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#1 Tropicallyme

Posted 16 September 2019 - 09:43 AM

Hi, pls help. First day of last period 2/8/19 so I would have been 6 weeks Friday. Had a blood test but dr won’t give results over phone even though I’m 3 hours away. Had internal and the other scan. Got told no fetal pole seen and no cardiac activity, I’m having zero pregnancy symptoms and I’ve been spotting and brown discharge continuously for about a week now. Scan also says peri-sac haemorrhage

#2 muffiny123

Posted 16 September 2019 - 11:43 AM

Hi Tropicallyme,

This is such a difficult situation, but I think it would be good to see the doctor and discuss your results. Is there any doctor closer who you could have the results transferred to? (I’m not sure if this is possible, but you can always ask) I hope everything turns out ok.

#3 zeldazonk

Posted 16 September 2019 - 01:15 PM

Were they able to see anything on the scan? At six weeks you would want to see a gestational sac and a yolk sac. It may be a day or too early to see the fetal pole and heartbeat. This may also be the case if you implanted late or if your dates are slightly off.

Brown spotting doesn't mean anything on its own. Neither does no/few preg symptoms at only 6 weeks.  It is more of a concern if you have bright red bleeding, clots and pain/cramping.

I would push for your doctor to give you your blood results. I have always been given hcg results over the phone. There is no reason at all you should have to go in. If your hcg is dropping, has stopped increasing, is very low or rising too slowly this may indicate a non-viable pregnancy.

If your hcg results are unclear, you will probably need to have another scan in a week or so to see if there has been any growth.

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have been through it many times and know how traumatic it is. I have had both good and bad outcomes. Look after yourself and make sure you get lots of support. Wishing you all the best xx

#4 Tropicallyme

Posted 30 September 2019 - 11:31 AM

Hi everyone. Just went for another scan - after all that baby measures at 17mm (something like that) and HB of 165 I think she said. So there you go. I’m pregnant. I even got the congratulations. I’ve had no symptoms and bleeding stopped. Now I have a maaaasive migraine thinking about telling my husband who after his ex wife absolutely dragged him through the mud with his only child custody wise has zero zero zero desire for more kids. :/

#5 born.a.girl

Posted 30 September 2019 - 12:10 PM

View PostTropicallyme, on 30 September 2019 - 11:31 AM, said:

Hi everyone. Just went for another scan - after all that baby measures at 17mm (something like that) and HB of 165 I think she said. So there you go. I’m pregnant. I even got the congratulations. I’ve had no symptoms and bleeding stopped. Now I have a maaaasive migraine thinking about telling my husband who after his ex wife absolutely dragged him through the mud with his only child custody wise has zero zero zero desire for more kids. :/


Congratulations!


Sorry to be blunt, but a zero zero zero desire for any more kids I'd have thought would result in a vasectomy.

There's no foolproof contraception except abstinence, but a vasectomy is a pretty good start.

Fertile man has sex: pregnancy is a possibility.

Try to frame this as a failure of the contraception you both used (whatever that was), and it's his responsibility as much as yours - more so if he's adamant he doesn't want any more.

#6 muffiny123

Posted 30 September 2019 - 06:47 PM

Congratulations! I think it may be 1.7cm? (I measured 0.9 cm at 7 weeks)

#7 magic_marker

Posted 30 September 2019 - 07:05 PM

Congratulations!
Was there ever a discussion before he committed to marriage about whether there would be a child/children on the horizon?
Who knows what can happen. If your marriage is strong it should  only strengthen it.
All the best.

#8 Soontobegran

Posted 30 September 2019 - 07:08 PM

View Postmuffiny123, on 30 September 2019 - 06:47 PM, said:

Congratulations! I think it may be 1.7cm? (I measured 0.9 cm at 7 weeks)

17mm is 1.7 cms

#9 But seriously

Posted 30 September 2019 - 07:20 PM

View Postborn.a.girl, on 30 September 2019 - 12:10 PM, said:

Congratulations!


Sorry to be blunt, but a zero zero zero desire for any more kids I'd have thought would result in a vasectomy.

There's no foolproof contraception except abstinence, but a vasectomy is a pretty good start.

Fertile man has sex: pregnancy is a possibility.

Try to frame this as a failure of the contraception you both used (whatever that was), and it's his responsibility as much as yours - more so if he's adamant he doesn't want any more.

Yes but so many men never think of this!

#10 born.a.girl

Posted 30 September 2019 - 07:44 PM

View PostBut seriously, on 30 September 2019 - 07:20 PM, said:

Yes but so many men never think of this!

Time for them to find out their body, their choice, my body, my choice. :)

#11 Tropicallyme

Posted 30 September 2019 - 08:16 PM

View PostBut seriously, on 30 September 2019 - 07:20 PM, said:



Yes but so many men never think of this!

My husband was single for 7 years from his previous divorce right up till he met me. He never got one because he never planned to be with anyone after what his ex did. When it was briefly discussed I was the one who said no I’m happy on the pill (I’ve been on it for 18 YEARS so I didn’t expect it to suddenly not work! Lol) because I often skipped sugar pills if I needed to skip a period. So I was happy with that. Neither of us due to those couple of points thought it was necessary I guess. I told him. Through tears because I don’t what I want either. He was I. Shock. Doesn’t think he can. Doesn’t know. But I do know he will support me either way. When he raised his daughter - he had actually taken on his partner with her 6 week old and 2 year old at the ripe age of 18! Then 2 years later had his daughter. She was a horrific woman who turned into an ice addict and cheated on him with half the shearing shed at his work so you can understand his trepidation. I’m going to discuss with him that it’s ONE child in it’s own, and I felt I was a very competent mother with my only (now 18) daughter and I feel confident to do it. I don’t even mind doing all the nappies - after all my ex was totally useless and never did them so it wouldn’t be new! lol

#12 Tropicallyme

Posted 30 September 2019 - 08:18 PM

View Postmuffiny123, on 30 September 2019 - 06:47 PM, said:

Congratulations! I think it may be 1.7cm? (I measured 0.9 cm at 7 weeks)

Yes correct. At 6 weeks it was 6.5mm (just over half a cm) so grown a lot!

#13 Tropicallyme

Posted 30 September 2019 - 08:21 PM

View Postborn.a.girl, on 30 September 2019 - 07:44 PM, said:



Time for them to find out their body, their choice, my body, my choice. :)

I’m not wanting an argument but I also believe a part of his body helped make it so he gets a say

#14 Tropicallyme

Posted 30 September 2019 - 08:25 PM

View Postmagic_marker, on 30 September 2019 - 07:05 PM, said:

Congratulations!
Was there ever a discussion before he committed to marriage about whether there would be a child/children on the horizon?
Who knows what can happen. If your marriage is strong it should  only strengthen it.
All the best.

There certainly was because I was open to having more kids. We had that discussion about 2-3 months after we met. Long before marriage. It was a BIG fat no from him. People say oh well he is tarring you with the same brush as his ex. Saying he doesn’t want more because of what she did to him with his daughter. Maybe so  but I’m understanding - because I helped him gain custody. I spent 9 months getting her out of family services away from the abuse and assault her ice addict mother had inflicted upon his daughter while he battled fruitlessly for nearly a decade to gain custody. They are both traumatised from it. So I try to be understanding of his reasoning.




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