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#1 Morton-89

Posted 28 August 2019 - 09:58 PM

Hi lovelies. Unfortunately today we had an emergency scan only to find out that we’d lost one of our twins. The healthy bub is measuring at 13w3d and the other at 12w6d with no heartbeat. They prepared us for the real possibility we may lose the other as well but we’re trying to stay strong and positive for the little one still fighting. Does anyone have any stories of hope of the remaining twin surviving and being healthy? I’m having a follow up appointment with a specialist in the next few days but just hoping that maybe this happened to others and everything was ok? ❤️❤️

#2 ali-song

Posted 28 August 2019 - 10:04 PM

I do, but I don’t want to give you false hope as the loss was much earlier. We learned at my 12 week scan that there had been a twin, but he/she hadn’t developed much beyond 6 weeks. The remaining pregnancy was uneventful, and the surviving twin is now about to turn five. I still think about the what-ifs...

Fingers crossed that you have a similarly happy ending. I’m very sorry for your loss - it’s hard to grieve while remaining positive for a good outcome for the other twin.

#3 Mooples

Posted 28 August 2019 - 10:11 PM

My mum has always been sketchy on the details she’s given us but my sister is a surviving twin. I know it was touch and go for a while but she was born healthy. I wish you all the best xx

#4 WaitForMe

Posted 28 August 2019 - 10:20 PM

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I went through something similar. One of my twins was to cut a long story short incompatible with life. It would not live and would be still born, but there was a very high possibility it would cause the other twin to birth really early. So in order to save that twin, I had a selective reduction. This is where they terminate one (or more) of the babies in a multiple pregnancy.

Its different to your situation because its controlled, but the reason they do it is that the earlier the twin dies the less likely it will impact the other baby. I can't remember exactly when we did it, I think about 13 or 14 weeks.

I now have a terror of a 3yo. She was born slightly early and small as my placenta was failing. I'd had quite a bit of intervention at that point not just the selective reduction. But she is otherwise fine.

If you are in Melbourne, I had a pretty amazing ultrasound specialist.

#5 PuddingPlease

Posted 28 August 2019 - 10:26 PM

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. We found out at our 12 week scan that we had lost one of our twins. It had happened about two weeks earlier, so at about 10 weeks. It was otherwise a normal, routine pregnancy and my daughter is five now. Good luck and all the best with the specialist later in the week.

#6 JJJ80

Posted 28 August 2019 - 10:55 PM

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost one of my twins at 24 weeks. They were identical. I was put in bed rest immediately and due to the condition (twin to twin transfusion syndrome) the odds weren’t great that we would end up with a healthy baby. Lots of tests and pretty much three months of hell ... but we got our healthy baby in the end.

#7 SkeptiHandsOnMum

Posted 28 August 2019 - 10:58 PM

I am sorry for your loss. I hope that your second baby stays put for a long while.

Such a complex grief for you, and then a complex joy when your other twin is born.

Whatever you are feeling moment-to-moment is probably familiar for someone here. Be gentle with yourself.

#8 gracie1978

Posted 29 August 2019 - 04:03 AM

No advice but I'm so sorry, really hoping the rest of the pregnancy goes well xxx

#9 BrainFart

Posted 29 August 2019 - 07:44 AM

I’m so sorry to hear for your loss. I was pregnant with twins and we lost one around 16weeks.. the remaining twin was a normal pregnancy and will turn 5 in a few months.

#10 400

Posted 29 August 2019 - 04:35 PM

Wow, so many of us! I have a 15 month old who was MCDA twins, we lost one in the first trimester too. There were zero complications after that (aside from a cheeky breech boy that wouldn’t turn, but that had nothing to do with the twin pregnancy).

Do you know which type of twins they were? Sharing a placenta or not is the biggest factor as to the likely prognosis for the surviving twin.

Like the others have said, it never leaves you. I frequently look at my little boy and think about having two of him, like whether his identical twin would be just like him or very different. Even though we lost the other one so early on, for a few weeks we were parents to twins and had just adjusted to that when it just wasn’t to be anymore. My daughter (I’m currently 22 weeks) is lucky to exist because I can guarantee I would not be pregnant now if we had twins!

The thing that weirded me out the most is that when my son was born, you couldn’t see any evidence of the other twin having existed at all. I was absolutely obsessed with seeing the placenta to see if you could see anything (I was imagining a little fossilised fetus squished on it) but there was nothing.

Good luck with your little one.

#11 Not Escapin Xmas

Posted 29 August 2019 - 05:05 PM

A friend of mine, who thought she was carrying a single baby, miscarried (I think at about 8 weeks, it was 15 years ago!) and got to hospital only to discover that there were 2 foetuses, and one survived.

So it was a complete headf*ck - I'm going to have a baby, I'm not going to have a baby, actually there were 2 babies, now I'm having one again.

Anyway, after getting her head around all that, the surviving baby is now a strapping 15 year old.

Good luck OP.

#12 notorico

Posted 29 August 2019 - 05:56 PM

Big hugs to you. I lost a twin at about 11 weeks and went on to have healthy baby boy with no complications. Stay positive and I will have everything crossed that you have the same outcome with your little one.

#13 Morton-89

Posted 30 August 2019 - 09:03 AM

Thank you so much everyone for all the love and support and most importantly hope. I’ve spoken with the doctors and I have an appointment with the hospital on Tuesday. Unfortunately with my first 2 scans one was done on a terribly old ultrasound at 8 weeks and one was done on a fairly new one at 11/12 weeks. The first scan said the twins were DCDA but the second scan said they were 90% sure they were MCDA twins. So my first step is a scan on Tuesday morning where they will try and work out whether there are 2 placentas or 1 and then I will have an appointment to see what happens from there. So far so good, I’ve had no symptoms of any miscarriage so the other one must still be ok. It just sucks that I’m at a stage where I can’t feel any movement to know that the little bub fighting to stay with us is ok. I’m trying to be super positive and strong for now though. I will grieve properly later for now I need to be strong, positive and calm to give the other bub a fighting chance. I’ll definitely keep you all posted and see how we go ❤️ Thank you so so much again xx

#14 ~Jam~

Posted 27 September 2019 - 03:25 PM

any update OP?

View PostPizzaPlease, on 28 August 2019 - 10:26 PM, said:

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss. We found out at our 12 week scan that we had lost one of our twins. It had happened about two weeks earlier, so at about 10 weeks. It was otherwise a normal, routine pregnancy and my daughter is five now. Good luck and all the best with the specialist later in the week.
Same here,  but my son is now 11 :wub:

#15 Hypnic Jerk

Posted 28 September 2019 - 06:30 PM

18 years ago my sister went into hospital as she was having a miscarriage.  They were set to do a D&C but scanned her first only to find my nephews.  She still wondered about the 3rd she lost and if that baby might have been a girl.

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