Due in Nov 2019 chat #1
, Mar 08 2019 09:08 AM
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Posted 13 March 2019 - 08:41 PM
Hey ladies, hope you’re all travelling well this week.
About me, I’m from and living in Sydney.
We haven’t decided whether we’ll find out sex yet. I did with my daughter, kind of like the idea of a surprise for this one:) My DP is set on it being a boy, of course!
Due date by LMP is 4th November, have a dating scan next week.
Anyone have any creative ways to explain not drinking? I have a work trip in a couple of weeks where there will be a few dinners, I would normally have a glass of wine. There’s the old “antibiotics” line I suppose, what has worked for you?
Edited by DK3000, 13 March 2019 - 08:42 PM.
Posted 13 March 2019 - 08:42 PM
Wow Claire you're getting heaps of blood tests! I only had one. It was a few days before my scheduled test and I was told having it early I would need a follow up but after having it done I was told the numbers were good so didn't need to do it again.
Ck - I hope you're feeling ok today and you haven't had more bleeding.
Posted 13 March 2019 - 08:46 PM
Welcome DK3000. I haven't had to get out of drinking at a bar or anything yet but I had a couple of catch ups at friends houses the past couple of weekends and replaced the liquid in some mixed drink bottles with flavoured mineral water. Just have to make sure they're twist top 😁
Posted 13 March 2019 - 08:51 PM
Jelly I did the same thing last weekend- put water in a rekorderlig bottle haha! Except it wasn’t twist so I had to get it on again and off once I was there;)
I find as long as you go to the bar and order your own drink and not a table bottle of wine you can get a lime and soda and say it has vodka in it or something?
Posted 13 March 2019 - 08:55 PM
Jelly: only because of early losses before this one and it’s monitored through my Fertility Specialist so they are a bit over the top but it has me reassured until my scan next week, then I think I can take a deeper breath out of relief.
Posted 13 March 2019 - 09:23 PM
DK I've used the antibiotics line, have also had a glass that I pretended to nurse but then swapped with hubby to drink at NYE however if it's a work event then might not work for u. lime in soda water, mocktails,or if religious could say ur giving up alcohol for Lent. or just say you're trying detox?
Posted 13 March 2019 - 09:28 PM
Oh wow so many messages!
Claire, your numbers are very similar to mine:
6w 28,000 (that was yesterday)
I was really confused and a tiny bit concerned by the 3rd test but I think FS is being extra cautious as I've had 2 previous losses. Regardless, they're finally happy and now scan is next Tuesday. I definitely wouldn't worry if I were you!
MrsP I feel for you working as a nurse right now, I am permanently exhausted and I'm currently at home everyday with a toddler who gives me at least 3 hours a day where I can catch a nap! On the positive side, it's good that you have an active job as being on your feet will help you adjust to your body changing as the pregnancy progresses.
My advice on the drinking at social events issue is just don't really make a big fuss of it. Presumably your work colleagues are not your best mates and are probably not that aware of your drinking habits to question why you aren't drinking. People really are too self-absorbed anyway to pay attention to how much others are drinking at work events, except for the person who goes too far! In my opinion going around making excuses for not drinking just draws attention to yourself and clued in women especially will not believe the 'antibiotics' story anyway. My last pregnancy I had a work event in Brisbane at 9 weeks and I just carried around the same glass of champagne the entire night, making sure to circulate to different people often. No one was the wiser. Work events are easy but good luck trying to fool your friends. I plan to just have breakfast dates with mine for the next month and a half so there's not even the possibility of drinks!
Sorry to throw another question into the mix but can anyone share experiences or advice re going through the public system for the pregnancy? We're considering it this time around as I'm really not keen on spending another 10k on a pregnancy and birth. Thanks in advance!
Posted 14 March 2019 - 06:42 AM
Agree with the others on the drinking. If they order a bottle of wine at the table just say yes and fake sip the glass. You can always say you weren't enjoying it if anyone asks why you didn't finish it. Otherwise lose your glass if you are at a bar. I did a great job fake eating some shared sashimi at a work lunch recently. Just put it on my plate and moved it around with my fork. Even picked some up with my fork then put it down again
Thanks for asking Jelly - my bleeding has slowed significantly, just a bit of brown now which I think is remnants. I worked from home yesterday but heading back to work today
I've been napping also. Usually just before dinner for an hour or so. It's been helping a lot
Posted 14 March 2019 - 10:03 AM
For excuses not drinking if your coworkers don’t know your religion, or if you’re catholic, you can say you gave up alcohol for lent! Lent lasts until Easter Sunday, so that should get most in this group through to 12 weeks or almost all the way there. My coworkers know I’m Catholic bc I went with my boss to get ashes on Ash Wednesday, and she asked me in front of the whole group (we’re a social team) what I was giving up so I nonchalantly said oh I think I’m giving up drinking this year. Then I promptly complained at a team happy hour about my lent sacrifice of not drinking, and other than one coworker who knows I’m doing ivf, I’m almost positive no one was suspicious! Great timing for me, because our team enjoys drinking quite a bit and it would have been very obvious if I wasn’t drinking.
Thank you to everyone who’s given me some insights into how you felt when you first say your baby and learned their sex. I’m even more convinced that it would be great to wait now, and that I won’t feel disappointed, especially as it’s not that I’d hate to have the one gender, it’s really just a preference, so now I feel more confident that I’ll be ecstatic and over the moon no matter what they place in my arms. Still hoping we get to that point, it feels like a long wait until my scan on Monday!
Posted 14 March 2019 - 11:56 AM
Yes! Lent is a good one.
I'm not Catholic but hubby is...he's Irish so of course he is. If I'm forced to make an excuse with friends I'll use that and say we're giving up drinking together for Lent. This will be believable in my group because it's no struggle at all for me to give up drinking but there is no way is he going to do that on his own!
How's everyone feeling generally? I reckon we're all pretty close in our dates. I was having a pretty good run but I'm feeling shocking today, currently sitting very very still so as not to get sick. I hope this is just an off day because MS for me didn't really kick in until week 9 last pregnancy and lasted until about week 16 or 17 which was already just too long!
Posted 14 March 2019 - 01:11 PM
I go through waves of good and bad period, usually they don’t last longer than 30mins. The only difference this time around is I’m not feeling sick in the afternoons(so far). Last pregnancy I was nauseous from about 3pm until bedtime.
I have to eat as soon as I’m out of bed. In the afternoons I am so darn tired it’s hard to even keep my eyes open at work. I don’t have the luxury of having an after work nap as I did last time now that I have a toddler. I miss those in general!
Basically once my son is in bed, im in bed too. I’ve already started getting up at night to pee, this usually lasts right through till the end for me. I’m 6 weeks today!
I have a feeling I’m only going to get sicker so I’m being really proactive around the house when I have energy as if it’s anything like last time, I won’t even be getting off the couch for a few months.
Posted 14 March 2019 - 03:31 PM
Thanks for the alcohol tips all!! I’ll probably try a combination of all of the above:)
Dream weaver- I went public with my first, had an amazing experience with the midwife program, birthing centre with bath, no hospital beds just a double bed etc. I did the early discharge program and was home by 5pm after a midnight birth. I did spend a few hours in a shared ward, but I had taken earplugs so got some sleep while my mum/husband watched the baby, then I was home soon anyway.
I would definitely recommend that experience!
Another related story, my friends husband has kids from his first marriage. For my friends baby due to some complications, they ended up with the same dr for free, that her husband had paid thousands to see privately for his older child. So, I definitely recommend the public system.
Hope this helps your consideration!
Posted 14 March 2019 - 03:34 PM
I haven't had any morning sickness yet but did feel a bit off this mornong so it may be starting. I'm only 5 weeks today though so plenty of time for that!
I feel you on the tiredness though and have had a few post-work naps lately and I'm sure there will be plenty more to come.
Edited by Jelly11, 14 March 2019 - 03:35 PM.
Posted 15 March 2019 - 04:11 AM
hi ladies! Hope everyone is going well. just curious, how how everyone going sleeping wise? are any of you tummy sleepers like me? I find im already struggling to sleep/lie on my tummy for longer than a few mins. obviously it's not baby's size but probably more the bloating. if anyone has any tips and tricks to minimise the bloat I'm all ears!
Posted 15 March 2019 - 06:03 AM
Thank you DK, that does really help!
I certainly know that plenty of women give birth through the public system and everything's fine! I think I'll find it an adjustment to not be monitored more regularly but I think going through IVF and having a private OB the first time just has me conditioned to being constantly watched. I hate to think that there will be complications but I will be nearly 39 when this baby arrives so I think that classifies me as high risk?!
I had my son at a public hospital (as a private patient) and I wasn't disappointed. I opted to only pay for a shared room but ended up in a private room for 3 nights, probably because I had a caesarean? If I knew I was going back to that hospital I'd probably have no trepidations as it is familiar. Plus I have a very good friend going public through the same hospital right now. However, we've moved and now zoned for the hospital that has the most births in all of NSW. I'm not sure how I feel about a hospital that busy!
I think it's fairly inevitable we'll go public but I'm so appreciative of the first hand accounts so thank you!
KK - I'm not sure I can help with your sleeping struggles though you might start trying to learn how to sleep on your side. As you get bigger, you obviously won't be able to sleep on your tummy and you're not meant to sleep on your back either. Trust me, it is very difficult to get a good night sleep in later months so best to try and get yourself adjusted to a new comfy sleeping position soon!
Posted 15 March 2019 - 07:34 AM
KKGirl: if you can get a big but soft pillow and kind of lay partly on your side/tummy that might work rather than the harder surface of the mattress, pillows were the only thing that helped me in the later months. Agree with Dreamweaver it will only get harder unfortunately.
My morning sickness peaked this morning, was up before 5am munching down a big bowl of rice bubbles! Felt absolutely terrible
Posted 15 March 2019 - 09:13 AM
Claire- I had some of my son's Rice Bubbles the other day, first time since I was a child! They just looked nice.
Mostly I can't be bothered too eat though, nothing appeals and I feel sick as soon as I eat anything. Clothes are fitting a little more loosely so there's a silver lining to this cloud
Posted 15 March 2019 - 03:58 PM
I’m honestly not sure if I have symptoms or not. I’m generally a very tired person, my husband always makes fun of me about it because in everyday life I’m usually exhausted and yawning anyway, so I feel no more tired than usual. I’ve definitely picked up a kg or so, just from eating badly, and I do find I’m feeling bleh more often after eating, as if I’d just eating a giant, really indulgent meal or something. I’m not sure if it’s because I’ve just been a bit more indulgent lately though, or pregnancy related. The weight gain is def just indulgence related, so I’m not pleased about that.
I’ve never wished for a weekend to go by quickly, but my scan is Monday at 10:30am and I’m actually wishing this weekend flies by so I can get there and hopefully see bub and feel more like I’m “really” pregnant. Counting the hours at this point.
Posted 15 March 2019 - 05:12 PM
How exciting your scan is so close! Will be amazing when you see the screen x
You will know if your having morning sickness, have you ever been sea sick? It’s like that only dry land won’t cure you :-(
Posted 15 March 2019 - 08:59 PM
Don't be too bothered about lack of symptoms Beaches, it's definitely early days. Enjoy this time of feeling well, it won't last much longer. Or you could be one of those lucky few who get virtually no symptoms your whole pregnancy.
Speaking of symptoms, I had forgotten about one and made a pretty annoying slip today. Many of you who are first time pregnant might not have heard about this one, but be prepared to possibly develop a super sense of smell. I sprayed some perfume ( 1 spray) on my collarbone today and spent the next 3 hours sickened by the overwhelming smell. It was like I'd swallowed some
No one ever talks about this symptom on these threads which makes me wonder if it's not that common. It's a huge one for me which is quite problematic when combined with morning sickness.
Happy weekend to all! May it go fast for you especially Beaches- I'm with you on that as my scan is Tuesday
Posted 16 March 2019 - 06:23 AM
Hi everyone! I’m very cautiously dipping my toe in here as there are so many familiar faces.
11DPO today and tested on a FRER and CB digi - both said BFP!!!
I am very excited but a bit nervous after my miscarriage last month. The line looked pretty strong for an early test so that’s a good sign I think. I’m travelling this weekend so don’t be able to have a blood test til Tuesday.
I really hope I get to stay here with you lovely ladies. By my own calculation I would be due November 25th.
Posted 16 March 2019 - 06:32 AM
Disy!! Congrats! I knew I would see you here! Welcome!! So so happy for you, I feel like we had similar paths to end up here this year.
Morning sickness is in FULL swing for me here. I’m waking between 4-5am to having to make breakfast as my only option to feel better and reduce the need to vomit feeling. I’m feeling annoyed I’ve been unlucky enough to have it this time around too and so far worse than last time.
Dreamweaver I’m the same with perfumes. Last time I couldn’t handle even washing powder and had to find the most bland smelling one of the shelve. It used to trigger the onset of feeling bad. Once my husband used fabric softener and I had to rewash all the clothes before I could wear them...!
Posted 16 March 2019 - 07:45 AM
Hi ladies, I’m same as Disy and only just had a BFP, waiting to go for blood test next Wednesday.
Thrilled and nervous at the same time!
Having a lot of cramps, severe at times, which is somewhat worrying. But no idea what to expect as it’s #1.
Should I just keep doing POAS until the blood test next week?
Posted 16 March 2019 - 07:55 AM
Sylvester: Congrats! Great to see you in here. I wouldn’t poas until then, I would just wait for the blood test as it won’t change anything once you get that first BFP. x
Cramping is very normal in the early stages of pregnancy and gets better as the weeks go along. I would take some panadol for relief if it’s severe. Hopefully they ease for you soon, I found mine were definetly worse in those first few days of getting BFP, then eased up a bit.
Posted 16 March 2019 - 08:08 AM
Thanks Claire!! Yes, I feel we’ve been on very similar paths.
FX this is the one!
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