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#1 Autumn Tones

Posted 21 January 2020 - 07:36 PM

Did anyone have an ex who wasn't interested in marriage, only to end up marrying the next girl ?

#2 gracie1978

Posted 21 January 2020 - 07:37 PM

My friend..
His last FIVE girlfriends have all married the next guy !

#3 Lime-Polka-Dot

Posted 21 January 2020 - 07:39 PM

View Postgracie1978, on 21 January 2020 - 07:37 PM, said:

My friend..
His last FIVE girlfriends have all married the next guy !

Like that movie, Good luck Chuck.

#4 XieXie

Posted 21 January 2020 - 08:03 PM

Yep, me! Together nine years, two kids and a mortgage, and through it all he always maintained he would never get married, was an atheist, didn’t believe in it, didn’t understand why people would (was quite scathing!), his own parents had a hideous marriage so why would he, just a piece of paper blah blah blah

There was no pressure on him from me to get married (being the centre of attention like that on a wedding day is kind of nightmare to me) so this was all quite unprompted.

The moment I found out about ‘his wife’ I practically spat out my coffee! It just sounded so farcical.

#5 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 21 January 2020 - 08:04 PM

I'm the next woman.  He married me.

#6 ~Jolly_F~

Posted 21 January 2020 - 08:12 PM

I didnt want to marry my ex but I met DH a couple of months later and I knew he was the man I would marry.

I am glad I didnt settle.

It happens, you and them werent meant to be and the next relationship was the one.

#7 petal71

Posted 21 January 2020 - 08:19 PM

I bet this will be my ex. We were together over 10 yrs, and marriage never came up - we were both just happy (well initially) as is. Towards the end I used to fear that he would ask me for DS's sake as I knew I wouldn't be able to accept as the relationship had deteriorated so much.

Then strangely enough, when I ended it he made comments about me never having wanted to marry him. Not strictly true as I would have in the first few years before it went sour, but he never asked or gave any indication he wanted to.

But that comment struck me as him expressing something important to him, so I bet next time around he will get hitched. Good luck to her...

#8 LadyGreyTea

Posted 21 January 2020 - 08:19 PM

I was with my ex for nearly 5 years until I dumped him because of his reluctance to commit. He often talked of marriage, but did nothing about it.
I thought he just wasn't ready.

Then married his next girlfriend about 2 years into their relationship. I sometimes wonder if he only married her for fear of being dumped again, or maybe I wasn't the one for him, but he was too afraid to tell me.

#9 -Emissary-

Posted 21 January 2020 - 08:21 PM

My DH.

He was together with his ex for 10 years and wasn’t ready for marriage. She broke up with him. I came along about a year later. He was the one who wanted to get married.

He just wasn’t ready in his 20s to settle down.

#10 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 21 January 2020 - 08:55 PM

I have several lovely friends who that happened to - with the guy for a couple of years in their late 20s, relationship ended and the guy got a new girlfriend and got married with unseemly haste.  One of those women has not gone on to have a marriage/de facto relationship and they are now late 30s.

#11 IamtheMumma

Posted 21 January 2020 - 09:02 PM

My ex's ex.

She was beyond livid when she found out I was pregnant. She'd been begging him for a baby. Every guy she'd been with would go on to marry or have a child with the next woman. She was desperate for both. The ex used to tell me every 2-3 months that she was engaged again. I used feel for her as she was desperate for love and happiness but she self sabotaged herself (drugs). When ex and I split, she told him she'd happily get back with him and they could raise my DS together. She wanted him to tell me they were going to have DS full time and I could have visitation. Not ...king likely. Fortunately he didn't want her back.

#12 **Xena**

Posted 21 January 2020 - 09:41 PM

My boyfriend from when I was 16-18 years old married the girl he cheated on me with.

#13 27plus

Posted 21 January 2020 - 09:48 PM

I am interested in your question.

Why do you ask?

#14 Autumn Tones

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:01 PM

View Post27plus, on 21 January 2020 - 09:48 PM, said:

I am interested in your question.

Why do you ask?

Just makes me wonder why some guys are quick to marry the next person when they didn't want to marry the person they were with initially

#15 27plus

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:05 PM

View PostAutumn Tones, on 21 January 2020 - 10:01 PM, said:

Just makes me wonder why some guys are quick to marry the next person when they didn't want to marry the person they were with initially

My answer would depend on the circumstances.

I "married" the guy within 12 months of meeting, after many guys, and after one I was with for 5 years.

Been together now for 35 years.

#16 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:10 PM

View PostAutumn Tones, on 21 January 2020 - 10:01 PM, said:

Just makes me wonder why some guys are quick to marry the next person when they didn't want to marry the person they were with initially

Probably because they loved and felt happier with the next person?  It had nothing to do with his previous partner, he didn't want to marry her.

28 years here.

#17 Tinkle Splashes

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:15 PM

View PostAcidulous Osprey, on 21 January 2020 - 08:04 PM, said:

I'm the next woman.  He married me.

Isn’t that true for everyone who is married though, unless their spouse hadn’t been in any previous relationships?

#18 ~Jolly_F~

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:22 PM

View PostAutumn Tones, on 21 January 2020 - 10:01 PM, said:



Just makes me wonder why some guys are quick to marry the next person when they didn't want to marry the person they were with initially

They didn’t love them. They didn’t see a future with them. They next chick offered them something the previous one didn’t.

The list is endless.

Do you wonder the same about women who do the same thing?

#19 LadyGreyTea

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:35 PM

View Post~Jolly_F~, on 21 January 2020 - 10:22 PM, said:



They didn’t love them. They didn’t see a future with them. They next chick offered them something the previous one didn’t.

The list is endless.

Do you wonder the same about women who do the same thing?

Edited by LadyGreyTea, 21 January 2020 - 10:37 PM.


#20 PurpleWitch

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:37 PM

Is marriage some kind of prize?

#21 Autumn Tones

Posted 21 January 2020 - 10:43 PM

View PostPurpleWitch, on 21 January 2020 - 10:37 PM, said:

Is marriage some kind of prize?
No but it is important to some people

#22 -Emissary-

Posted 21 January 2020 - 11:05 PM

View PostAutumn Tones, on 21 January 2020 - 10:01 PM, said:



Just makes me wonder why some guys are quick to marry the next person when they didn't want to marry the person they were with initially

Because it wasn’t the right person or the right time.

I kind of understand why you’re asking and framed it the way you do. Society still expects men to be the one to pop the question so therefore it feels like they are the one who are in control and makes the decision of when to get married.

Edited by -Emissary-, 21 January 2020 - 11:09 PM.


#23 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 21 January 2020 - 11:11 PM

View PostTinkle Splashes, on 21 January 2020 - 10:15 PM, said:



Isn’t that true for everyone who is married though, unless their spouse hadn’t been in any previous relationships?

Not necessarily, neither DH or I had been in a significant relationship for quite a while before we met, but had both had a couple of short dating-type relationships in the year previously. I don’t imagine that counts.

#24 Chchgirl

Posted 21 January 2020 - 11:30 PM

I never wanted to marry anyone I went out with before him.  I wasn't even sure if I wanted to actually get married at all.

I just wasn't ready and felt too young.

#25 Lucrezia Bauble

Posted 21 January 2020 - 11:49 PM

View PostAutumn Tones, on 21 January 2020 - 10:01 PM, said:



Just makes me wonder why some guys are quick to marry the next person when they didn't want to marry the person they were with initially

i always assume it’s because they found someone better, they were “settling” with the first one, happy to stick around for sh*ts and giggles but not prepared to commit in case someone better comes along. boom, someone does - and there you have it.

Edited by Lucrezia Bauble, 21 January 2020 - 11:50 PM.





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