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BFP in the time of COVID


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#1 Daffy2016

Posted 01 April 2020 - 01:45 PM

Pretty much what it says.

I’m about five weeks, got a BFP last week. I’ve had a previous mc  (before DD 2yo) so not totally convinced this one will stick.

But goodness this is a stupid time to be pregnant. I’m worried about health implications (luckily we’re in a relatively low-risk area, whatever that means now), about finances and about just making a stupid decision to try when the world is crazy.

I know in the big picture I’m so so lucky to even have a BFP and I’m trying to keep that in mind, but gosh it’s hard.

#2 blackcat20

Posted 01 April 2020 - 02:49 PM

It's a tricky time. We're planning to try in a couple of months and I really don't want to put it off, as I'm not getting any younger. Good luck, I hope it sticks and all this Covid business goes away soon.

#3 Wonderstruck

Posted 01 April 2020 - 02:56 PM

Hi Daffy2016.

I'll be 9 weeks on Friday. Ours was IVF and we started the process COVID was a slightly smaller concern but we'd put off trying for no.2 for a number of reasons for so long we didn't want to wait any longer and who knows how long we'd have to wait.

Just yesterday I had a bleeding scare, totally non-covid related and it really put things in perspective. All is well with bub thankfully.

Enjoy your pregnancy and take the necessary precautions. A BFP is still worth celebrating and hopefully things will settle soon too.

Congratulations!

#4 Daffy2016

Posted 06 April 2020 - 03:04 PM

Thanks Blackcat and wonderstruck. I went and got bloods today and the nurse was pretty judgy- started off with ‘well THIS is a bad time...’. Can only imagine if she’s said that to someone who has had a tough TTC journey. I wish people would think before they speak.

#5 blackcat20

Posted 06 April 2020 - 03:42 PM

View PostDaffy2016, on 06 April 2020 - 03:04 PM, said:

Thanks Blackcat and wonderstruck. I went and got bloods today and the nurse was pretty judgy- started off with ‘well THIS is a bad time...’. Can only imagine if she’s said that to someone who has had a tough TTC journey. I wish people would think before they speak.

Geez they really do need to think sometimes. Sure its not an ideal time but our bodies aren't going to wait. Fingers crossed for good results.

#6 Wonderstruck

Posted 06 April 2020 - 03:48 PM

View PostDaffy2016, on 06 April 2020 - 03:04 PM, said:

Thanks Blackcat and wonderstruck. I went and got bloods today and the nurse was pretty judgy- started off with ‘well THIS is a bad time...’. Can only imagine if she’s said that to someone who has had a tough TTC journey. I wish people would think before they speak.

That's horrible Daffy. I hope you're ok.

#7 eigne

Posted 06 April 2020 - 04:08 PM

I’m sorry she said that. She shouldn’t have.

I am about 6 weeks along myself so I am in the same boat as you.

#8 eigne

Posted 06 April 2020 - 04:10 PM

oops double post

Edited by eigne, 06 April 2020 - 04:10 PM.


#9 Daffy2016

Posted 12 May 2020 - 10:57 AM

So I’m now 10 weeks along and I’ve just heard my work hours/pay may be reduced and possibly leave provisions (incl mat leave) too.

I’m quietly freaking out as I don’t know how we’ll pay the bills, don’t want to send an infant to daycare etc etc.

At the same time I feel very ungrateful as I know I should be celebrating a pregnancy.

#10 maryanneK

Posted 12 May 2020 - 11:46 AM

Im sorry, thats really hard. I know if must be so difficult not but try not to worry about the what ifs.
I stressed SO MUCH about leave and finances and everything through my pregnancy (first one especially) and everything was fine. At the time I felt like I didnt have enough paid leave after the birth and I felt sad and resentful about it, but it all seems like a big fuss over nothing now. I tortured myself throughout the pregnancy, lying awake at night making calculations, working things out to the last detail - in the end it really didnt matter, and I wasted a lot of angst over nothing.
Its normal and natural to worry at the moment. Just try and enjoy the special pregnancy time and dont feel bad if you arent.

#11 Wonderstruck

Posted 12 May 2020 - 12:46 PM

What you're feeling is totally normal Daffy2016.

Its hard as this unexpectedness has caused so many flow on effects. DH and I currently are ok job wise but COVID is affecting our house hunting and how the lenders view our borrowing capacity and focusing more on my pregnancy. It's just added a bit of worry we didn't need and may impact what and if we can buy in an already hard market.

Try not to focus on the what it's now. It's a possibility but not confirmed yet right? So many people will be in the same boat which is awful but I hope that things continue to improve.

It's normal to have these worries, covid or not. Somehow you get by.

Try to enjoy and relax. You'll find a way!




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