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Wondering if my child might have oppositional defiant disorder


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#26 kerilyntaryn

Posted 23 February 2019 - 11:15 AM

Often ODD, Anxiety, ADHD and ASD are all co-morbidity factors

#27 kerilyntaryn

Posted 23 February 2019 - 11:27 AM

View PostMamabug, on 21 February 2019 - 06:21 PM, said:

Mine is not a positive story: her behaviour has escalated to physical assault and as of this month (she is 13) she no longer lives with me.
oh so sorry to hear,  hugs

#28 alwayshappy

Posted 27 February 2019 - 02:38 PM

Regardless of diagnosis, I highly recomend Dr Ross Greene's Collaborative and Proactive Solutions model.
Many of these 'oppositional', and 'irregulated', and 'defiant' and 'aggressive' behaviours are underlined by some form of anxiety or lagging skill. When you can identify the lagging skill, in collaboration with the child, you can start to address the skill deficit. It's a fabulous model for really challenging kids, and it's a great framework for having empathy for the child.
The website is www.livesinthebalance.org and the supporting FB age is 'The B team'.
His approach is life changing for child and family.

Edited by alwayshappy, 25 March 2019 - 02:23 PM.


#29 Chaotic Pogo

Posted 01 March 2019 - 10:05 PM

Yes his book The Explosive Child is fabulous.



#30 Charli73

Posted 16 March 2019 - 10:13 PM

ODD for us is terrible, and no amount of ADHD meds change this. For us if he hasn’t had his respiridone he become argumentative and non compliant from the minute he wakes up until when he finally goes to sleep.

I hope it’s just a case I’d anxiety I really do..

#31 IShallWearMidnight

Posted 16 March 2019 - 11:26 PM

The Explosive Child is a great book/technique. ODD is hard, but refusing to engage is great.

#32 MrsWidget

Posted 17 March 2019 - 07:57 AM

View Postalwayshappy, on 27 February 2019 - 02:38 PM, said:

Regardless of diagnosis, I highly recomend Dr Ross Greene's Collaborative and Proactive Solutions model.
Many of these 'oppositional', and 'irregulated', and 'defiant' and 'aggressive' behaviours are underlined by some form of anxiety or lagging skill. When you can identify the lagging skill, in collaboration with the child, you can start to address the skill deficit. It's a fabulous model for really challenging kids, and it's a great framework for having empathy for the child.
The website is www.livesinthebalance.com and the supporting FB age is 'The B team'.
His approach is life changing for child and family.

The link doesn’t seem to be working...is it me??

#33 José

Posted 17 March 2019 - 09:09 AM

it should be livesinthebalance.org

#34 Whattothink

Posted 17 March 2019 - 09:41 AM

Is there a book that goes through the solutions model? Had a look at livesin the balance and thought it was great how they had the worksheets etc there - but couldn’t find a book that went along with it?

#35 José

Posted 17 March 2019 - 09:44 AM

Ross greene is touring australia in July.
it would be worth going along if you're interested in the model.


#36 Chaotic Pogo

Posted 18 March 2019 - 01:45 PM

Thanks I might do that

#37 alwayshappy

Posted 25 March 2019 - 02:24 PM

View PostMrsWidget, on 17 March 2019 - 07:57 AM, said:

The link doesn’t seem to be working...is it me??
Sorry! Have just corrected it to www.livesinthebalance.org

#38 alwayshappy

Posted 25 March 2019 - 02:25 PM

I'm going to his Melbourne workshop. I've been to his one day introductory workshop last year, and am going to the advanced workshop this year. He is a fabulous speaker and what he says makes so much sense. It has helped me significantly with my anxious, aggressive, dysregulated, challenging boy. I can't speak more highly ot this approach to challenging children, and the systems around them.

#39 alwayshappy

Posted 25 March 2019 - 02:27 PM

View PostWhattothink, on 17 March 2019 - 09:41 AM, said:

Is there a book that goes through the solutions model? Had a look at livesin the balance and thought it was great how they had the worksheets etc there - but couldn’t find a book that went along with it?

If you do a google search of Ross Greene, you'll see all of his published books come up. The work sheets are the most practical way of understanding his approach. The books are more general, but still share the same information in a more narrative form.




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