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#1 AIR

Posted 08 March 2019 - 01:58 PM

Wasn’t sure where to put this but thought here would be a safe place.

I went out for dinner last week and put on what I thought was a nice dress, it was a family get together with my partners family some from up state.

So photos were taken, and I’ve just seen them as they were put on Facebook.

So I’m currently sitting here crying, I look absolutely disgusting and huge I know that I’m big but I had no idea how big😢.

To put it in prospective I’m 1.65cm tall and 89kgs , I’m gutted that I’ve let myself go to the point that I look like that.

More so I’m disappointed that I didn’t realise just how bad I’d become.

Not sure why I’ve posted besides needing to let it out

#2 Odd-1-Out

Posted 08 March 2019 - 02:16 PM


I know how you feel. A few years ago I saw pictures of myself and felt the same. I had been obese (I thought just overweight) for at least 10 years. I decided to make a drastic change and after a few years and even a baby later, I am in the healthy weight range.

I have lost 45 kilos to date, so it is possible and you can change. Everyone is different, so choose a weight plan that is right for you,and stick with it. I actually put my horrible photos on the fridge to help me stay on track.

You can do it!

#3 teaspoon

Posted 08 March 2019 - 03:32 PM

AIR, everybody takes ugly awkward photos when off guard. Everybody.

Don't get down on yourself. Sure, look to reduce if that's what you want but don't hate yourself in the process. You are not disgusting!

Follow some inspiring plus size sexy women (like London Andrews who is your height and weighs 145 kgs!) and love yourself back to shape.


#4 Little Bean

Posted 08 March 2019 - 04:06 PM

Wow, you could just about be me, right down to the height and weight measurements.
I had 'that' moment today, although it was looking at myself in a change-room mirror and just being horrified and disgusted that I had let it get this far.
DH and I are going out for dinner tonight for the first time in a long time, and I had no nice tops that still fit, so I went to buy one and was seriously disheartened about my size and everything looked horrible on me. I felt like what you described OP - I knew the weight was creeping up, but it really hit me just how much.
Unfortunately I don't have any advice, just a cyber hug because I know how it feels. I am going to try intermittent fasting because it sounds like something that could work for me. (I've tried gym, boot camp etc in the past and those things are just not me - for me it's going to come down to cutting out a lot of food and changing my choices).
I have been feeling pretty down on myself lately but I try to remind myself that my weight is not me - I am a kind and generally happy person with a lot to offer my family, friends and co-workers, and I'm sure you are too! Good luck. xx

#5 Jenflea

Posted 08 March 2019 - 04:33 PM

Photos are notorious for making you look sh*t.

Bad lighting, bad angles, having just eaten a good meal, time of the month, you name it.

#6 reesan

Posted 11 March 2019 - 11:36 AM

I am that same weight, but taller - 185cm. I have been losing and have lost 23kg over the last 18 months. Mainly just learning about calorie counting and calorie density, reducing portion sizes overall and eating some 'better' foods but with regular treats. Moving more too but that's been intermittent.

I still need to lose another 5kg to get to a healthy weight for my height and probably hope to lose another 10kg, so I would think at your height yes it'd be great for your health to lose some weight.

But it doesn't need to be a crazy extreme diet, if you can improve your diet by 10 percent and improve your activity by 10 percent that's a fantastic start. Look for something you could still be doing in 5 years rather than a quick fix.

#7 *bucket*

Posted 11 March 2019 - 02:14 PM

I'm about 164cm, and was about 98kg. I'm down to 86kg since starting 16:8 a few months ago. I am finding it generally easy to do, although I have to watch what I eat in the late afternoon, as I take some notorious-for-weight-gain medication around 3pm and get peckish after that. I mostly feel great about my loss, and have a whole "new" wardrobe (of things that now fit again). I know I have a way to go yet, and my loss has slowed down somewhat, but I feel this is something I can do indefinitely.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I am in very few pictures as I don't want to be seen. No one has noticed that I've lost as I'm still big, even though it's a smaller big.

#8 Overtherainbow

Posted 13 March 2019 - 11:13 PM

You’re me. I had my moment at the start of this year. I decided this year is my year to deal with my weight and my bad habits.

I have lost nearly 10kg and I now have a healthy BMI. I’ve increased exercise and decreased calories. Feeling happier and better for it. Still have more to go. Still hate photos.

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