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#1 Lallalla

Posted 16 October 2019 - 09:23 PM

What would you prefer? A short painful period or a long one with a bit of discomfort?

Somewhere deep in the internet today (Mumsnet) I saw someone asking who these women were who have 3 day periods and how did it feel to be one of the chosen ones?

Well I do have a 3 day period these days but I would be very relieved to go back to my pre-baby 7+ day ones. I didn’t know what period pain was back then (I thought I did, it just didn’t compare to the paralysing take your breath away pain I get now, or the monthly migraine that precedes it).

So what would you prefer? Also I apologise profusely to the women out there who get both long and insanely painful periods. I think we can all agree that just is not fair.

#2 Zeppelina

Posted 16 October 2019 - 09:46 PM

I get a little from column A, a little from column B :laugh: My cycles have never been regular, usually somewhere between 29 and 38 days, but even up to 48 days (and last month I had my first ever 28 day cycle!). My periods are also irregular in length and level of pain. Some cycles I get short and painful periods, other cycles long and ever-so-slightly uncomfortable ones - and some cycles long and painful periods :cry:

I don't know which I prefer, but it definitely isn't that last option! I'd say probably short and painful, but I've had fewer of those and I get a break in between them usually (and I don't get a migraine with them, thankfully) so I'm not sure I'm the best person to judge!

edited for clarity

Edited by Zeppelina, 16 October 2019 - 09:47 PM.

#3 ~J_F~

Posted 16 October 2019 - 09:48 PM

Short and painful. I find the whole thing gross, so the shorter the better. I will be glad when menopause comes. If only it was easier to get it all out.

That said mine are 2 to 3 days but heavy.  I have never really had cramping or anything, so I think I am one of the lucky ones.

#4 Mands09

Posted 16 October 2019 - 10:24 PM

Pre kids my cycles were really irregular, anywhere from 70-90 days with 7-10 days bleeding with at least 4 heavy days. Really uncomfortable but not painful.

Now my cycles are 28 days with 2 days heavy bleeding and 1-2 days spotting. Really painful but comparative bliss compared to not knowing when my period was going to appear or for how long it was going to be. It sucks either way but at least this way it sucks for a shorter time and then its over and normal for a while.

In a perfect world I’d have the 2 day periods every 70-90 days.

#5 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 16 October 2019 - 10:30 PM

Pre-mirena I had short 3 day periods, with painful cramps for an hour or two at the beginning and then very light and pain free. I couldn’t complain at all, but I prefer the current no period situation.

#6 Hands Up

Posted 17 October 2019 - 07:08 AM

Post kids I have four day periods but the first two days are very painful. It actually causes my back to spasm. Does this happen to anyone else?

I used to get seven day periods but only every six to ten weeks and I have to say that was better!

#7 jayskette

Posted 17 October 2019 - 07:33 AM

coming from long and painful (10 day average)... i think i would want long and painless lol

#8 seayork2002

Posted 17 October 2019 - 08:27 AM

My comes around like clockwork but every one seems to be different, sometimes I get pain other times not, heavy sometimes light other times so there never seems to be a pattern to it really other than every 3 weeks.

It seems to go on for a few days then a day with nothing then a final bit though

#9 Smoo

Posted 17 October 2019 - 08:59 AM

Have you gotten your thyroid checked post baby? Mine were very heavy, painful post baby until I was put on thyroid meds. Now they're still more frequent (24 day cycle) and slightly heavier but nowhere near as bad.

TBH I don't have a good answer for your question, all options are unpleasant

#10 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 17 October 2019 - 11:52 AM

I am perimenpausal now. I currently have a period that last 3 days and the first 2 days are painful (the 1st day is super painful, so I always hope my period will start on a non-work day). The pain on the first day or so is noticeably worse than it used to be, and in the last year or so, I seem to get a massive headache as well on the first day that sometimes wipes me out. I used to have periods that lasted 5-6 days, the first day or so was painful but not as bad as now.

It is what it is.  Thankfully I have never had long AND super painful for the whole duration..

#11 Fennel Salad

Posted 17 October 2019 - 12:02 PM

I'm one of the extremely lucky ones, 2/3 days and mininal pain, same as my mum and grandma. But my sisters, niece, cousins suffer hell on earth: long AND debilitatigly painful.

Luck of the draw, like so much in life.

What would i prefer? Long but painless. Pain sucks.

Edited by Fennel Salad, 17 October 2019 - 12:03 PM.

#12 Hypnic Jerk

Posted 17 October 2019 - 12:07 PM

I’d prefer no periods.  I take drugs for that

#13 Veritas Vinum Arte

Posted 17 October 2019 - 12:10 PM

I am mid 40s and have gone from long irreg cycles (6-12wks long) with 7 day periods to short irregular cycles (was 21d but Metformin has pushed them out to 26-30d) but my bleed is a huge gush and over in 48hrs.

No period pain as such but I suffer migraines with my cycles.... first migraine 2 days before first peiod. So more refulat cycles is causing problems on migraine front.

#14 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 17 October 2019 - 12:10 PM

i’m around 3 days...day 1 is not great, but i can function - i’m not bed bound or anything. ovulation is actually far more painful for me...i have to take 2 naprogesic (sp?) when i get the first niggles.....

#15 SM3s Fight Song

Posted 17 October 2019 - 01:01 PM

 ~J_F~, on 16 October 2019 - 09:48 PM, said:

Short and painful. I find the whole thing gross, so the shorter the better. I will be glad when menopause comes. If only it was easier to get it all out.

That said mine are 2 to 3 days but heavy.  I have never really had cramping or anything, so I think I am one of the lucky ones.

I'll be glad when menopause comes too.  I I'll go with short too, I find the whole thing gross too. Mine are always painful, but less and shorter on the pill and I can skip every 2nd one, so that's what I go with.

Edited by SM3s Fight Song, 17 October 2019 - 01:02 PM.

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