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#1 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 05 November 2019 - 08:48 AM

DS is nearly 2yo and still breastfeeding. I’ve actually got to wean him (to start a new medication) and we have cut down to 2-3 feeds a day. But this morning as he was about to have his morning feed, I was thinking about how much pleasure it gives him - the look of delight on his face when he sees my boob is just the best. I’m a bit sad that I’ve only got a few more weeks of feeding my last baby.

Anyway, anyone else currently breastfeeding a toddler? How’s it going for you?

#2 Meepy

Posted 05 November 2019 - 08:54 AM

Not anymore but I breastfed until DD was 3 1/2. We both enjoyed it tremendously.

#3 Gonzy

Posted 05 November 2019 - 08:55 AM

I wish I was :(  My 23 month old weaned at about 15 months and I was so sad!  He is my last baby so I was certainly not ready to stop feeding him.

My older two were breastfed to 3.5 and 3 with a stint of 6 month tandem feeding so I really just expected the same with the baby.

Enjoy it while you can, is delaying the medication a little longer an option you can consider?  You are doing amazing and what a special time with your little one.

#4 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 05 November 2019 - 09:55 AM

Unfortunately I can’t delay any more. My specialist has been amazing, started me on medication that is BF safe, and then when things weren’t improving as much as he wanted, he was still ok with it until DS was older. 2 and a bit months ago he said he wanted me to start this medication within the next three months, and that deadline is fast approaching. It’s difficult because it’s his most favourite thing ever, DD was happy to have a babycino instead :lol:

#5 ~Bob~

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:04 AM

I think I’ve just finished too :( We did BLW and I am feeding about once every 4 days. So I’d say it’s pretty much over now at 2 years 4 months.

It’s sad, but it’s also something to be happy about. We did well getting this far.

#6 Jamelex

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:07 AM

Mine were BF until 21months, 19months and 2.5yrs. First two self-weaned and once youngest was down to only about one, sometimes two per day I stopped her. Part of me still misses it but I’m glad I was able to have such a (generally!) positive experience BFing.
I think you’ve done an amazing job. There does need to come a point where you can’t neglect your own health though. Is there any other activity/treat/ritual you can do with your DS instead that can just be you and him?

#7 Apageintime

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:27 AM

I fed my son until he was 3.5.

There's nothing extended about it. The natural age of weaning is between 3-7. You're feeding as long as you're supposed to.

The WHO recommends breastfeeding until AT LEAST 2 years old. So you've only just reached the minimum.

Also double and triple check the medication. I was told I would have to wean too and called a breastfeeding and medication expert in Melbourne who said it was absolutely fine to keep going.

#8 rubyskye

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:39 AM

DS1 weaned at 16 months, he was down to one or two feeds overnight at 2am and I was so tired I stopped. He loved to be rocked and cuddled to sleep and that worked well.

DS2 is currently 16 months also, nurses maybe 3 times during day and as much as he wants overnight. I'm trying to make it to 2 years. See how we go :)

I wish I had nursed longer with my first.

#9 Kattikat

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:39 AM

Sitting here feeding my 2.2 year old, she's a boob addict, no idea how we'll ever finish! My DS went cold turkey of his own accord at 11 months, so I've no clue what to do with this one. But it's working ok for now, but I do wish I wasn't the only one who could put her to sleep.

#10 Starflash

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:43 AM

DS1 is nearly 3.5 - still very keen. Sharing now with DS2 nearly 8 months.

#11 PhillipaCrawford

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:48 AM

I don't regard it as extended because I think about 2 should be the norm

DS self weaned at 17 months.
DD1 I stopped on New Years Day she was 21 months.
DD2 on her second birthday.

I was back at work by then so they were only feeding when i was around and rarely overnight.

DD 1 & 2 I just told they were big girls now and that was part of growing up.

#12 liveworkplay

Posted 05 November 2019 - 10:54 AM

My breastfeeding days are long gone but I felt much like you do now. I bf my girls for 15myths, 2.5yrs and 3.5years. My older two self weened but we gently weened my youngest from her last feed. It was a traumatic time in all our lives. The younger two still remember breastfeeding in a cerebral way and have lovely feelings associated with it.

Go easy on yourself as it is almost like grieving once you stop completely.

#13 leosmum

Posted 05 November 2019 - 11:26 AM

Hey OP, if you’re reluctant to stop BF, please double check the information you’ve been given. I believe Rodney Whyte is still at Monash in Melbourne - he’s a pharmacist who specialises in the safety of medications during breastfeeding. He cleared me to BF my second child, when I was on the same medications as I’d been told a hard no to BF on with my first. Wish I’d spoken to him first time around

ETA. Of course there are definitely some medications that aren’t safe for BF and it’s important to put your health first. I just wanted you to know that there might be another path for double checking what you’ve been told, even if it’s by a specialist.

Edited by leosmum, 05 November 2019 - 11:29 AM.

#14 Mrs Zee

Posted 05 November 2019 - 11:40 AM

View Postleosmum, on 05 November 2019 - 11:26 AM, said:

Hey OP, if you’re reluctant to stop BF, please double check the information you’ve been given. I believe Rodney Whyte is still at Monash in Melbourne - he’s a pharmacist who specialises in the safety of medications during breastfeeding. He cleared me to BF my second child, when I was on the same medications as I’d been told a hard no to BF on with my first. Wish I’d spoken to him first time around

ETA. Of course there are definitely some medications that aren’t safe for BF and it’s important to put your health first. I just wanted you to know that there might be another path for double checking what you’ve been told, even if it’s by a specialist.

I can PM you his details if you need OP. Definitely don't wean before you're ready, unless he says the medicine isn't safe.

I am breastfeeding my daughter who is 2 & a bit. I can't believe we have made it this far. I will be sad when it ends because I know it's the best thing for her and she loves it so much. It's also the easiest option overnight lol. I think some grieving is normal and lots of mums experience it.

If you do have to stop, make sure you do it gently, for both of you.

You should be really proud of yourself for making it this far. It's brag worthy!

#15 Dadada

Posted 05 November 2019 - 11:59 AM

I’m still feeding a 2.5 year old. She’s obsessed. We slowed down for a while but ramped right back up -  I have no weaning advice at all, but following for tips! That said, I think nursing is magical. Solves everything.

Just VERY sick of my own mother and MIL judging constantly and vocally.

#16 ainira

Posted 05 November 2019 - 12:31 PM

Dd2's last feed was the day before her 4th birthday (I put in a firm end date). She misses mummy milk at times, but is ok with just "holding" or "patting" my boob of she's sad or at nighttime.

Dd1 stopped around 3.5 years, so there was around 6 months of tandem feeds.

#17 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 05 November 2019 - 12:46 PM

To most of the Australian population, breastfeeding beyond 12-18mo is extended. I think from my EB due in group I’m the only one still breastfeeding.

The drug is one where it could be maybe possible to continue feeding if I avoided a few feeds each week... if he was younger I might look into it. As he’s certainly old enough to wean I’m not prepared to risk the toxicity. I’ll just enjoy these last feeds because it is such a special thing.

#18 Ivy Ivy

Posted 05 November 2019 - 01:32 PM

Mothersafe at/near Prince of Wales Hospital Randwick in Sydney gives telephone advice on safety of meds whilst breastfeeding.  They've always been very up-to-date when I've called them.  I believe any member of the public can call.  They'll ask your postcode.

#19 Lou-bags

Posted 05 November 2019 - 01:52 PM

It’s a beautiful thing and sad when it does end 22fmp. I know you’re across all the specialist advice and up to date safety info so just wanted to validate your choice, that it’s the right one for you both even if there will be some sadness (PPs OP has postgrad biomedical research training so you are safe to assume she’s followed up with the available experts and evidence- we have a specialist pharmacist here in WA too, at the major maternity hospital).

Heck I was SO over BFing when DS2 weaned at 25mo and even so it was sad for that chapter of our shared life and our mother child relationship to end.

Be gentle with yourself and DS xx

#20 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 05 November 2019 - 02:16 PM

My son turned 3 a couple of months ago. I've been doing don't offer, don't refuse since he was 2. We still feed once a day (before bedtime), sometimes two (before nap).

I never thought I'd be feeding a 3yo! I desperately wanted to get to 12 months and wasn't sure we would given I went back to full time work when he was 11mo.

#21 WaitForMe

Posted 05 November 2019 - 03:08 PM

DD2 is 3y9m and still insists on "milkies" before bed or nap time (when at home - 3 days a week).

Tbh I'm well and truly over it but her tantrums are extreme so I keep putting it off.

At night time I limit it, one minute per side, so its pretty minimal. Sometimes she stop/starts so much to tell me things I doubt she gets anything, but then theres other times she's like a little baby again.

DD1 weaned a bit before her 3rd birthday. Once I'd stopped feeding her to sleep, she weaned herself. I think it helped I was home full time at that point, whereas now I work 4 days a week.

#22 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 05 November 2019 - 04:03 PM

Lou-bags - we dropped the daycare pick up feed, I give him a packet of tiny teddies instead. He still asks for it every pick up, but is ok with the biscuits instead.  In the morning when I get him from his cot it’s the first thing he says to me “beebee!”. The funniest bit is when I ask him which side he’d like first, and he says “right one” while giving it an enthusiastic whack :lol: the enthusiasm and joy is amazing.

Yes, I could possibly continue (as per the research I’ve done and experts consulted) but for me the risk vs benefit doesn’t add up. I’m fine about weaning, just feeling a bit misty eyed about leaving this phase of my life.

#23 Jingleflea

Posted 05 November 2019 - 04:28 PM

DD breastfed until just before 3.
And OMG I was over it by then! It took me over a year to fully wean her and I doubt she was getting anything the last few months but she was addicted.
I loved it for the first year or 2 but by 3 I was DONE and I don't miss it!
She never had a dummy or sucked her thumb so my nipples were her comfort and I wanted my body back.

#24 Treasure Island

Posted 05 November 2019 - 05:19 PM

DS1 self-weaned at 20 months (I later worked out probably due to supply drop while pregnant).
DS2 - didn't care about that and fed right through, I weaned him at 3, he was reluctant though and I actually let him go back for a year when their dad and I separated and weaned him finally at 5.
DS3 - I weaned at 3. I told him leading up to his birthday we were going to stop and he was fine with it.

#25 Noodlez

Posted 05 November 2019 - 08:15 PM

I’m still breastfeeding my DD who has just turned 2. Mainly evenings and night but she would have boobs al day if she could. I am definitely at the point of being ready for it to stop but I think DD has other ideas.

While I’m glad we made it this far and I can appreciate all the benefits including how much comfort it provides them especially while they are sick, I can completely understand why mothers would choose to wean early.

Edited by Noodlez, 05 November 2019 - 08:15 PM.

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