ph34r.gif

#16 Wen1965

Posted 10 May 2007 - 07:45 PM

I do think it is odd for daycare as the majority of Mothers work.  At school they do it, probably a hangover from the days when all Mums were at home.

When both boys  were in preschool (4yo) it was afternoon tea for Mothers Day which meant a lot of Mum's have to get an afternoon off but for father's day it is breakfast so they can go to work.

I complain about the equality in that one every year.

I miss out on an afternoon of pampering tomorrow as I have to work.  Luckily DS has a step mum who can go so he won't be sitting alone feeling sad that Mum can't be there cry1.gif .

#17 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 07:56 PM

Wendy, that is odd. We have it in the morning for both mums and dads. I too would be p*ssed off it was morning for one, and afternoon for the other.

Only grandparents is not at 8am

#18 Consciente

Posted 10 May 2007 - 08:28 PM

That's the only thing I hated about DS's last daycare they would set it up and then when no one would turn up because they were working, they'd send rude little digs home in the news letter. I never forget the one that said, "obviously the najority of you don't have an interest in what we do here for your child, considering only 5 of you turned up"  wacko.gif it was at 4:30 in the afternoon, most people finish work around 5.

I have one for DS tomorrow and felt a little sad because I thought I'd have to miss it, but I managed to hold off on the start date for my job until Monday lol.

JRA: I totally misread your post (it's been a long day!) I was wondering why they would do it to lower grades as opposed to in the lower grades  laughing2.gif .

#19 papilio

Posted 10 May 2007 - 09:05 PM

they'd send rude little digs home in the news letter. I never forget the one that said, "obviously the najority of you don't have an interest in what we do here for your child, considering only 5 of you turned up" wacko.gif it was at 4:30 in the afternoon, most people finish work around 5.

That's terrible!  I'd be having something to say about that!  

At this point in time, the organisation I work for is family friendly.  If an event like this occured, I'd attend amd then make up the extra hours later.  

That's an awfully helpful post there, two angel boys.   rolleyes.gif

#20 Jen1

Posted 10 May 2007 - 09:12 PM

When I use to work in CC we use to do the present things. The only time for concerts were pretty much christmas time and that was later in the afternoon.  I wouldn't be too happy about the afternoon tea thing, I think the weekends would be more appropriate for families to make it along.

#21 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 09:14 PM

Seriously, can I ask what people are going to do when children are doing sports, concerts etc etc at school?

I am not being difficult, just intrigued.

#22 papilio

Posted 10 May 2007 - 09:20 PM

Anna, what do you want working parents to say?  We are just going to ignore our children's needs and stay at work because we want to?  Do you really think that?

I dare say that most parents, if they possibly can, will attend their child's special events.  Unfortunately, not all of us have a choice.  Oh, sorry, this is EB, where we all have a choice.  rolleyes.gif  I'll stop working now, we'll go and live under a bridge so that I can attend my children's special events.  Oh wait, if I'm not working, W won't need to be in child care and I can spend all of my time with her.  

Seriously, our children will be attending the school that A works at, so he will be able to attend them, and I will if it is at all possible.

#23 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 09:25 PM

Candi, I am sorry I am just trying to understand.

In the other thread happening at the moment a lot of people were complaining about their parents not attending these sort of things (well it was about sports) when they were children.

I just am trying to work out how people work.

I am not saying it easy, I suppose it comes from many of the discussions that my friends have had where the agreement is always that it is easier to work prior to going to school. Once they start school there is a lot more pressure on the parents/carers to "do things".


I suppose should schools start really doing all "activities" one weekends. For many of these things it is an option. Is that what people would prefer?

Edited by JRA, 10 May 2007 - 09:26 PM.

#24 papilio

Posted 10 May 2007 - 09:34 PM

Anna, I just feel like it's pick on the working parents week. I haven't read the other thread and hated sport as a child, so don't have those issues.

I'm sure that every working couple will do it differently.  As I said, A will probably be more involved in our children's schooling, by virtue of the fact that he works there.  The school doesn't even  require parents to do canteen duty, they have a refectory (?) so at least one school seems to be understanding of the issues that working parents face.

#25 JRA

Posted 10 May 2007 - 09:36 PM

I think canteen duty is becoming a thing of the past, as much for the health regulations as the other.

Sorry, I don't want to pick on working parents, god, that is the last thing I want to do. I suppose my concern is more how our society is going to deal with these issues where more and more both parents work.

It really comes down to how we get to a family friendly workplace for all

Edited by JRA, 10 May 2007 - 09:37 PM.

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