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#1 nasty buddha

Posted 10 August 2019 - 03:17 PM

Is it possible for a 12 month old to no longer sleep during the day?

I'm at the end of my tether.  I don't know what to do.

Edited by nasty buddha, 10 August 2019 - 03:50 PM.

#2 afterlaughter

Posted 10 August 2019 - 03:19 PM

They can go through a temporary thing of nap refusal very unlikely they are giving up the nap. Will likely go back to napping soon. Persist with putting down and attempting to settle for 30mins each day and hopefully I’m not to many days you will go back to getting a nap.

Edited by afterlaughter, 10 August 2019 - 03:20 PM.

#3 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 10 August 2019 - 03:23 PM

It’s possible, not common, but possible. My DS dropped all naps by about 18months. He was always a good night time sleeper though, and always a terrible napper.

Persist, but don’t lose your mind over it. If they don’t want a nap, and they are happy mostly, until bed time, or near enough, then that’s fine.

Try a 6pm bed time is read though or they will get over tired. And try “quiet time” instead of nap time. Let your child play with books in their cot or something for half an hour.

#4 nasty buddha

Posted 10 August 2019 - 03:52 PM

I think I am obsessing over it.  It has been a month though.

My first was easy compared to this.

#5 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 10 August 2019 - 04:16 PM

View Postnasty buddha, on 10 August 2019 - 03:52 PM, said:

I think I am obsessing over it.  It has been a month though.

My first was easy compared to this.

Yeah I obsessed a bit with my first, it made me so stressed, then my maternal and child health nurse said something like “if he is happy, then don’t worry about it” so I stopped pushing for naps and we were both much happier.  In fact, life got so much easier cause I wasn’t house bound anymore trying to create the perfect nap time. Instead I just got on with my day. Sometimes he would nap in the car or pram, sometimes not. I just went with it.

#6 nasty buddha

Posted 10 August 2019 - 05:01 PM

I think that's what I need to do. I feel like I failed somehow

#7 Jenflea

Posted 10 August 2019 - 05:06 PM

You can't MAKE someone sleep. You can provide the best conditions for a nap, but if they don't want to sleep, they won't.

#8 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 10 August 2019 - 05:19 PM

It was hardest talking to other mums, and their kids were napping 2-3 hours at a time. 2-3 hours!!! Sometimes twice a day!! The most I EVER got from DS 1 was an hour. If he slept more than 40min at a time I’d start to worry he was sick. I was pretty wrecked as a mother when he still woke at night, and then only cat napped. I was severely sleep deprived at times. Then he slept through at 4.5 months old and never woke at night again.

Then I had DS2 who regularly napped 90minutes at a time, several times a day, and I was like “oh, so this is what normal babies do” lol. Even at nearly 4 he still gets tired in the afternoons.

DS1 is one of those weird kids who genuinely don’t need much sleep. He is 5 now, goes to bed at 7:30, “reads” until 8:30, then is up at 5:30 or 6am. And he is perfectly fine all day long.

#9 onetrick

Posted 10 August 2019 - 05:25 PM

Urgh. Other mums are the worst! I just hold my tongue when one of my (absolutely lovely!!) mum friends talks about her daughters naps- 2x 2hrs a day! And she has at least 12 hours at night...
DS is so varied. Usually we get 2 naps a day, but sometimes not. Naps can he anything from 45 mins- 2 hrs. We are pretty stoked if we get 2 hrs total a day- that's an amazing day! Usually its 1-1.5 hours total (11hours ish overnight). And tbh on days like today, I would have settled for any nap time not in the car :-/
Oh, and the 12 month sleep regression qas horrible- day time nap refusal is common and yep, we went through that. It gets better. Still not perfect, but that was a few weeks of hell.

#10 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 10 August 2019 - 05:32 PM

I have reluctant nappers. Go by behaviour, if they are a mess by late afternoon, they probably need a nap. If they can last through to say a 6pm bedtime, then roll with it.

#11 mandala

Posted 10 August 2019 - 07:19 PM

I'd also look at total sleep in 24 hours - if they are sleeping 13+ hours at night, then that's why they're not getting a nap! If not, or if they're waking a lot overnight, or a mess by late afternoon - then they probably need a nap.

If overtired, then you might have some luck with an earlier nap e.g. as early as 11am, or by taking them for a drive/walk in the pram, just to get some sleep into them.

What is your routine like? How were they sleeping? Has anything changed?

Two naps at 12 months is more usual than one nap, and one nap far, far more common than no naps. I'd be very suspicious if my baby suddenly started refusing naps that it was because of a sore ear, or bad teething or overtiredness, rather than not needing the sleep. Sure there are outliers, but most babies are not outliers ;)

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