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**TTC July 2019**

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#26 M2468

Posted 06 July 2019 - 03:13 PM

Congrats Moineau! Definitely fingers crossed for you.

Thanks for the kind words beachesbaby. I agree - I have some friends with kids or babies who are wonderful. I think what I struggle with about this couple is that they used to ask me how I was going when they were trying too, but since she got pregnant it's just like 'oh let me show you this scan picture' and they've never once asked again or acknowledged that while their story has moved on, mine still hasn't...

Anyway. There will be other people at this gathering thankfully, so hopefully it will be alright and I won't have to engage in baby-related talk too much...

#27 ausfarmerswife

Posted 06 July 2019 - 03:36 PM

im So sorry to the ladies who are struggling with fertility, it must be hard being around others who are pregnant or have new babies or children etc.

I had a MC 12days ago and I had someone who didn’t know tell me they are pregnant and due at the same time I would have been, I didn’t think it bothered me until later I was left wondering why didn’t this one stick...

I hope everyone has some luck come there way this month. DP planned on going away when I’m due to O so I quickly shut that down hahaha

#28 mama_j

Posted 08 July 2019 - 11:48 AM

View Postmoineau, on 06 July 2019 - 11:28 AM, said:

Good luck all!!!!

Mama j I really hope your journey is a quick one.

I got my BFP this morning after 16 months.. I tested at 12dpo after brushing my teeth triggered a vomiting episode and brownish spotting through 7 to 10dpo.

I'm quite copy today though - like AF is coming and I'm freaking that it's not a sticky one.

Thank you so much, and huge congrats xxxx

#29 mama_j

Posted 08 July 2019 - 11:51 AM

So, we found out last week that our last loss was a perfectly healthy little girl. Wow that really hit me...
I had begged for progesterone as mine was so low, but kept being told that it was still in range so all good. Then we lost her...

Thankfully, my job means I work with some of the top fertility specialists in our area and I am off to see one ASAP (instead of waiting months). She has said I will be on  progesterone as well as Clexane next time as I tested positive for the MTHFR gene.

So progress, but still doesn't bring back our little girl or the little one prior :(

#30 Pal30

Posted 08 July 2019 - 12:30 PM

I completely understand mama j.

Our last embryo was graded 4AB so pretty qood quality :( it's just my body that rejected it :(

Now that the endo is gone now and with clexane and prednisolone we should get our rainbow 🤞

I hope the same for you.

Im just soooo incredibly thankful that I got my son and daughter before the endo :(

#31 mama_j

Posted 08 July 2019 - 01:25 PM

Fingers crossed Pal!! I am wondering if she wants to do some tests to see if I have Endo/Adeno also? I have PCOS...

I'm also so very thankful we have our 2 healthy, beautiful boys xxx

#32 BeachesBaby

Posted 08 July 2019 - 05:38 PM

View PostM2468, on 06 July 2019 - 03:13 PM, said:

I think what I struggle with about this couple is that they used to ask me how I was going when they were trying too, but since she got pregnant it's just like 'oh let me show you this scan picture' and they've never once asked again or acknowledged that while their story has moved on, mine still hasn't...

I’ve noticed this a lot too, and I feel like it’s almost fear of being too grief adjacent, the way people don’t like to bring up something that’s too sad or too hard to talk about. Like when someone you know dies, people don’t want to talk about it, almost as if they’re afraid that being too close to your grief will bring grief to them too, and if they avoid it then it’s not happening to you and it will never happen to them. In my experience it feels like people who do this believe on some subconscious level that if they don’t acknowledge anyone else’s struggle or miscarriage or grief then they’re keeping themselves immune from those things, and bringing them up could somehow put them too grief adjacent, inviting that type of misery into their lives. It’s almost like the feeling that I know most people have when they hear someone else has had a tragedy, the “but for the grace of god there goes I” feeling, of oh wow, at least it wasn’t me.

It completely sucks and people are just thoughtless jerks sometimes too, but I’ve done a lot of pondering on the topic over the past many many months, and this is what I’ve come up with. I’m willing to admit most people can’t all be thoughtless jerks, so there has to be something else behind it.

#33 loulou1985

Posted 08 July 2019 - 06:15 PM

I would think it was more common that people would avoid the topic for fear of bringing up the grief and feelings of the affected person rather than to avoid the grief themselves. I know that would have been my reason in the past but I've come to learn that most people prefer to talk about losses etc rather than to ignore them.

#34 Gabbitz

Posted 08 July 2019 - 07:39 PM

I’ve been on this journey now for over 10 years. Thankful that we have our son due to an anonymous donor, but we went through 10 IVF cycles and the last three cycles we got no viable eggs collected. Because we’ve been on this journey for so long, I’ve copped a lot of comments, silences, gossip etc from people.

I found that I had to pull away from some ‘friends’ because some of them would make comments that were just so clueless! In hindsight, I wish I had been able to call them out about it at the time, but it all hurt too much at the time.

If you can, surround yourself with people who are positive. Not necessarily those who just placate you - personally those people get on my nerves. But those friends who can give you a hug when you need it, who can give you a decent distraction when you need it and those who make you laugh!

BTW, my doc had me on Valium during my last cycle (my son!) I think it helped being less stressed!

I was also on progesterone- we found that I didn’t react to tablets or pessaries as my levels were really low and got lower even with double dosages. I ended up on progesterone injections. I do wonder if that was my issue with other IVF cycles.

I’m sorry for those ladies who are struggling at the moment. I hope you do have people who can be supportive around you.

We’re currently waiting for AF. Once that arrives, I start IVF drugs. Not sure when our donor is starting, but hoping we will be able to do a transfer late in July.

Good luck ladies for this month.

#35 M2468

Posted 09 July 2019 - 05:33 PM

I think I'm more than happy not to talk about our TTC journey with people I'm not close to - but for those that I have let in who then haven't been able (for whatever reason) to engage it has been disappointing and I can definitely see us drifting apart a bit because of it.

As for me - CD1 today, right on time as usual. I suppose I can look forward to my first FS visit on 1 August.

#36 Gabbitz

Posted 09 July 2019 - 06:01 PM

CD1 for me too.
I see my FS on Thursday. We start IVF injections on Friday. Not sure yet when Transfer will be. Hoping end of July.

#37 Emm24

Posted 09 July 2019 - 08:38 PM

Not sure if this will be a silly question, but does anyone have any experience with excess estrogen levels?
How you found out, treatment etc?

#38 Gabbitz

Posted 09 July 2019 - 08:56 PM

I remember during my IVF cycles to estrogen is one of the hormones tested for routinely.  But I was also on high levels of Sandrena gel - estrogen. So a certain amount of estrogen is good. I don’t really know what the implications of excess estrogen would be. I know it’s vital in forming blood vessels to the uterus early in a pregnancy.

Not sure if any of that helps.

#39 Keepswimming

Posted 10 July 2019 - 11:04 AM

So sorry to hear of people's struggles, it's definitely a difficult ride. I didn't post in June as unlike the several months prior we didn't try very hard as my anxiety was playing up. I've had a few strange symptoms the last week or 2: light headed, strong ability to smell etc. AF due today so I thought meh why not test. Boom, BFP. I'm so shocked and a bit nervous due to my age (39)- hopefully it will go all the way. Good luck everyone. X

Edited by Keepswimming, 10 July 2019 - 11:47 AM.

#40 Veryclucky

Posted 10 July 2019 - 11:20 AM

Hi, I posted in the June TTC group a couple of times about our monitored cycle but wasn't very good at keeping up with everyone and was going to post in here yesterday but then decided to test first as I had an inkling that this might be the month.

Very faint :BFP: and had a blood test at the FS today so fingers crossed, the numbers come back ok.

I just thought I would let the other couple of ladies in here that just got their BFP know, that Sandra has nicely just opened the new March 2020 DIG. So when you are ready, pop over and join me in the chat thread :)

And best of luck to everyone else, I hope it is your month too.

#41 Gabbitz

Posted 10 July 2019 - 12:06 PM

Wow. Awesome ladies. It’s so exciting seeing some BFP’s coming through. All the best.

#42 Pal30

Posted 10 July 2019 - 05:17 PM

Congratulations Veryclucky and Keepswimming :)

#43 First30

Posted 10 July 2019 - 07:21 PM

Congratulations ladies :)

#44 Bumbleflop

Posted 10 July 2019 - 07:29 PM

Congratulations on the BFPs! :) everything crossed they are sticky little beans xxx

I’ll be doing my first IVF cycle this month, starting in a day or two. Expected AF by now and the cramps and feeling like poo are well and truly here and have been for a couple days so ready for some action. Tested yesterday and BFN so not expecting one of those miracle BFPs just before IVF lol picked up all my meds and just want to get started.

#45 loulou1985

Posted 10 July 2019 - 07:58 PM

Congratulations! I'm going to test on Friday morning!

#46 M2468

Posted 11 July 2019 - 08:34 AM

Congrats ladies and good luck loulou!

#47 onetrick

Posted 11 July 2019 - 01:47 PM

Congratulations!! I love seeing the BFPs in here :)

For me- I tested yesterday (AF hasn't arrived and should have Monday according to the app, Wednesday according to normal cycle length...) and it was a BFN. I dont feel like I normally do when AF is due, but cant argue with a negative test... guess I'll wait and see...

#48 Gabbitz

Posted 11 July 2019 - 02:09 PM

Sigh. Saw FS today. Thought we were starting a donor IVF cycle, but unfortunately the doctor didn’t get us synced up. We’ve got to wait another month now. Supposedly my donor is due for AF early August. I should be due then too so the hope is that we can do a fresh cycle in August now.

Bitterly disappointed.  I was all psyched up to get started tomorrow.

I should have known better, having been through it all before that it’s not easy trying to align two people.

Good luck everyone else this month.

#49 ljp89

Posted 11 July 2019 - 11:09 PM

Happy to see a couple of BFPs in here! Congrats ladies.

I’m going to join in with the ones who are having a hard time though. And I know I don’t have it bad by any means, but I’m already frustrated with TTC number 2 and we’re only on our 2nd cycle TTC. I’ve had irregular cycles. I’m on CD10 with no idea how long my cycle will actually be or when I’m due to ovulate and I just feel like it’s a losing battle. We are DTD every second day and I’m frustrated now because I’m nowhere near testing time and I just want this cycle to be over or be pregnant already and I’m overthinking and it’s making me crazy and making the sex s chore.

Please someone tell me how you chill out when you get all these feels?

#50 loulou1985

Posted 12 July 2019 - 05:45 AM

BFN for me so think I'm out for July!

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