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#26 EmmDasher

Posted 06 May 2019 - 10:22 PM

Pick your battles wisely.

#27 Claudia Jean

Posted 06 May 2019 - 10:41 PM

View Postxx1stxx, on 06 May 2019 - 08:41 PM, said:

Use a capsule, not a reversible car seat.  Nothing worse than waking a sleeping baby trying to get them in and out of the car! You don't need to drag the pram out every time you go somewhere and you don't need to find something clean and soft to lay them on while visiting friends etc....plus it doubles as a handbag!

Yep!! Got a capsule for my second. Worked a treat when going out near her sleep times, I'd feed her and put her in capsule inside, she'd fall asleep then I could just put her in the car when it was time to leave.  

My tip would be "don't interfere with a happy baby/toddler".  If they're having fun by themselves - leave them to it! The minute you interrupt to feed them/ talk/  ask a question/ etc etc etc the magical peace will disappear.

#28 (feral)epg

Posted 06 May 2019 - 10:47 PM

Listen to the parenting advice, try it and if it doesn't work then move on.  They're all different.

The vast vast majority of parents and babies somehow survive the first 5 years.  Some by the skin of the teeth but you generally get through.

#29 Octopodes

Posted 06 May 2019 - 10:49 PM

He is never going to be an ordinary child. Embrace his quirky awesomeness.

#30 EsmeLennox

Posted 06 May 2019 - 10:50 PM

Let them make mistakes and fail at things.

#31 Fresh Start

Posted 06 May 2019 - 11:02 PM

Like PPs forget the baby books - I drove myself to despair with number 1 as I was following the books and it wasn’t working. I’ve always been able to read the instructions and get it done, it hit me hard when the baby didn’t work the same way!

Follow your gut, everyone fobbed me off as a first time mother but my baby had awful reflux causing her to cry most of the day.

#32 No Drama Please

Posted 06 May 2019 - 11:03 PM

If they’re hungry, feed them, and if they’re tired, let them sleep.

Find a good GP, one that you can trust and that really listens and explains things really well.

Also remember no matter how bad things seem right now you will sleep again; all night, in your own bed!

#33 Ellie bean

Posted 06 May 2019 - 11:13 PM

Don’t bother leaving the house for the first year, if I had my time again I wouldn’t go anywhere for that year, wasn’t worth it.

#34 ~J_WTF~

Posted 07 May 2019 - 07:07 AM

View Postxx1stxx, on 06 May 2019 - 08:41 PM, said:

Use a capsule, not a reversible car seat.  Nothing worse than waking a sleeping baby trying to get them in and out of the car! You don't need to drag the pram out every time you go somewhere and you don't need to find something clean and soft to lay them on while visiting friends etc....plus it doubles as a handbag!


Opposite here. I hated the capsule, much preferred the reverse car seat. I never found any of those things you listed an issue. We would carry them, always had blankets to lay them on, the pram only came out for big outings...

Interesting what we all prefer!

#35 Chicken-little

Posted 07 May 2019 - 08:05 AM

When getting a baby to sleep, try forcing yourself to take deep slow breaths. The baby matches your rhythm and falls asleep. Worked for me anyway.

#36 WannabeMasterchef

Posted 07 May 2019 - 08:44 AM

You will need to push the doctors to convince them to take your childs tonsils out, but it is the right choice 110%.  DD was very sick for at least 9 months straight before and consistently well straight after.

#37 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 07 May 2019 - 09:02 AM

Babies don’t need to have a bath every day, and some babies will only nap for 30 minutes no matter what you do. They will probably sleep longer in time.

#38 Crooked Frame

Posted 07 May 2019 - 09:10 AM

Layer the cot- mattress protector, sheet, mattress protector, sheet.

If something isn't a problem for you, it isn't a problem.

Babies change constantly. Try not to worry too much about "bad habits", most of the time it's just a phase that will pass.

#39 Luci

Posted 07 May 2019 - 09:46 AM

As long as the baby is warm, dry, fed and loved you are doing a great job.

#40 ~LemonMyrtle~

Posted 07 May 2019 - 10:52 AM

View PostCrooked Frame, on 07 May 2019 - 09:10 AM, said:

Layer the cot- mattress protector, sheet, mattress protector, sheet.

If something isn't a problem for you, it isn't a problem.

Babies change constantly. Try not to worry too much about "bad habits", most of the time it's just a phase that will pass.

and kids beds! three layers. Especially when gastro strikes.

#41 Feral33

Posted 07 May 2019 - 11:35 AM

Crying and vomiting for five continuous hours everyday isn't normal (for you or the baby).

#42 Crooked Frame

Posted 07 May 2019 - 12:20 PM

View Post~LemonMyrtle~, on 07 May 2019 - 10:52 AM, said:

and kids beds! three layers. Especially when gastro strikes.

Yes, it still comes in handy with our 4yo!

#43 JoanJett

Posted 07 May 2019 - 12:35 PM

Looking after a baby is the easy part.  It's raising a person that's hard.

#44 Hellbent

Posted 07 May 2019 - 12:40 PM

When purchasing first "big bed" make it a double or a queen straight off the bat.  Single beds are a struggle with a sick/unsettled kid and they'll be 12 before you know it.

#45 polythene

Posted 07 May 2019 - 01:09 PM

Look after yourself too. Take time out to exericse, read a book, go to a movie when you can. The baby will be fine.

Ask for help - friends, family, doctor, baby health nurse. You're not alone.

Your baby has two parents (if you have a partner). Make parenting a team effort, it's new and scary for both of you.

Trust your instinct - you know your baby best.

Be consistent (this applies more when they get older!).

Take time to absorb all the cute things they do, they're not little for very long.

Babies/kids don't need lots of toys and stuff. They do need to be read to, however, as often as you can.

Cloth nappies are useful in so many ways.

if everyone's fed, warm, dry and loved, you're doing really well.

#46 123tree

Posted 07 May 2019 - 01:10 PM

Nothing needs to be permanent. Just because you start something doesn’t mean you have to stick with it going forward. Once it doesn’t work anymore change back or just change.


If your baby won’t sleep book into sleep school. Sleep deprivation is actually torture.

#47 Kallie88

Posted 07 May 2019 - 01:15 PM

Some babies just don't sleep. Stop beating yourself up about it.

And, when the midwives say he has a tongue tie let's wait and see, ignore them and get that damn thing snipped (obviously this relates to my personal experience, not advice I would give universally - that would be see an ibclc asap)
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Edited by Kallie88, 07 May 2019 - 01:18 PM.


#48 RichardParker

Posted 07 May 2019 - 01:45 PM

View PostNoodlez, on 06 May 2019 - 10:00 PM, said:

You may not be perfect and you may not get everything right but you are perfect for your baby.

Love this.  

I was going to say that your baby and child needs you to be You.
Not some fantasy idealised version of a mother. She needs you as your best and happiest self, with your strengths, interests, talents and personality. If that means you need to be working, or taking care of yourself in another way, then that’s the parent you need to be. The best example you can set for your child is to show them how to lead a good and fulfilling life.

#49 born.a.girl

Posted 07 May 2019 - 02:27 PM

View Postcstar, on 06 May 2019 - 09:20 PM, said:

You do not need to have a pristine bedroom for them with perfectly painted walls and Murels and colour co ordinated blankets and sheets and what not, they will not know!!!


I have to confess my MCHN was awful and made life a misery for the first couple of months with her advice (improved dramatically once I ignored it), but when she did the first home visit, the house was chaos as I worked from home with stock almost literally everywhere.

When I apologised for the state of it, she just looked around and said 'the baby doesn't care'.

#50 born.a.girl

Posted 07 May 2019 - 02:29 PM

View PostEmmDasher, on 06 May 2019 - 10:22 PM, said:

Pick your battles wisely.


Aint't that the truth?  Trouble is, in the midst of it, especially when it's your first, you've no idea whether it's a thunderstorm that will pass, or if you're setting a precedent for bad habits for life.

It's usually the first.




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