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#26 Belaire

Posted 29 July 2019 - 12:02 PM

This was DS2 for us! Our kids were slightly older, so 7 and 4 when they started lessons and he hated putting his face in. Refused to at first for ages and then there was this stage where he would take this huge breath and duck his face (just his face, not even his whole head) for like, 1/100th of a second and pop back up again gasping like he'd been under there for 5 minutes! Like a PP's child he spent about a year in one group and it just took time. I will say the teachers at the place are all really amazing they are so patient and very focused on what they do right, not what they cannot do yet. It's been about a year since he finally levelled up out of that group and he's now about 4 levels ahead! Once they start to put it together, it just comes along really quickly. He's now almost 8 and can swim about 25m freestyle or backstroke.

I never learned to swim and I regret it now. And I never feel like the money I spent on getting my kids swimming lessons was a waste. It's the opposite for me. I watch them swimming and think how worth it it is.

#27 OrangeSprout

Posted 29 July 2019 - 12:44 PM

View PostLet-it-go, on 29 July 2019 - 11:04 AM, said:

:laugh: I thought I was the only one that hates those horrible showerheads out of the ceiling!  It’s like my worst nightmare.  I wash my hair the same way and to wash my face, let the water catch in my hands and then gently wash my face with wet hands.


Oh WOW!! I don't feel so bad now!!
As in my 40's I am like this too..
My parents did try to have me do swimming lessons as a youngster but that was a big fat failure.
The swimming instructor tried to force me to do the lessons etc but nope...

So in my opinion if a child is fearful of water don't force them to do it as it often never works out well.

#28 South Coast

Posted 29 July 2019 - 12:53 PM

I have a 6.5 YO who cannot swim at all let alone put his head under the water!

Years of grommet issues, ear infections etc has delayed up big time and I worry about it a lot!  He has done a couple of swimming lessons and is ok in the water but needs a lot of assistance and would most likely sink to the bottom if he fell into deep water.

We are live right next to the beach too...

Aghhhh

#29 melanieb530

Posted 29 July 2019 - 01:20 PM

I'm so impressed that I'm not alone and so many other adults also hate putting their face in the water. I even had a go at adult swimming lessons for a while to try and manage to do freestyle properly without success. I'm another one who is completely happy to wash my face and to swim along with my head above the water but find the sensation of a lot of water on my face rather a horrible feeling. While I'd jump into the water to save my drowning child I never otherwise put my head under water voluntarily.

I'd go with her comfort level and accept that she may be completely able to do so in another year or two or that she may never want to do it.

#30 Lallalla

Posted 29 July 2019 - 07:56 PM

Yep totally normal. I do think if you have a nervous swimmer the quality of the swim school is important too. My oldest made zero progress at the AIS of all places because all their teachers were about 18 and she rarely had the same teacher 2 weeks running. We now go to a different school and she is doing so much better, mostly. She went up a level, finally, and got a teacher who let her give into her fears, went backwards. I asked them to move her into a class with a firm but kind teacher like her last one and low and behold she can swim again! (And still enjoys it) - so the specific teacher also matters.

Edited to add, she’s 5 and had been in lessons of some sort since 6 months

Edited by Lallalla, 29 July 2019 - 07:56 PM.





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