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#1 JBH

Posted 10 December 2019 - 08:59 PM

Interested to know what others would have done in my neighbour’s situation.

I received a parcel from Amazon. I’ve bought a few things from Amazon for Christmas, so I didn’t open it immediately. When I opened it a couple of days later, it was clear it wasn’t meant for me. It didn’t actually have an address label on the outside, and it had been ordered as a gift, so instead of an invoice, it had a gift slip that said “To Jonathon, From Kathy and Joan”, but it included an order number. I called Amazon and spent quite a while on the phone. They said they could not tell me where it was supposed to be delivered for privacy reasons, but the intended recipient had already noted it was not received, and would be sent another, and I could keep this one. I was pretty pleased, because it was worth about $400 and was an item I would use.

When DH got home I told him my great tale of luck, he took one look at the gift label and said that Jonathon is the name of the neighbour two doors down and he has met his daughter Kathy, so it’s probably theirs. We got in touch and it was for him. He had already got the replacement and said great, bring the other one and he could give it to his son for Christmas. I’ll admit - I was a tiny bit miffed. I wouldn’t have been if he’d said he was returning it to Amazon or donating it. I don’t really think I have any right to be miffed, after all, it wasn’t mine, but hey i’m human. What would others have done in my neighbour’s shoes?

Edit - before I worked out who it was for, I actually called Amazon twice to see if they wanted it returned, and they were adamant they didn’t. I also asked if the individual who delivered it would have to bear the replacement cost, but the person on the other end of the phone thought it was odd that I asked that.

Edited by JBH, 10 December 2019 - 09:31 PM.


#2 seayork2002

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:02 PM

I would have called amazon myself as the actual receiver than took it from there

#3 JBH

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:04 PM

View Postseayork2002, on 10 December 2019 - 09:02 PM, said:

I would have called amazon myself as the actual receiver than took it from there

Well they did that to say they hadn’t received it. It’s just that I called too because I would never just keep the parcel that wasn’t mine thinking the intended recipient might then not get one.

Edit - maybe you mean in my position, and yes, that’s exactly what I did.

Edited by JBH, 10 December 2019 - 09:04 PM.


#4 seayork2002

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:08 PM

Sorry I meant if it was actually my parcel I would call amazon back myself and see what they said

#5 born.a.girl

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:09 PM

I think I'd feel exactly the way you have.

You're not entitled to it, he is as the one who should have received it in the first place, and shouldn't have had to chase it up.

But ... once you've had a bit of a windfall it's understandable that you're a bit crestfallen than it's been whipped away from you.


I haven't the faintest idea what I'd do in his shoes, because I don't know either of your circumstances, or his son's circumstances.  That would influenced me significantly.

#6 JBH

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:16 PM

View Postborn.a.girl, on 10 December 2019 - 09:09 PM, said:

I think I'd feel exactly the way you have.

You're not entitled to it, he is as the one who should have received it in the first place, and shouldn't have had to chase it up.

But ... once you've had a bit of a windfall it's understandable that you're a bit crestfallen than it's been whipped away from you.


I haven't the faintest idea what I'd do in his shoes, because I don't know either of your circumstances, or his son's circumstances.  That would influenced me significantly.

True - my level of miffed-ness is probably unconsciously influenced by his lovely home and his son’s highly expensive European car. I suspect (and hope) i would be overtaken by the warm fuzzies if Jonathon were an old aged pensioner finally able to afford something nice
for his son!

#7 blackcat20

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:28 PM

He got what was paid for and Amazon said you could have it....so I'd keep it. Cheeky but no one's missing out.

#8 seayork2002

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:30 PM

I would not think I was more entitled to keep it because of the way the actual parcel holder lived I would not feel better because I can convince myself they are 'rich so it makes it ok.



#9 LightPink

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:32 PM

I think you should get to keep it as Amazon sent him a new one and told you to keep that one, not him. I wouldn’t have handed it over and I think it’s a bit much of him to just assume he gets both of them.

With the recipient found I’d have said ok I’ll contact Amazon again about this one, they probably still would have told you to keep it or they could choose to have it sent back.

#10 JBH

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:33 PM

View Postseayork2002, on 10 December 2019 - 09:30 PM, said:

I would not think I was more entitled to keep it because of the way the actual parcel holder lived I would not feel better because I can convince myself they are 'rich so it makes it ok.

You’re right of course, and I note I feel entirely comfortable with the steps I took and if I turned back time I would still tell Jonathon I had the parcel, just a bit surprised he moved so quickly to keeping both.
Frankly I think most people would say thanks i’ll return/donate it (even though they might not ultimately do either).

And if i’m honest, I could afford one, I just can’t justify it to myself.

Edited by JBH, 10 December 2019 - 09:34 PM.


#11 Paddlepop

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:36 PM

You should have lied to the neighbour and told him that you'd already sent it back, then kept it for yourself.

He's got the replacement so he hasn't missed out on anything, Amazon doesn't want back the one you have and told you to keep it so I think you could have kept it with a clear conscience.

#12 CallMeFeral

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:38 PM

I'd be miffed too. It's a windfall, and is no more his than yours, but he seems to have assumed it's his.

If anything, come to the crunch, it's yours, because if you guys hadn't chased them down that's how the cards would have fallen. And possession being 9/10 of the law type thing.

TBH I can't think what made him think he had the right to have it. If I heard that my parcel had gone to someone's house and I had a new one, I would not think of the lost parcel as mine anymore. But perhaps that's in the phrasing of how it was raised, like if someone said "hey we have your parcel, shall we bring it over?" then I'd be more likely to say "yeah, sure that'd be great" even if I already had a spare, just because it's easier and sounds like they don't want it.

#13 Tokra

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:39 PM

I think once I knew that Amazon were sending another and had told me to keep it, I just would have kept it and not said anything. I can't see how that would be wrong!

#14 seayork2002

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:41 PM

View PostJBH, on 10 December 2019 - 09:33 PM, said:



You’re right of course, and I note I feel entirely comfortable with the steps I took and if I turned back time I would still tell Jonathon I had the parcel, just a bit surprised he moved so quickly to keeping both.
Frankly I think most people would say thanks i’ll return/donate it (even though they might not ultimately do either).

And if i’m honest, I could afford one, I just can’t justify it to myself.

If he said to me 'you keep it' i would have no problems! if I actually wanted too keep it or tool it took it charity but I would not have lied.


#15 JBH

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:42 PM

View PostCallMeFeral, on 10 December 2019 - 09:38 PM, said:

I'd be miffed too. It's a windfall, and is no more his than yours, but he seems to have assumed it's his.

If anything, come to the crunch, it's yours, because if you guys hadn't chased them down that's how the cards would have fallen. And possession being 9/10 of the law type thing.

TBH I can't think what made him think he had the right to have it. If I heard that my parcel had gone to someone's house and I had a new one, I would not think of the lost parcel as mine anymore. But perhaps that's in the phrasing of how it was raised, like if someone said "hey we have your parcel, shall we bring it over?" then I'd be more likely to say "yeah, sure that'd be great" even if I already had a spare, just because it's easier and sounds like they don't want it.

Good point. DH spoke to him and I think it did sound a bit like that. DH must be a better person than me because he is surprised I am miffed and is firmly of the view we wouldn’t have kept it and would have donated it to the kids’ school collection for asylum seekers, so now I am
miffed on behalf of the asylum seekers aka miffed and a little bit self righteous.

#16 Kallie88

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:46 PM

Yeah I dunno, knowing that they'd been sent a replacement I probably wouldn't have said anything. You'd done all the right things and they weren't missing out.

#17 CallMeFeral

Posted 10 December 2019 - 09:47 PM

:rofl:

Miffed and self righteous for the asylum seekers is so much more comfortable to carry off than miffed for personal gain!

#18 Dianalynch

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:12 PM

we have a natural loss aversion, you're only reacting in line with how humans are wired.

You had the gain, now are suffering through the loss. clearly the only thing to do is to treat yourself in some way to make up for it :)

#19 Freddie'sMum

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:14 PM

Yeah it wouldn't sit well with me to keep something that (a) I hadn't paid for and (b) was meant to be going to someone else - and yes I know that Amazon had then sent a replacement to the proper intended receiver.

I actually wouldn't want to keep it.

You can tell I failed Capitalism 101, right?

#20 SeaPrincess

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:15 PM

What address was on the outside of the package? Surely your neighbours know their address and had it addressed to themselves? I’d have dropped it off at the right address in the first place.

#21 Cat12

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:16 PM

Just because I’m nosy - what was it?

#22 Tokra

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:26 PM

View PostSeaPrincess, on 10 December 2019 - 10:15 PM, said:

What address was on the outside of the package? Surely your neighbours know their address and had it addressed to themselves? I’d have dropped it off at the right address in the first place.

The OP said it didn't have an address label.

#23 luke's mummu

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:32 PM

I’d be a bit miffed for all the Time and effort you’ve put in- I think your neighbour should buy you a box of chocolates! But otherwise no, you didn’t pay for the product, so no logical reason to expect it for free.

I live in a suburb with lots of streets starting with “W” so we often get letters/parcels for the wrong address. Last parcel took me about 1/2 hour to look up where they live, and walk there that evening ( car was at mechanic). When I rang the doorbell, the man must have thought I was a courier working late, and just grunted at me. No thanks at all. (I did tell him it had been left at my door by mistake). I was a little miffed, and thought why didn’t I just leave it at my front door for weeks and let the courier company sort it out.

Edited by luke's mummu, 10 December 2019 - 10:51 PM.


#24 RichardParker

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:43 PM

It’s  actually a win because now you can be all superior in the knowledge that had the owner been generous, then you could have been generous for the asylum seekers.  Now you don’t have to give away to charity something you wanted to keep, AND you get to blame someone else for it. It’s HIS stinginess, not yours which prevents an asylum seeker receiving a $400 widget.

It’s also your DH’s fault, for blowing your cover. Now he should buy one for you for Christmas.

Meanwhile, what a great discovery for a way to scam Amazon for two for the price of one...

Edited by RichardParker, 10 December 2019 - 10:44 PM.


#25 **Tiger*Filly**

Posted 10 December 2019 - 10:50 PM

Since Amazon said to keep it,  and it's their mistake,  and they're a huge company that could easily wear the cost of postage back to them but obviously don't want to... I would very happily keep it without the slightest twinge of conscience. I would tell the neighbor it isn't his,  because it isn't. He got his.
I have learned from many years on EB that my natural inclination is not as charitable and super honest as many EBers claim theirs to be. I sometimes wonder if I hadn't been brought up with such strong Christian parents if I wouldn't tend towards criminal actually




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