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#1 winterlove

Posted 20 May 2019 - 10:17 PM

I am really struggling to meet the demands of three children in school.

I am wondering how others manage?

I always feel pulled in so many directions and it makes me so irritable when I am trying to help one child and the other two are calling my name.

Tonight I was trying to help one with debating while the other is yelling for me to help with mathematics and the 5 year old just wants attention.

With working 4 days a week. I find it hard to get any homework done and then there are speeches (which are left to the last minute), readers (which don't get read), musical instrument practise (which hardly happens)......

The house is small, hectic and not conducive to anyone concentrating. I think I should have put this in venting

#2 tenar

Posted 20 May 2019 - 10:31 PM

What is the evening timetable like in your household OP?

What time do the kids get home from school?  If they are in after-school care, can they do homework there or could someone get them home earlier so they can get a start on it?

This year for us the kids are home about 4pm three days a week.  They take a break, then do homework and instrument practise and showering from 5.30, dinner is at 6.30-7, bedtime at 7.30-8.  Usually one showers while the other does music practise and vice versa.  They get varying amounts of my time depending on how busy I am and whether I am home at all.  I find that they do need the downtime for an hour or so after school and they do need to be helped to get into their homework etc from 5.30 because othewise they would just keep playing.   Having a pretty rigid routine about these days helps: everyone knows the pattern.

The other two days they either get home late and staight to dinner, after an activity, or they get home at 4 but go straight out again for their music lessons.  Not much homework gets done those days: we live with it.  Music practise also happens on weekends, of necessity.

Mine are 7 and 10.  Only the two of them, so an easier load than your 3.

#3 amdirel

Posted 20 May 2019 - 10:37 PM

I feel your pain.
I don't manage it either.
The only thing is now the oldest no longer needs much help with schoolwork, except the occasional quizzing him on exam notes, and my opinions on engineering designs. So that just leaves the other two. And that's in between driving them all around the place every afternoon for extracurriculars.

#4 ABabyPlease

Posted 23 May 2019 - 10:13 PM

Just to wanted to respond but I can't really help as I only have one child.

Is there anything you could do to get more time for you and your DP to share the load?  Work less? Sea change? Tree change?

Best wishes, I'm sure I would be overwhelmed too.

#5 T2Mum

Posted 23 May 2019 - 10:28 PM

We have 4 kids. How we manage is that homework (other than nightly reading) is done on weekends at our house. Music practice is completed before school (everyone gets up at 6am).

It's only my eldest that has homework (other than reading) that has to be completed during the week, and she is capable of doing that without me.

All meals are prepared in advance (batch cooking and freezing).

Good luck OP.

#6 IShallWearMidnight

Posted 23 May 2019 - 11:29 PM

We have a roster and Google calendar. Meals are bulk cooked, reading happens after dinner and before showers. Housework is the weekends it's tough but I find it easier once they get oldera

#7 Jersey Caramel

Posted 24 May 2019 - 10:05 AM

View Postwinterlove, on 20 May 2019 - 10:17 PM, said:

I am really struggling to meet the demands of three children in school.

I am wondering how others manage?

I always feel pulled in so many directions and it makes me so irritable when I am trying to help one child and the other two are calling my name.

Tonight I was trying to help one with debating while the other is yelling for me to help with mathematics and the 5 year old just wants attention.

With working 4 days a week. I find it hard to get any homework done and then there are speeches (which are left to the last minute), readers (which don't get read), musical instrument practise (which hardly happens)......

The house is small, hectic and not conducive to anyone concentrating. I think I should have put this in venting

We have three school aged kids now,  and we do a staggered bedtime to try to be able to give them each a bit of focused time.  So the youngest has dinner,  piano practice,  shower, reader,  bed at 7.30pm. The middle has a shower at the same time and then does piano practice while I am doing the reader with youngest, then there is half an hour before his 8pm bedtime to help him with any homework/speeches etc. The eldest is good at managing himself,  but his bedtime is 8.30pm so he also has half an hour to get one on one help with a parent if needed. We do this routine every night,  regardless of whether it is me, DH or both of us at home (various work hours, work travel and volunteering commitments for both of us). Obviously it is much easier the nights when both of us are home. Lots of stuff also has to wait until the weekend to be caught up on. It's busy and tough,  and I think everyone finds it overwhelming a lot of the time. X

#8 dinosaurtrain

Posted 24 May 2019 - 10:56 AM

I could have written this post word for word!
We're swimming in washing, toys, dishes, etc etc.
I've actually hired a cleaner for an hour or two today just so I can catch up on housework/cleaning. I'm hoping the budget can stretch to having one more regularly!
We've recently implemented a jobs chary for after school which includes basics of clothes/bags away plus reader and some physical activity. That's been helpful to get the standard things done with reduced nagging and arguing!
It's hard. A constant juggle between all 3 kids and their individual needs. I think recognising that and being gentle with yourself is important. We're trying our best!
I like some of the other tips on this post. Need to start more batch cooking and get back onto online grocery shopping.

#9 Lallalla

Posted 24 May 2019 - 11:02 AM

3 kids are hard - I often feel overwhelmed. You just have to take a deep breath and remember you are doing your best. I don’t have much more practical suggestions as mine are 4,3 and 3 - so while I am being pulled in 3 directions constantly we are not up to homework yet

Edited by Lallalla, 24 May 2019 - 11:04 AM.


#10 Red Sparrow

Posted 24 May 2019 - 11:09 AM

I feel your pain.

I've got 3 kids and run a business and am a single Mum. So I totally get the feeling of being pulled in a million different directions. Some days I feel like I'm swimming in child admin (2 of mine have adhd and asd) and get barely any work done!

#11 Freddie'sMum

Posted 24 May 2019 - 11:11 AM

Do your kids go to before and after school care OP?  Can the kids start their homework at after school care?

Other than that OP I don't have any other suggestions.  I was working 4 days and I couldn't keep on top of everything - and we only have 2 kids in school.




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