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#1 MsLaurie

Posted 01 June 2019 - 07:20 PM

DH will be 40 later this year, and seems keen on An Actual Party. He’s already got the playlist under development!
But in the grand tradition of these things, the rest is likely to be my job... so, what do I need to think about for a grownups focused party at home? It’s been a long time since we hosted anything similar!

Edited by MsLaurie, 01 June 2019 - 07:20 PM.

#2 luke's mummu

Posted 01 June 2019 - 08:38 PM

Decide whether kids are invited or not, and if they are plan some activities for them


Posted 01 June 2019 - 08:48 PM

Catering. I had my 40th at home and we had caterers and staff to serve the food and drinks. Meant I did not have to worry about any of that and could just enjoy myself.

#4 EsmeLennox

Posted 01 June 2019 - 09:32 PM

Catering and booze.

#5 Caitlin Happymeal

Posted 02 June 2019 - 08:14 AM

I went to one last night! Fabulously catered by a local butcher. Was a lovely night - birthday girl did way too much but that's in her nature - you could get caterers to organise the food service aspect too. For the kids, sausages in hot dog rolls. Worked a treat.

#6 Lifesgood

Posted 02 June 2019 - 09:04 AM

For DHs 50th at home we had An Actual Party and did the following and we thought it was a terrific success:
  • no kids apart from very young babies (this is not a big deal - kids or no kids works fine, you may just need to start the party earlier if you are having young kids so they can go home at a reasonable hour)
  • food caterers/servers - they also served the drinks
  • provided own nibblies, tea/coffee, alcohol, soft drinks
  • decorations to make the place look festive
  • music - like your DH, mine created a playlist and we have a sound system throughout the house
  • a slide show of photos of the birthday boy throughout his life. We hooked it up to the TV and played it on repeat through the night.
  • cake - a niece who is clever with cakes made an amazing aviation-themed cake for my aviation-mad DH
  • DH made a speech

#7 Lees75

Posted 02 June 2019 - 10:05 AM

I had my 40th at home. I didn’t do a meal, but did a dessert bar, which my mum and I managed, with the help of Costco. I hired a karaoke machine, which was lots of fun. When I found out it was forecast to be 44 degrees, I also hired a slushy machine. The kids loved it, until the vodka went in at 8.30pm.

#8 Christmas tree

Posted 02 June 2019 - 10:12 AM

As above catering. Self help bar/drinks area. Buy a cake. Outsource outsource.  We did minimal decorations (hung up some lights).  

Make a plan for inclement weather,or just cold weather (maybe a fire pit and some blankets).

If you want kids to come think about staring it mid afternoon so people with kids can come and stay for a bit. We did a bit of a staged party. 4ish for kids and then adults without all arrived a bit later.  We also set up a seperate table of plates, water cups etc for kids so we could stop them hovering around the adult area.

We also did a bbq with sausages for the kids to keep the catering costs down. I just put a couple of guys in charge.

#9 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 02 June 2019 - 10:15 AM

Get it catered. Get Paella.

We did a big party (1st birthday) that was mostly adults, maybe 50 people at our home, and we got a mob that does giant Paellas.  It worked so well.  Firstly, the vegetarian one was gluten free, meat free, nut free, egg free, it suited almost all the allergies/preferences of everyone we knew.  And the meat one was also gluten free, egg free, nut free also.  So everyone just ate, no separates, no fuss.  There was plenty of food, plus a side of bread, there was leftovers.  The bowls and cutlery were paper based so no plastic waste.  He set up outside, so no kitchen needed other than a tiny bit of prep. At serving tiem it was so quick to give everyone a spoonful of paella, everyone was served quickly. It was soooo delicious.  Everyone said it was great.

Plus we had a drinks table, lay it out so everyone can easily serve themselves, that way youre not tied up as the host serving drinks
I did a few desserts, and we bought the cake, and we had a few chips and dip/nibbles platters before hand and everyone was stuffed by the end.

Easy, not too expensive, everyone catered for.

(And keep speeches to a minimum, especially if a mixed crowd, e.g. work colleagues might lose interest in some long anecdote about your DH in high school... and when people lose interest they chat and everyone cant hear)

Edited by ~LemonMyrtle~, 02 June 2019 - 10:19 AM.

#10 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 11 June 2019 - 02:10 PM

I did a lunch-into-dinner thing. Friends with young kids came for the lunch-afternoon part, other friends came late afternoon and stayed for dinner. It meant it wasn't super busy and I had time to chat with everyone.

The lunch was ordered from a local cafe (salads, frittatta, etc) and DH picked it up - massive spread on the table. The dinner was catered (indian) and delivered to us mid-afternoon, too easy (just heat and serve, we borrowed a large bain marie for that). It was very relaxed and laid back. We had several eskys around the place for drinks so that people could help themselves. Thankfully weather was fine and we could use the backyard to maximum.

(It was BYO chair, we didn't want to have to organise seating for everyone).

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