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#26 Heather11

Posted 08 September 2019 - 10:35 AM


Always RRP. As PP said, no one knows what you spent. A gift with an RRP of $100 would make me incredibly uncomfortable unless it was from a very close family member.

Not to mention it might look like you have spent more on the child then their own parents. I would feel embarrassed if my child received $50 plus it puts pressure on others to do the same.

Thankfully, we were never invited to party after party. More like 4 or 5 a year.  We spent between $15 to $25.

Even for nieces and nephews we only spend $30 to $40.  It just gets too expensive but you can actually buy really good gifts for as little as $15..

#27 Ellie bean

Posted 08 September 2019 - 10:38 AM

^^yeah when a relative gave dd the same (not cheap) thing we got her for Christmas PLUS a heap of other stuff I wanted to cry. Mae it way less special.

#28 MGB

Posted 08 September 2019 - 11:19 AM

School friends we usually spend $15-$25. I try to get things that are on sale from Smiggle or Australian Geographic.

Close friends around $20-$30

I still spend the same regardless of location of the party.

Nieces and Nephews are around $20-$40.

#29 ~Bob~

Posted 08 September 2019 - 11:35 AM

In primary school, we spend $30 on the Aussies and $50 on close friends or our cultural subset.

In high school, $50 seems to be the minimum amount and $100 for close friends or those in our cultural group.

The time it got expensive was when my twins were invited to a party for twins. That cost $200, which is pretty much a wedding gift !!

#30 TheirMum2

Posted 08 September 2019 - 12:34 PM

We spend at least $50 on a gift when my DDs are invited to a party.

I have 7 year old twins, so I spend more as I know when others come to my DD's parties they need to buy two presents, which is tricky financially for many.

#31 SM3s Fight Song

Posted 08 September 2019 - 01:06 PM

Usually $20-30 for the gift.

Eta: all still primary age or younger.

Edited by SM3s Fight Song, 08 September 2019 - 01:08 PM.

#32 José

Posted 08 September 2019 - 01:19 PM

about $30.

#33 gracie1978

Posted 08 September 2019 - 01:26 PM

View PostEmmDasher, on 08 September 2019 - 08:25 AM, said:

I think a little bit of cash in a card is fun. I actually love the idea of a fiver party but I haven’t had the guts to do it. My preppie has been saving up her pocket money for one of those Garmin Kids watches and she’d love a bit of cash to boost her over the line. At that age presents are still exciting though and I wouldn’t want it to be all cash. My ideal would be craft supplies or something little/low value and $5.

Just do it!!!
So much easier for guests.
A lot of people can't help themselves and out more in.
It was surprisingly hard to get him to spend it, 'but I have enough toys'

#34 PrincessPeach

Posted 08 September 2019 - 01:27 PM

$15 - $20 for school friends, but ive ive scored a good bargain then i spend less.

$50 on family.

#35 gracie1978

Posted 08 September 2019 - 01:29 PM

View PostAughra, on 08 September 2019 - 08:20 AM, said:

I spend $20 for all parties.  

What do people think of gifts, cash or vouchers for primary school parties? I usually do a small gift or money in a card.

I really prefer cash, gift cards just add to the mental load.

#36 gracie1978

Posted 08 September 2019 - 01:32 PM

When my twins start getting invited to parties I think I'll do 2x $15 presents and for their birthday I'll do a fiver party, to minimise the financial burden for parents who might end up spending $50+ otherwise.

#37 Lees75

Posted 08 September 2019 - 01:42 PM

Primary school, around the $20 mark.

High school, maximum $30. If I spent more than that, it would be a real struggle, as DS15 is a very social kid and is at a party almost every other week. I encourage him to plan ahead and think of creative gifts that are cheap. For example, last night he bought his GF’s best friend a burrito blanket, which was some sort of private joke. We bought it from EBay for $20.

#38 Threelittleducks

Posted 08 September 2019 - 03:27 PM

I buy the $2 books from Scholastic book club (RRP is around $8-10 and add this to either a JoJo bow, small Lego box, science kit etc (all bought on sale after Christmas). So I spend a total of $10 but value is $20. I can't imagine spending more than that for 8 years old and below to be honest.

#39 *Melstar*

Posted 08 September 2019 - 03:40 PM

We have a local ice cream shop that everyone goes to. I buy vouchers for there. Everyone comments on how cool it is to get something different - not just another toy. Something different, something special and something that also supports local small business!

I like Smiggle / craft stuff but honestly for me, there comes a point where there's too much of this stuff in our house - so I figure if I'm drowning in it, then so is everyone else.

Family kid gifts, we usually spend $50 and for these, I shop very wisely and usually end up with presents worth way more than the 50 outlay.

I don't change the present based on the party. I figure it is the hosts choice of location.

#40 carls888

Posted 08 September 2019 - 04:05 PM

We spend $20 for a friend and $30 for their best friends. It doesn't matter about location. (10yo and 12 yo)

What is a fiver party?

I like the idea of a gift voucher for a local ice-cream shop etc...
I have just put $20 in a card for some of DD's 12+yo friends.

#41 MadMarchMasterchef

Posted 08 September 2019 - 04:09 PM

Around $20. I usually go for things like board games and that seems to go down really well.
I would feel uncomfortable if somebody gave my kids a present worth $100 tbh!

#42 gracie1978

Posted 08 September 2019 - 04:10 PM

View Postcarls888, on 08 September 2019 - 04:05 PM, said:

We spend $20 for a friend and $30 for their best friends. It doesn't matter about location. (10yo and 12 yo)

What is a fiver party?

I like the idea of a gift voucher for a local ice-cream shop etc...
I have just put $20 in a card for some of DD's 12+yo friends.

In lieu of a present I asked guests to out $5 in a card for DS and then we sent them all a photo of what he bought.

#43 Bearynice

Posted 08 September 2019 - 04:22 PM

Early primary school when invited to people’s parties that they weren’t really close with.... we would spend about $15-20. ( but I’d bargain hunt and get something that looked like it’s worth more....eg. Lego seton sale or a book from scholastic for cheap with some similar themed craft supplies)

When they got to an age where they went to close friends parties we knew more what they were into, so it’s easier to buy for and we spent around $25-30.

Movie tickets were popular mid primary school or some cash. Plus kids often knew their favourite lolly or treat, so we would stick that on the card too

#44 JomoMum

Posted 08 September 2019 - 04:23 PM

View Postcountrychic29, on 08 September 2019 - 07:45 AM, said:

We are at the prep and kinder stage so for whole class parties we generally spend $15-20 including cards/wrapping etc
Class besties around $30
Close friends children around $50

I buy a variety of small presents when on sale so my girls can pick from the present pile for their friends

This is us too.

DS is FYOS so most do the invite the whole class party .. though he won’t be come Nov.
Which I think is ok at age and encourages socializing etc. But some kids I’ve never even seen before!

#45 seayork2002

Posted 08 September 2019 - 04:28 PM

I spend want I think I need for that child at the time for so present I think they will like rather than 'a cousin gets $50 but a friend $30' type thing

#46 Leslie Knope

Posted 08 September 2019 - 04:35 PM

Normally about $30-$40. Next weekend is DD’s best friends party, and they have been besties for four years now, so we spent $60 on her gift today. She is 9 years old.

#47 JBH

Posted 08 September 2019 - 05:06 PM

My eldest son is not particularly successful socially and just been invited to his first party at the school he has attended for two years. Frankly, i’d Be willing to buy the kid a pony or a sports car. In reality, I will take my son shopping for just the right thing, with a budget of about $50, but willing to go a bit higher. My youngest is a social butterfly and I give him a budget of $20-25.

Edited by JBH, 08 September 2019 - 05:06 PM.

#48 Ayr

Posted 08 September 2019 - 06:24 PM

For school birthday parties max is $20 which stretches the budget a bit at the moment but I couldn't even imagine spending more than that for a primary school birthday party.

Spend a bit more on relatives kids when we have to buy but I don't buy for many any more.

#49 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 08 September 2019 - 06:58 PM

So far, my kids being aged 4 and 5, for their friends I spend $20 to $30.
This is the sort of budget my mums group seemed to have, when we discussed these things, so I have kept with that. Plus kids get too many toys these days, so I like to keep gifts smallish.

Family’s kids I spend more. Around $50.

#50 LenaK

Posted 08 September 2019 - 07:49 PM

For me it depends largely on value. I look at what that particular kid likes and buy them something I think they will enjoy. I aim for 15-25 but if I come across the 'perfect' gift I wont consider the price so much as the value to the child.

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