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#51 Holidayromp

Posted 08 August 2019 - 10:37 AM

Three didn’t feel right so went for number four and now we are done!

#52 premmie

Posted 08 August 2019 - 11:44 AM

Three was a very calculated decision for us. We had two boys aged 6 & 4 when number three (also a boy) came along. We had been very much done, and then I felt the need again, very unexpectedly.

The first year with a new baby is challenging under any circumstances. I learnt to accept help in a way I never had before. If my parents or in-laws offered up assistance, I took it without question. The logistics of getting older kids to school and activities was hard. And making sure everyone gets time and attention with homework etc. He was a decent sleeper all things considered and we coped okay with the sleep deprivation. Finances weren't an issue for us. Nor was space or the car etc. Get the help you can afford especially in the first 6 months. If you have space for an au pair (we didn't want or have the right spac for live in help at the time, but in hindsight it would have made life so much easier) they can be worth their weight in gold.

My youngest is a gorgeous wonderful blessing. He's the much loved youngest child and cousin and his siblings adore him. Watching that develop has been wonderful. He's nearly three now and off to preschool next year. I work part time and he's with me the remainder of the week. It's busy and full on, and crazy noisy.

I find we tend to split up more than id like for weekend activities my youngest can't manage. So DH takes the older ones out and I'm with the youngest. Time alone with the older two is rare. That's really the only downside. Trying to work around sicknesses is that much more difficult but not impossible.

For us it was the right decision despite the challenges. Best of luck with it all. You should join a multiples group as the challenges will definitely be different to singletons :)

Edited by premmie, 08 August 2019 - 11:48 AM.

#53 Jasperaliyana2729

Posted 13 August 2019 - 06:30 PM

Reading everyone’s mixed emotions on this was interesting.
I have a 3 year old and 19 month old and am pregnant with third so it’s abit scary lol

#54 Evelyn Smith

Posted 21 August 2019 - 10:20 PM

I think having three kids is easier than having one. Yes. You read that correctly. It sounds completely insane, but it’s actually not. Because you already know what it means to be a parent, you’re coming into it with more experience and parenting hacks galore...

#55 gracie1978

Posted 22 August 2019 - 04:23 AM

View PostEvelyn Smith, on 21 August 2019 - 10:20 PM, said:

I think having three kids is easier than having one. Yes. You read that correctly. It sounds completely insane, but it’s actually not. Because you already know what it means to be a parent, you’re coming into it with more experience and parenting hacks galore...

Love you :)

#56 frazzle

Posted 22 August 2019 - 06:53 AM

A community nurse told me she felt parents with three or more kids fell into two categories:
The sergeant major where everything was organised to a tee or
Just go with the (chaotic) flow!!!
I had a two year old then had prem twins. I honestly don't remember much of the first year!
My tips are accept help whenever offered.
Your partner needs to help. Please don't beat yourself up if you can't breast feed - bottle is awesome and your partner and family and friends can do a feed (mine loved doing this).
Get out when you can - I always felt better around other people and thought if I burst into tears hopefully someone will comfort me.
Please throw away all the parenting books - you become a marvel at winging it - and you and the kids will be fine!!!

#57 mlztwins

Posted 23 August 2019 - 09:01 PM

An absolute blessing

#58 Lallalla

Posted 23 August 2019 - 09:48 PM

My oldest was 21 months when my twins were born

Am I happy? Yes. Is it blissful? No.

I love my kids and I am so glad I had twins as I don’t think I could have done pregnancy again.

But they’re hard work, sometimes, sometimes they’re hilarious, sometimes they get so involved in their imaginative play game I don’t hear from them for half an hour. Sometimes they spend the whole day fighting or egging each other on to do outrageous things.

People say to me they don’t know how I do it etc. the truth is I do it because have to do it and they are worth it. But my god I cannot wait for the threenagers x 2 to pass. Their sister was lovely at 4, get back to me when they’re 4 maybe...

Edited by Lallalla, 23 August 2019 - 09:49 PM.

#59 liveworkplay

Posted 23 August 2019 - 09:53 PM

Three girls here and it is stupid busy but lovely as well. Yes, there is financial stresses that would not be there if we had stopped at one or two but I cannot imagine having less then 3 (we originally wanted 4 but for various reasons stopped at 3)

Congratulations OP :)

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