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#1 chloe_belle

Posted 22 March 2020 - 11:49 PM

Hi Mums

I am looking for some advice. I have an almost 8 month old baby who for the last 2 months has started waking several times during the night. The only way I can settle him is breastfeeding to sleep. Basically for all of his sleeps he is fed to sleep.

Front approx 3-6 months he slept through the night consistently. He is at top 85th percentile in weight and is fully breastfed with solids. He’s not a big solid eater. From all accounts it doesn’t look like his waking up has anything to do with hunger or lack of weight gain.

I have spoken to a sleep specialist about the issue and she suggested that the waking up and needing to be fed through the night has become a habit and he is unable to self soothe so relies on the breastfeed. If i  help him learn to self soothe he shouldn’t wake during the night for a feed.

Just wanting some different perspectives and ideas on this. I have tried to rock, cuddle, pat and shush before I offer the breast during the night but he just gets more upset until I feed him.

Or if you have any magic tricks that worked wonders for you please share!

From a very tired mum! 😴😴

#2 Islander

Posted 23 March 2020 - 05:32 AM

Do you have a partner? With all of my kids, night weaning them reduced wakings massively but if I tried to settle them another way they’d get furious. What worked well for us is that I go stay at a friends house from 10pm to 6am for three nights and my partner settles them. In general, first night horrible then other two nights much much better.

#3 Steggles66

Posted 23 March 2020 - 08:42 AM

Maybe not what you wanted to hear but just wanted to say Chloe_Belle that it is completely normal for babies to wake multiple times in a night and be feed on the breast back to sleep. It is the way most babies around the world get to sleep.  Check out the Milk Meg for good tips as to how to get as much sleep as possible.

#4 Zeppelina

Posted 23 March 2020 - 09:21 AM

It's also completely normal for a very tired mother to say "I can't deal with this, this is too much" and ask for help to change things.

OP I second Islander's suggestion of getting your partner, if there is one around, to try doing overnight settling for a few nights. Your baby knows you bring the milk and is less likely to settle for anything other than a breastfeed with you. If someone else is settling them, it will still be hard but baby is more likely to settle.

Did the sleep specialist give you any detailed advice on how to achieve 'self-soothing'? It doesn't have to be a 'leave baby to cry' scenario at all, but routine and consistency are key (and that's super hard when you're exhausted and both you baby know the milk is *right there*.)

#5 JustMyGirl

Posted 23 March 2020 - 08:45 PM

Agree with Islander and Zeppelina, but we still managed to do it without me going anywhere. Yes DD was very angry for 2-3 nights but then started sleeping through. We used patting and shushing until quiet, then leave the room for up to 2 minutes, repeat again and again until asleep. It worked well for us. It may work for you too.
you deserve sleep.

#6 Hands Up

Posted 23 March 2020 - 09:04 PM

Our second baby started waking 2-3 times a night at eight months, after sleeping through for five months solid!

Ripped off!

He was bottle fed at that point. DH and I would take turns giving him a half bottle, changing his nappy and putting him back to bed awake. That went on for a while I’m afraid.

Once he got to 15 months we stopped the milk at night as he was very well established on solids and still having three bottles a day. The battles then began. My god. It became obvious he just wanted a cuddle and comfort. He often ended up in our bed from 2am onwards.

Then one night, just after he turned two, he slept through. And never woke up again. I have no idea why. Kids. Who’d have ‘em?!

#7 chloe_belle

Posted 24 March 2020 - 11:47 PM

View PostIslander, on 23 March 2020 - 05:32 AM, said:

Do you have a partner? With all of my kids, night weaning them reduced wakings massively but if I tried to settle them another way they’d get furious. What worked well for us is that I go stay at a friends house from 10pm to 6am for three nights and my partner settles them. In general, first night horrible then other two nights much much better.

We are trialing this with me being at home. Only a few hours in and there’s been alot of crying! It’s so hard to not just feed for comfort when you know that will quickly put them back to sleep!

#8 Islander

Posted 25 March 2020 - 06:37 AM

Oh I feel for you. That’s why I had to leave the house. We all found it easier without my crazy emotions thrown in!! Hope you’re ok today.

#9 Crazyone26989

Posted 25 March 2020 - 10:26 AM

My 9 month old self settles 90% of the time but he will still wake once for a feed during the night. So self settling isn’t necessarily the answer in my experience.

#10 lucky 2

Posted 25 March 2020 - 02:03 PM

It is normal for many babies to wake and bf during the night 6 + months. Your baby is still young and needs a few more months to be very established on solids.
My dd seemed to be bothered by teething at that age.
Waking constantly for feeds is tiring, hopefully it will be short-lived.
In this time of "don't go out" hopefully you can catch up on sleep at other times. ?
Feed if it seems the easiest way to cope atm.

#11 Apageintime

Posted 25 March 2020 - 06:34 PM

8-9 months is a huge time for sleep to go crazy.

It is very very normal for your baby to wake and need to be comforted back to sleep.


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