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It's finally here! (possible tmi menopause)


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#1 gruidae

Posted 21 April 2019 - 04:04 PM

The day I've been waiting for for over three decades has finally arrived!!!

After a false start 18 months ago I am finally officially in menopause as of today :clap: Last time I thought I was done I made it to 11.5 months then bled for 6 months straight which 2 D&Cs failed to stop, much of that time haemorrhaging

Equipment never functioned as advertised - I had a 2 weeks on 2 weeks off cycle since I was 16 because all my cycles were annovulatory due to a genetic screwup which endocrinology can't override. I spent half of the past 33 years in pain, needing to rush out of meetings to the ladies and being scared that diving off the blocks at a swimming meet, sneezing or laughing would cause a flood.

My hope has been growing because I've had hot flushes for the past 2 years plus a bit of insomnia. Before perimenopause I'd have massive mood swings. I struggled with suicidal thoughts in the three days before my period every single month - then 14 days of pain and bleeding. While the swings still happen mildly at random intervals, it's nowhere near as often or as bad as before. It's more I feel a little down or a little grumpy - not "I'm a mistake and I need to die now" that you get before the change.

I'd rather have 100 hot flushes a day for the rest of my life than ever, ever have to have another period. Nature has been kind for once and I only seem to flush half a dozen times a day for about 5 minutes, which isn't very intrusive at all compared the incredibily loud tantrums I'm used to from my body.

It's also given me the gift of adult size breasts- Finally b cups at 49, just in the nick of time to stay safe with the meteoric rise of the "ïs her body a female enough shape?" women policing each other in bathrooms. I'd been getting quite scared reading about stuff going on for women whose bodies don't fit stereotypes like me.

Soooo happy :excite:  I'm free!!!!!!  And now I can justify eating all the cheesePosted Image Partner will go "Where's the rest of that cheddar?" and I can be naughty and say "Just preventing osteoporosis babe, sorry"

#2 Lady Sybil Vimes

Posted 21 April 2019 - 04:11 PM

Congratulations!

#3 IamzFeralz

Posted 21 April 2019 - 04:36 PM

Great that life will be a bit easier for you!  That sounds a lot to suffer through for so long.

#4 somila

Posted 21 April 2019 - 05:07 PM

That is great news gruidae.  Are menopause parties a thing?  Maybe you could start a trend!
(Slightly terrified at the thought of bigger boobs though!)

#5 Chocolate Addict

Posted 21 April 2019 - 05:34 PM

Damn, I am older than you and mine is still hanging around. Stops for a while then comes back like clockwork for a few months then buggers off, repeat.

I am hoping this time is it, but I am doubting it. :p

Sometimes being a woman sucks.

#6 Ktonic

Posted 21 April 2019 - 05:57 PM

Congratulations - I’m so envious, why am I 49 too and still ticking along every 26-28 days?? (sulks a bit)

ETA: how is today the “official” one, has it been a certain length of time since any carry on or is there another measure, if you don’t mind my asking?

Edited by Ktonic, 21 April 2019 - 05:59 PM.


#7 Chchgirl

Posted 21 April 2019 - 06:04 PM

View PostKtonic, on 21 April 2019 - 05:57 PM, said:

Congratulations - I’m so envious, why am I 49 too and still ticking along every 26-28 days?? (sulks a bit)

ETA: how is today the “official” one, has it been a certain length of time since any carry on or is there another measure, if you don’t mind my asking?


Me too, I still ovulate as well, I'll be 51 in june. I'll be 55 or older at this rate! Mine's never stopped except when i was on depo for a few years, which i loved and my dr wouldn't let me take again last year!

Congratulations Gruidae, it must be a relief!

#8 spr_maiden

Posted 21 April 2019 - 07:07 PM

Congrats OP, sounds like a huge relief for you.  I hope it goes quickly and you get to be pain free sooner rather than later.

#9 gruidae

Posted 22 April 2019 - 11:51 AM

View PostKtonic, on 21 April 2019 - 05:57 PM, said:

Congratulations - I’m so envious, why am I 49 too and still ticking along every 26-28 days?? (sulks a bit)

ETA: how is today the “official” one, has it been a certain length of time since any carry on or is there another measure, if you don’t mind my asking?

It's 12 months since the last neverending period, which is the medical definition. I made it to 11 months 2 weeks 18 months ago and blood test said I should have been in menopause, then -surprise!-pretty horrific for 6 months.that no medical intervention could stop . I noted the date that horror finally stopped - because I've been looking forward to this for a long long time.

For those PP still waiting, mine may be slightly earlier than many folks as things were never even vaguely normal due to a genetic difference which meant I've been annovulatory my entire life but pituitary gland still signalling uterine shedding, if that makes sense. You don't need to ovulate to get a period but if you don't ovulate, they're longer, heavier and more painful than what women who ovulate experience.

Yes, a small celebration was had. I threw my iron supplement I'd been hanging on to just in case in the bin and my partner made her famous shoo-fly pie. Today I have a sugar hangover :blush: I'm still skeptical enough I haven't had the courage to ditch my lucky tampon stash out of my bag though, I'm scared of provoking the fates , lol.

Edited by gruidae, 22 April 2019 - 11:54 AM.


#10 Treasure Island

Posted 13 May 2019 - 02:04 PM

Yay :cheer:

I am in peri-menopause and have had 2 periods this year - one for my birthday in January and one started yesterday for Mother's Day :rofl: I think I need to talk to my body about appropriate gift-giving.

#11 seayork2002

Posted 13 May 2019 - 02:20 PM

I have been I was in peri-menopause (found a growth and have full blood tests every few months or so) but had total regular periods throughout

The last couple have been weird I had period pains halfway between one period and another, never happened before then it stops and starts throughout the normal period

I am sick of it already!!!!

I just want the whole thing to be over!

When I was younger I could predict it to the minute now I have no flippin idea!

#12 Veritas Vinum Arte

Posted 13 May 2019 - 02:26 PM

Seayork, I happily wear Thinx undies everyday as NFI when period is turning up. My cycles can be bleeding for 36hrs or flooding for 5 days.

ETA Endocrinologist also has NFI what is happening too.

Edited by Veritas Vinum Arte, 13 May 2019 - 02:27 PM.


#13 seayork2002

Posted 13 May 2019 - 02:33 PM

View PostVeritas Vinum Arte, on 13 May 2019 - 02:26 PM, said:

Seayork, I happily wear Thinx undies everyday as NFI when period is turning up. My cycles can be bleeding for 36hrs or flooding for 5 days.

ETA Endocrinologist also has NFI what is happening too.

Thanks I will check them out




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