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#101 No girls here

Posted 27 April 2019 - 04:28 PM

I have 3 boys and DH and I both came from families with 3 kids and we would definitely go for 3 if we had our time again. My kids get along great for the most part and none of them are left out.

In terms of home life, I didn't find 2-3 that difficult.  My first child was a horrendous baby and his first year of life was far and away more difficult than any time where I have had 3 kids. Now they are 14, 13 and 7 I find them pretty easy!

I don't know if people assumed that I went for #3 to get a girl, but I have had heaps and heaps of comments after having 3 boys about whether I am going to go back again for a girl.

The one thing I have found difficult is trying to keep up with their extra-curricular activities.  Even if they're not doing all that much individually it adds up with 3 of them, the time being more of a problem than the cost for me. Just with soccer alone we have 6 training sessions at different times each week and sometimes they all have a game at the same time at different grounds and we don't have any family help so we have to ask for favours if we want to get them all there.

Another issue with expenses is family holidays. A lot of places (and a lot of cheap deals!) are set up for a family of 4.  We often have to get 2 rooms when we travel, so it can increase the cost of a family holiday quite significantly.

#102 Summer81

Posted 27 April 2019 - 08:27 PM

Is 3 harder? Absolutely. If I had my time again would I stick with 2? No. My 3rd is a little ray of sunshine who brings joy to everyone who meets her. She doted on by her big brothers and has completed our little family.

We get less sleep. We have less money. Days seem longer, nights as well. But we are enriched by having her in our lives far beyond anything I could have imagined.

This from a mum of 3 who was horribly sick the entire pregnancy and for most of the time wished we weren't having a third.

She is 6 months old now and I know that despite the lack of sleep we are in the honeymoon period. I know it'll get harder. But that's OK.

#103 WannabeMasterchef

Posted 28 April 2019 - 10:01 AM

View PostERipley, on 25 April 2019 - 01:38 PM, said:

I agree it must be much harder with a stressful job, but what a lot of working parents don’t get is that SAHPs don’t actually get time during the day to get all the extra work done. You’re busy with your children.

Im not trying to pick a fight here but having non sleeping children is certainly not restricted to SAHP. I worked full time in a demanding job with a 1yo and 2yo that were constantly sick and never slept until they had their tonsils out. I remember waiting at the bus stop hoping a car would run me over so that I could go to hospital rather than to work, because in a hospital I could sleep.  - (I cant even comprehend how you did it with 3! )

Reading that back I must be mad to be having a 3rd now ! :omg:
Im part time now though, so for me personally thats much easier than working full time. And my other 2 are older so it 'should' be easier. I hope....

Edited by WannabeMasterchef, 28 April 2019 - 10:32 AM.


#104 Kallie88

Posted 28 April 2019 - 12:34 PM

View PostWannabeMasterchef, on 28 April 2019 - 10:01 AM, said:



Im not trying to pick a fight here but having non sleeping children is certainly not restricted to SAHP. I worked full time in a demanding job with a 1yo and 2yo that were constantly sick and never slept until they had their tonsils out. I remember waiting at the bus stop hoping a car would run me over so that I could go to hospital rather than to work, because in a hospital I could sleep.  - (I cant even comprehend how you did it with 3! )

Reading that back I must be mad to be having a 3rd now ! :omg:
Im part time now though, so for me personally thats much easier than working full time. And my other 2 are older so it 'should' be easier. I hope....

Fx your third is a sleeper xx

#105 WannabeMasterchef

Posted 07 May 2019 - 11:47 AM

View PostKallie88, on 28 April 2019 - 12:34 PM, said:

Fx your third is a sleeper xx

Thank you!




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