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#1 Cheesy Sanga

Posted 18 November 2019 - 09:35 PM

Is it usual to take a sympathy card to a church funeral? Or would you mail it to the family?

#2 rosie28

Posted 18 November 2019 - 09:39 PM

I’d take it to the funeral along with flowers (was r a donation to whatever charity the family has chosen), but possibly hand it over at the wake.

#3 Silver Girl

Posted 18 November 2019 - 09:40 PM

I always do. I hand the card to the funeral director staff to give to the bereaved.

#4 ~Jolly_F~

Posted 18 November 2019 - 09:42 PM

I have never taken a card to a funeral.. are you meant too?

#5 FuzzyChocolateToes

Posted 18 November 2019 - 09:44 PM

I would post it. I don't recall cards being brought to any of the funerals I've been involved in.

Edited by FuzzyChocolateToes, 18 November 2019 - 09:44 PM.

#6 ipsee

Posted 18 November 2019 - 09:44 PM

I only send a card if I can't attend the funeral. Now I'm not sure what you are meant to do.

#7 boysescakes

Posted 18 November 2019 - 10:06 PM

My father passed last year. We didn’t receive any cards at the funeral.
A bunch of flowers was bought (which may have had a small card), but my Mum received cards and flowers directly to her home.
I never even considered that you would take or receive a card.
So much consumes you on the day, I think that perhaps posting it or giving to the funeral director (if you want to give something on the day) is the best idea.
We didn’t have flowers for my dads funeral. We actually put honkey nuts on his coffin as it was more fitting to my dad and the bush life he lead.
I don’t think it is really wrong either way.

#8 Lunafreya

Posted 18 November 2019 - 10:08 PM

I have sent cards when I couldn’t be at the funeral.

#9 HRH Countrymel

Posted 18 November 2019 - 10:17 PM

Mail to the home.
Never seen people take them to the service.

#10 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 18 November 2019 - 10:23 PM

View PostCheesy Sanga, on 18 November 2019 - 09:35 PM, said:

Is it usual to take a sympathy card to a church funeral? Or would you mail it to the family?
I mail it as soon as I hear about the death.
I have never even thought to take a sympathy card to a funeral.

#11 Mum of a miracle

Posted 19 November 2019 - 12:16 AM

I think we have for the one that wasn't family all the rest I've ever been to have all been family we got flowers and cards which was lovely.

#12 BadCat

Posted 19 November 2019 - 05:25 AM

I've never done a card for a funeral.  If I did, I'd post it.

#13 Jersey Caramel

Posted 19 November 2019 - 06:37 AM

I took a card to a funeral of a work colleague where I didn't know the family to be able to send it to the house.  From memory there was a condolence book and I just put it inside the cover (there were a few others who did the same).

#14 lozoodle

Posted 19 November 2019 - 06:50 AM

I've never taken a card, i would mail it.

#15 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 19 November 2019 - 06:50 AM

View PostJersey Caramel, on 19 November 2019 - 06:37 AM, said:

I took a card to a funeral of a work colleague where I didn't know the family to be able to send it to the house.  From memory there was a condolence book and I just put it inside the cover (there were a few others who did the same).
Good point. I have always known where to post a sympathy card. I could see how easily the above situation would occur (or similar) and think it's a great solution to simply leave the sympathy card with the condolence book.

#16 born.a.girl

Posted 19 November 2019 - 07:10 AM

I've only ever posted.

#17 Gudrun

Posted 19 November 2019 - 08:11 AM


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