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#1 *melrose*

Posted 06 September 2019 - 11:13 PM

Help me ease my mind. I'm adopted and 38 and recently found out my sister who is 48 had breast cancer I think around 4 or 5 years ago, apparently it was the size of a grain of rice they got it out and she's been living her best life.
Now I went in for a ultrasound last week and it picked something up on my left breast.
Went in for a mammogram and it picked up the same thing I think the doctor said it was 5cm. Doctor told me not to worry as it could be a cyst. Doctor has sent a letter to the hospital wanting second opinion and to see what it is. I have never felt any pain there before getting the mammogram after that I have had pain there.
I can't help but sit here and think my life is over.
Im depressed and worried.
How many people get called in after finding something on there mammogram and it turns out to be nothing? I so stressed out.

#2 jayskette

Posted 06 September 2019 - 11:22 PM

your adopted sister (I hope)...

#3 *melrose*

Posted 06 September 2019 - 11:22 PM

 jayskette, on 06 September 2019 - 11:22 PM, said:

your adopted sister (I hope)...
No my real sister.

#4 Ellie bean

Posted 06 September 2019 - 11:27 PM

Thinking of you Melrose. I’be has a cyst removed when I was very young, and in more recent years I’ve also been called back to have lumps aspirated and tested, I’ve been very lucky so far not to have anything cancerous so it is definitely possible that you are fine. Try not to stress too much (easier said than done) until you know what’s going on.

#5 got my tinsel on

Posted 06 September 2019 - 11:54 PM


My mother and sister have both had breast cancer, although different types.

About 15 years ago (when in my mid 40's) my mammogram showed something, I saw a breast surgeon who organised an ultrasound and biopsy.

Turned out it was just the last bit of dense breast tissue.

Will be keeping my fingers crossed for a similar result.

#6 MooGuru

Posted 07 September 2019 - 02:03 AM

I've got multiple cysts and fibroadenomas (?) Which get checked regularly and sometimes biopsied. All clear and benign. Fingers crossed for good news for you.  

I sometimes jokingly think of them as the boob job I got for free if I'm feeling nervous when they do the ultrasound etc. The one thing was around the 3 or 4 cm mark I think. That's like a half cups worth of extra cleavage for no charge.

#7 born.a.girl

Posted 07 September 2019 - 07:44 AM

I was called back after leaving it too long between mammograms.  The information I was give was that 90% are benign issues.

Mine was benign, just a couple of cysts, but it was a bit nerve-wracking having to have three more mammograms before I saw the doctor, who did an ultrasound.  I figured if they were doing repeat mammograms something must be up.  It wasn't they were just awkward to catch clearly.

Six months later I felt a relatively large lump, and wasn't particularly worried because I knew that cancers don't tend to grow as quickly as cysts. This was moving around freely and about 1cm in diameter.  Again, it was a cyst. They are really common.

All the best.

#8 *melrose*

Posted 07 September 2019 - 09:44 AM

How long does it take for the hospital to see me once my information has been sent to them, everything I'm reading on her ladies have gone the same day I'm confused.

#9 born.a.girl

Posted 07 September 2019 - 10:15 AM

Mine was a few weeks off.  I think if the doctor had suspected anything they'd have made sure you were seen earlier.

#10 *melrose*

Posted 07 September 2019 - 11:21 AM

OK so hopefully I will see someone soon.

Edited by *melrose*, 07 September 2019 - 11:21 AM.

#11 Lifesgood

Posted 07 September 2019 - 11:55 AM

Hi OP, I'm sorry you're going through this.

My mum had/has breast cancer (original diagnosis was 6-7 years ago). I have dense, lumpy breast tissue and am approaching 50. Since mum was diagnosed I have had to go for annual mammograms and ultrasounds due to my risk levels.  None of my lumps/irregularities have turned out to be anything yet.

I hope you get an answer really soon, and that it is an all clear.

After that I recommend you find a really good breast clinic and see them annually for both mammo AND ultrasound (as opposed to Breastscreen). Plus check your breasts at least monthly, or more frequently yourself.

#12 Lifesgood

Posted 07 September 2019 - 11:57 AM

Just re-read your OP and if it is 5cm and you haven't noticed it yourself then perhaps it is a cyst. Mum's cancer was the size and shape of a pea, hard and painful.

#13 MooGuru

Posted 07 September 2019 - 12:20 PM

 born.a.girl, on 07 September 2019 - 10:15 AM, said:

Mine was a few weeks off.  I think if the doctor had suspected anything they'd have made sure you were seen earlier.
Yeah they wanted to biopsy me on the spot when they found the one thing. They only let me leave after I'd booked an appt within a couple of days.

#14 *melrose*

Posted 07 September 2019 - 12:39 PM

 Lifesgood, on 07 September 2019 - 11:57 AM, said:

Just re-read your OP and if it is 5cm and you haven't noticed it yourself then perhaps it is a cyst. Mum's cancer was the size and shape of a pea, hard and painful.
Didn't notice any pain before going into a mammogram then after the mammogram have been getting pain in that spot.
Maybe it's from the mammogram machine?

#15 *melrose*

Posted 07 September 2019 - 12:40 PM

Would a cyst cause pain from the mammogram machine if it was a cyst?

#16 MooGuru

Posted 07 September 2019 - 02:39 PM

 *melrose*, on 07 September 2019 - 12:40 PM, said:

Would a cyst cause pain from the mammogram machine if it was a cyst?

My cysts have occasional pain. Something like a mammogram or punching myself in the boob  (don't ask, I'm a klutz) can cause pain/tenderness that lingers, not helped because I tend to poke and prod at it when it is sore which probably just prolongs the soreness.

#17 gracie1978

Posted 07 September 2019 - 02:40 PM

My Mum and her sister both had lumps at the same time, one had cancer and the other was fine.

Same thing happened with my friend and her sister.

Hope you're ok x

#18 Gruffalo's Child

Posted 07 September 2019 - 04:21 PM

I have lumpy breasts and have been called back multiple times over the last 20 years - it’s always been either a cyst or a fibroadenoma (benign lump).   My breast specialist has suggested I think of this as ‘map building’.  Even when they are confident a new lump is fine, they need to be careful and know exactly what it is so they can add it to my very own breast map.   I would say that your doctor is being very thorough in checking this out further.  FWIW, my mother has had breast cancer twice - each time, she was rushed in for a biopsy within days of her initial mammogram and ultrasound.    

Good luck OP, I know how stressful it can be waiting for a final result and hope you get the all clear very soon.

#19 Gruffalo's Child

Posted 07 September 2019 - 04:24 PM

 *melrose*, on 07 September 2019 - 12:40 PM, said:

Would a cyst cause pain from the mammogram machine if it was a cyst?

Absolutely!  I have experienced painful cysts after mammograms.

#20 Fossy

Posted 07 September 2019 - 04:53 PM

I had a lump and was biopsied the same day, if they haven’t done a biopsy straight away I’d take that was good news. My doctor said if he’s even 1% concerned it could be something nasty he biopsies the same day or ASAP if that’s not possible.
Mine was due to calcification and totally benign.
Good luck OP, it’s very hard not to stress I know. Take care x

#21 #mocha

Posted 07 September 2019 - 06:35 PM

I second a good breast clinic, the Sydney breast clinic is easy to get into and they do mammogram, ultra sound and needle biopsy and you have the results by 5pm the same day.  It’s around 400 out of pocket.  But for me the 400 is for piece of mind, with quick results.

#22 *melrose*

Posted 07 September 2019 - 07:34 PM

Thankyou everyone who got back, I'm still struggling with this a bit, I'm hoping it's a cyst, ever since the mammogram I get sharp pains there every now and then before the mammogram no pain what's so ever.
I have booked in to see the doctor on Monday just to make sure his decision on waiting for the hospital appointment is right and should we be doing anything else in the meantime.
I just want this wait to be over with... Driving me insane.

#23 *melrose*

Posted 07 September 2019 - 07:37 PM

I'm in brisbane can anyone recommend a really good breast clinic? Will need to get regular mammograms now and need to find a good clinic.

Edited by *melrose*, 07 September 2019 - 07:38 PM.

#24 Paddlepop

Posted 07 September 2019 - 07:59 PM

 *melrose*, on 07 September 2019 - 07:37 PM, said:

I'm in brisbane can anyone recommend a really good breast clinic? Will need to get regular mammograms now and need to find a good clinic.

Wesley Hospital breast clinic is probably the best in Brisbane.

#25 livelifelovehappy

Posted 07 September 2019 - 08:08 PM

I have. My Mum died of breast cancer when she was very young. And I have loads of cysts! I've had biopsies, aspirations, and about 3 years ago I had a tumour removed surgically that was benign, thankfully.
It's horrible every time. hugs. Hopefully it's nothing to worry about. I find any lump I've had starts to hurt because I become obsessed and poke it a lot until I know what it is. I've found the reactions of ultrasound technicians are usually reassuring. They aren't supposed to, but if they think it looks fine, they'll say that. And if they're worried, they act very quickly. Thats been my experience.

Edited by livelifelovehappy, 07 September 2019 - 08:09 PM.

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