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Posted 06 November 2019 - 08:04 PM
Hi everyone, I'm 12 months PP and after having abdominal separation since my pregnancy, I have just discovered I have what's most likely a para-umbilical hernia. I'm just wondering if anybody else has had these and if you could share with me any advice or experience. It looks like I'm going to have to have surgery to fix it and then several weeks of being unable to lift. Followed by probably needing to rebuild my core in the hopes of not having it relapse. I'm wondering how to cope with looking after my little one. I will probably have family support but I would like to be able to continue doing things with/for him as much as I can.
Posted 07 November 2019 - 05:24 AM
I’m not sure if it’s the same thing, but I had an umbilical hernia diagnosed when I was pregnant.
I’ve copy-pasted a reply I wrote to someone else ages ago:
I had it repaired when DD was a few months old. No idea what the wait time would have been, because I went private and planned it in advance based on how well recovered I’d be post-birth, etc.
I stayed overnight in hospital. I think that was always the plan, but it was definitely necessary because my surgery was originally scheduled for about midday and kept getting pushed back, so it was 10:30pm by the time I came back up to the ward.
I needed a couple of rest days at home before I felt ready to get majorly up and about afterwards (probably not helped by the long fasting time caused by the delayed surgery, the fact I was still breastfeeding DD, and I had a crappy reaction to the first painkiller they gave me afterwards).
Although mine was not intended to be keyhole surgery, the whole scar is almost completely hidden in my bellybutton. I always had an innie, but it was a very saggy innie post-babies. The surgery actually improved it slightly!
Mine turned out to be bigger than the surgeon anticipated, plus there was a second one hiding next to the first. I had a mesh inserted for the repair. I was told recovery would be similar to a c-section (no idea if it’s comparable, as I’ve never had a c-section) so I wasn’t able to lift bubs, had to be careful bending, and avoid driving for 6 weeks after.
Posted 07 November 2019 - 05:30 AM
I also had a toddler at the time, as well as baby DD. I had family stay for the first few weeks, then managed with DH morning and evening, plus help from a cleaner and a teenage “mother’s helper”.
The mother’s helper was great - she’d come over and do all the lifting I couldn’t do. eg she’d lift DD onto the change table so I could change her, or come to the park with us and lift toddler DS onto the swing so I could push him, or lift them into the bath so I could bathe them.
I also wasn’t able to bend over (combination of the hernia and back issues) so she picked up all the toys off the floor each day, unpacked the dishwasher etc.
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