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Would you use your maiden name as a middle name?


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#1 teddytbumpandme

Posted 20 June 2019 - 09:46 AM

DP and I like to go in with a backup name incase our first pick doesn't suit bub. Our backup this time has my maiden name as the middle name.
Given that we're not married (yet, we are engaged) and I still use my maiden name, should we go in with our third choice instead, which is an extremely popular boys name with DP's middle name and I was hoping to wait for its popularity to die down before using it.

#2 SeaPrincess

Posted 20 June 2019 - 09:51 AM

I have friends who have used their maiden name for each child’s middle name, regardless of gender, and cousins (M and F) who all have a family name from their father’s side as their middle name. It’s not unheard of, but I don’t think my maiden name would have been a good choice.

#3 magic_marker

Posted 20 June 2019 - 09:52 AM

If my surname suited the other names. I would do it.

#4 born.a.girl

Posted 20 June 2019 - 09:54 AM

At least he'd always be able to remember the answer to 'what's your mother's maiden name' in those security questions.

#5 Ayr

Posted 20 June 2019 - 09:57 AM

Mine, no, but so many surnames these days are used as first names that it depends what it is. I know someone who used her maiden name as a first name for her son, she's one of three girls so it wasn't going to carry on in her family, she decided to use it as the first name.

#6 seayork2002

Posted 20 June 2019 - 09:57 AM

If it worked as a name yes

#7 kerilyntaryn

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:02 AM

I wouldnt, do your other children have it as their middle name?

#8 Ozquoll

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:06 AM

I wouldn’t personally, but only because I have a weird German maiden name that would sound silly 🤪!

#9 Bereckii

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:06 AM

I know families that have done this. They have done it for all of their children though, not just the one.

As pp's have said, it does depend on the maiden name though.

#10 teddytbumpandme

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:09 AM

My maiden name is Edwards so I'd use Edward which is perfectly fine as a name! Our firstborn's middle name is William which is the same as his Pop and Uncle from his dad's side - I don't like either of my brothers middle names  (one deceased) so thought my maiden name would still be a nice way to include something from their names.
Our first pick has my dad's middle name as the middle name.

#11 Threelittleducks

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:14 AM

All of our children have my surname as a second middle name. I didn't take DH's name, and I and the kids like having my name as part of their name too. We chose not to do a double barreled surname.

#12 kerilyntaryn

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:24 AM

View Postteddytbumpandme, on 20 June 2019 - 10:09 AM, said:

My maiden name is Edwards so I'd use Edward which is perfectly fine as a name! Our firstborn's middle name is William which is the same as his Pop and Uncle from his dad's side - I don't like either of my brothers middle names  (one deceased) so thought my maiden name would still be a nice way to include something from their names.
Our first pick has my dad's middle name as the middle name.
I think that would work well then

#13 José

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:28 AM

i absolutely would

#14 ali-song

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:30 AM

View Postborn.a.girl, on 20 June 2019 - 09:54 AM, said:

At least he'd always be able to remember the answer to 'what's your mother's maiden name' in those security questions.

I have my mother’s maiden name as my middle name, and tend not to choose that as a security question as it feels rather insecure! I did hate having a ‘boys name’ as a middle name when I was a child, but now I’m very fond of it.

My kids have either my mother’s maiden name or my paternal grandmother’s maiden name as their middle names.

#15 Daffy2016

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:38 AM

View PostThreelittleducks, on 20 June 2019 - 10:14 AM, said:

All of our children have my surname as a second middle name. I didn't take DH's name, and I and the kids like having my name as part of their name too. We chose not to do a double barreled surname.

Exactly this.

#16 Luci

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:41 AM

DS has my maiden name as his middle name. It works well with his first & last name and is a name that is occasionally used as a first name for a male.

#17 Kiwi Bicycle

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:44 AM

DS has my surname as his surname. His middle name is DH's surname. It was the compromise for having my surname. It works fine as DS is mainly called First name- Surname and never his full name.

#18 2_little_boys

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:48 AM

My maiden name was Love.  We have 2 boys so that would be a no from me.

But DS12 has my mums maiden name, Campbell.

#19 mayahlb

Posted 20 June 2019 - 10:55 AM

Yeah no for my maiden name. I have super happy to get rid of it when I got married. It was long and complicated and double barreled without the hyphen, and as dad's surname consisted of multiple "words" is was often problematic. Especially as the first half was English and the second half obviously French. And so was 3 words and 13 letters... then add in the double barreled hyphenated middle name. I swear my moniker was about the length of one of the royal children in Britain.

If I was planning on giving my child my maiden name as a middle name it would need to be suitable as a name and I would be firm on all children having it was their middle name. My kids have a middle name from relatives. One from my side of the family (my oldest brother who passed away) and one from DH's side of the family (his maternal grandfather).

#20 lalalove

Posted 20 June 2019 - 11:06 AM

I think it's a nice idea, and if it suits then go for it.

#21 dadwasathome

Posted 20 June 2019 - 11:22 AM

Both our boys have DP's surname as a middle name. I've seen other people use the same name as a first name.

#22 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 20 June 2019 - 11:35 AM

View PostBereckii, on 20 June 2019 - 10:06 AM, said:

I know families that have done this. They have done it for all of their children though, not just the one.
I know a few families where this has been done - all the kids have the same middle name. Mother's birth name as the middle name, father's birth name as the last name.

Eg Mia Atkins Williams, Jared Atkins Williams

#23 melbun

Posted 20 June 2019 - 12:03 PM

Yes, it's a Scottish tradition.

My father had 2 middle names that were surnames of other branches of the family.

#24 Tinkle Splashes

Posted 20 June 2019 - 12:15 PM

I really wish I had! Scottish maiden name often used as a girl’s name now.

#25 Future-self

Posted 20 June 2019 - 12:21 PM

View PostThreelittleducks, on 20 June 2019 - 10:14 AM, said:

All of our children have my surname as a second middle name. I didn't take DH's name, and I and the kids like having my name as part of their name too. We chose not to do a double barreled surname.
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