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I want to find a midwife
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Posted 08 July 2019 - 07:41 PM
I’m in Sydney and have an OB and lll deliver at a private hospital. My OB is a great dr but I want to talk to someone about how I’m feeling - huge, bloated, way bigger than other mums at 30 weeks, tired, anxious, scared of c sections, nervous, etc. When I went through the public system under midwife care each appointment they would check in with me and I just don’t have that with the OB. He attributes any issue to me being o era weight and sure yes I but I don’t want to be fat shamed, I want to be placated and heard. Any ideas if private midwives exist to book into - I don’t want them for delivery or Labour, just to hear my worries now.
Posted 08 July 2019 - 07:56 PM
Where are you in Sydney? There’s a private midwife practice near me. Have you thought about a doula? They might be more affordable and they do exactly what you are describing.
I had my first 4 children through a private OB and my last in the public system. The public system is way, way better. OB’s just don’t have the time to be with you like a midwife. I would recommend the public system for all low risk women. (I would have opted for private for my twins, just in case)
Posted 08 July 2019 - 07:57 PM
OP I'm sorry you are filled with worries, though I think it's quite normal too. Is it your first baby?
Does the OB have a midwife as part of his practise, that you could make an appointment to talk to? My OB for baby #1 had this.
I used a doula with my second and she was very helpful to talk to about worries I had and to help me learn more about the birthing process. I was very glad I did that. She also worked alongside the hospital midwives (as a support person, not in a medical capacity: they aren't qualified for that) and I'm sure she was part of the reason I managed a VBAC with #2 (4.6kg baby, very overweight mum: a VBAC was by no means a sure thing).
I hope things improve for you.
Posted 08 July 2019 - 08:34 PM
I'd ask at the hospital you are booked for the delivery.
I had my last baby at North shore private and there you could book an appointment with the midwife I think one for free for reassurance/mums mental health or something like that. And you could pay for more sessions.
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