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#101 gettin my fance on

Posted 29 July 2019 - 08:54 PM

Or you could leave a used tea-bag (that just happened to have been doused with chili powder) on your desk all by itself, sitting enticingly just waiting for someone to take a big sniff.

#102 Paddlepop

Posted 29 July 2019 - 09:10 PM

View PostWTFancie shmancie, on 29 July 2019 - 08:54 PM, said:

Or you could leave a used tea-bag (that just happened to have been doused with chili powder) on your desk all by itself, sitting enticingly just waiting for someone to take a big sniff.

Nah, pepper would be better. Massive sneezing fit.

Get a new teabag, make a tiny hole in it, and load it up with pepper. That should do the trick.

Feign innocence when the sniffer asks WTF happened to the teabag.

Time for some microbiology and infection education for the nosy sniffer.

#103 CallMeFeral

Posted 29 July 2019 - 10:41 PM

View PostBurningBright, on 29 July 2019 - 07:30 PM, said:

Hi CMF, she still tries to do it. She thinks am being too precious, however I do speak up and firmly tell her “can you not”.

That is insane! Congratulations on dealing with it so well. Sounds like others are following your lead.

I'm getting scenes of that hair sniffing dude from Charlie's Angels
https://www.youtube....h?v=EsUbBJ-hQ3s

#104 Tokra

Posted 30 July 2019 - 10:00 AM

View PostCallMeFeral, on 29 July 2019 - 10:41 PM, said:

I'm getting scenes of that hair sniffing dude from Charlie's Angels
https://www.youtube....h?v=EsUbBJ-hQ3s

Damn you... now I'm stuck watching stupid videos on youtube lol.

#105 Caribou

Posted 30 July 2019 - 10:16 AM

Hi OP, its very worrying the co-worker has not taken your request seriously enough.

Its equally worrying you feel you can not approach management regarding this with the worry it will reflect badly upon you. I struggle to imagine what kind of work place would allow harassment such as this to continue. and it is harassment. harassment does not need to come in form of sexual or verbal. it can be a physical and non-sexual event too.

Are you sure management would look down on you for asking them to step in and take action?

#106 gettin my fance on

Posted 30 July 2019 - 04:09 PM

View PostCaribou, on 30 July 2019 - 10:16 AM, said:

Are you sure management would look down on you for asking them to step in and take action?

And as it's now an issue for other staff members as well, a joint approach to management may be the best.

#107 Girlintheredshoes

Posted 31 July 2019 - 12:02 AM

I’d be straight up and tell them don’t do it- you don’t like it. Pull them up on it when they do it.

#108 born.a.girl

Posted 31 July 2019 - 07:20 AM

View PostGirlintheredshoes, on 31 July 2019 - 12:02 AM, said:

I’d be straight up and tell them don’t do it- you don’t like it. Pull them up on it when they do it.


I personally think saying 'I don't like it' is making it sound like the OP and others are the ones with the problem.

I'd be inclined to say 'It's inappropriate behaviour from you' (or snappier words to the same effect'.

It's not the OP with the problem, it's the other person.

#109 FloralArrangement

Posted 31 July 2019 - 08:32 AM

Changing the wording will also help get your message across, takes the other person by surprise, it’s got something to do with the way our brains are wired. Expecting one thing to be said but something different is said.

#110 Luci

Posted 31 July 2019 - 09:52 AM

I agree with the above. "You need to stop your inappropriate behavior. You have been asked to stop many times by several people in the office"

If that doesn't work it's the dog poo teabag :ph34r:

Goodluck OP

#111 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 31 July 2019 - 10:07 AM

View Postborn.a.girl, on 31 July 2019 - 07:20 AM, said:

I personally think saying 'I don't like it' is making it sound like the OP and others are the ones with the problem.

I'd be inclined to say 'It's inappropriate behaviour from you' (or snappier words to the same effect'.

It's not the OP with the problem, it's the other person.
Agree with this.

"You are overstepping personal boundaries again."

"You are encroaching on my personal space again and making me feel uncomfortable."

"That item doesn't belong to you, please put it down and don't touch it again."

"Your behaviour is inappropriate, please step away from my desk/put down my food."

etc.

But seriously, if you have explained to your coworker that her actions are inappropriate and are making you feel uncomfortable and she continues to do the same things, I would report it to your supervisor.

Your coworker *may* have issues which may mean that she has a hard time recognising when she is overstepping boundaries,. But (1) you don't know that and you shouldn't be making assumptions about that and (2) that's a (potential) reason for her behaviour, it's not an excuse, it doesn't give her a free pass. And learning to respect personal boundaries is part of every workplace environment.

You should feel comfortable in your workplace too, and it's up to your supervisors to manage this situation, particularly if you have tried to resolve this calmly and peacefully by yourself first..




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