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Head vs Heart - How did it play out?
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Posted 22 August 2019 - 07:02 PM
My head said to stop at 2. My heart wanted more. I have 4 now and it's the best thing I ever did. I wouldn't have it any other way and I'm so glad I went with my heart.
Posted 22 August 2019 - 07:37 PM
Dh wanted 3, until we had 1, then he rethought the whole thing and was one and done. I was also one and done. Then when dd was 2, I really wanted a 2nd. Heart really wanted it. Dh agreed. Our second is an absolute love. Now we are both done. Really done.
Posted 23 August 2019 - 11:45 AM
I was always going to be done at 2. Then my heart desperately wanted 3. DH agreed. Number 3 is the light of my life. An absolute and utter joy and both his siblings adore him. I would love a 4th but my age and my health won’t allow it. I do struggle with it but I know I have to be sensible. If I could I would in a heart beat. I adore being a mum and my kids are my whole world. I wish I’d had number 4 two years ago. As it is I am going to be grateful for the beautiful three I have and try and enjoy the school aged years as much as I can.
Posted 23 August 2019 - 01:48 PM
My head said to stop at 1 and I didn’t, now my head says “told you so” a lot.
Posted 23 August 2019 - 02:17 PM
Heart has always said 4, head always said 2 or 3. We have 3, definitely done. Yes I still get clucky and yes I sometimes imagine what/how our family would be with 4.
But then I remind myself of reality, of how much hard work the 3 we have are and how much money they cost us and how my career would be dead in the water (it’s only just kicking along as it is). Plus with 1 set of frat twins already we’d have a good chance of ending up with 5 kids, and the having twins almost killed me (HELLP syndrome)... so yeah, head always wins.
Edited by Lallalla, 23 August 2019 - 02:18 PM.
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