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Edited by StellarSurvivor, 12 February 2019 - 01:33 PM.

[TrixieBelden]

I still wear a dress to weddings from 2004.

It’s really nice.

[Ellie bean]

Yes absolutely you can wear it!

[22Fruitmincepies]

Yes, wear the lovely dress again. To my SIL’s wedding l wore a dress I had bought to wear to my 30th (so 6.5 years previously). It’s a beautiful classic designer silk dress, I’ve worn it to so many occasions, and always get compliments. A lovely dress deserves lots of chances for people to admire it and for you to feel good in it. Wearing dresses once is weird and wasteful.

[DaLittleEd]

Yeah, so I used to have a "wedding dress" that I wore to all weddings (doesn't fit anymore). I am certainly not buying a new dress for each wedding, I would have been bankrupted!

[Ellie bean]

22Fruitmincepies, on 11 February 2019 - 09:47 PM, said:

Wearing dresses once is weird and wasteful.

I agree with this, it’s really weird

[crankypony]

Well it is wasteful, money and resources.

Edited by crankypony, 11 February 2019 - 09:57 PM.

[Jenflea]

It would never occur to me to buy new for every wedding or event I go to. How incredibly wasteful, both in terms of money and the environment.

I like to think of it as a cost per wear too, so if the dress cost you $500 and you wore it once, it's a $500 dress, but if you wear it 5 times then it's a $100 dress, sort of. And you've got your money's worth so to speak.

[lozoodle]

Absolutely!

[-Emissary-]

Go for it!

I have a few dresses I recycle for the night reception and have done so for the last three years. I only go to a few weddings a year so there’s no way I would buy a new dress every time.

[fruitfairy]

Well this dress is so much better quality and “classier” than anything I could buy now. I’m chuffed I got it out and tried it on. Granted it didn’t look that wonderful over my pj pants hahaha

[CallMeFeral]

Of course you can wear it.

I recently went to DH's family's equivalent of the Royal Wedding. All of his (very rich) immediate family would have bought dresses for the occasion. I almost got carried away in the momentum and bought one too, then finally had a moment of sanity and thought WTF? None of the dresses I'm looking at are a patch on a couple of ones I have at home that I haven't had opportunity to wear for years. What am I thinking buying a new dress that is not even as nice as the ones I already have?

So I wore the old dress. And lemme tell you, I looked HAWT, if I say so myself. Whereas DH's one relative was half an hour late taping herself up to go braless for a backless dress she'd bought that turned out really boring, and then she couldn't dance freely, and another also had to be taped into a beautiful but old fashioned dress that made her look 20 years older, that she'd bought when I KNOW she has at least 30 extremely lovely dresses she could have worn that would have let her dance more freely. Both of them are very beautiful women. But the need to buy a new dress trumped taste and they both rocked up in dresses that were not the best in their wardrobes by a long shot. Ditto a couple of other relations. Since then I've noticed this at every party. The rich women turn up in a new dress every time, and it's rarely one that flatters them (though doubtless it's the latest in fashion and probably expensive).

This seems like unrelated detail but was actually a big revelation for me as we are much poorer than them and I sometimes feel it. But I realised that I have over the course of years found some really nice dresses that suit me well and hide my bulgy bits, and I'm no longer going to buy new dresses unless they are as good or better than the ones I already have in some way. And those won't come along often, because my post baby body shape is hard to flatter. And it gave me confidence knowing that actually, doing that means that I will show up looking awesome in a dress that suits me, because those perfect dresses only come along once in a while and people who buy a dress for every big occasion are not buying the perfect dress each time. The dress I almost bought would have required me to suck my stomach in all night. So I'm not only not cluttering up my cupboard with dresses I like-not-love, and saving money, and saving shopping time - but I'm looking better for it and feeling confident in things I'm happy with. It feels great.

[RichardParker]

I read the title and assumed you were the bride, it was your second wedding and you were going to use the dress from your first wedding somehow. I was going to advise against that.

As a guest?  Go nuts.

[fruitfairy]

RichardParker, on 11 February 2019 - 10:15 PM, said:

I read the title and assumed you were the bride, it was your second wedding and you were going to use the dress from your first wedding somehow. I was going to advise against that.

As a guest?  Go nuts.

The way the mother of the groom and grandmother of the groom are carrying on you’d think one of us was.  Yeah there would be some sort of bad energy reusing your own wedding dress. Mind you I’d love to fit into mine.

[YodaTheWrinkledOne]

Is it okay to re-wear a dress you have only worn 3-4 times over 4 years?

Hell yes! If it looks good and you feel great in it, why wouldn't you wear it again?

PS. I think it's great that Princess Kate wears outfits multiple times. It's ridiculous to buy a new outfit and only wear it once.

[unicycle]

Yes, it is fine. Enjoy the day and with the added bonus that you have a dress you love. Think of all the added wonderful memories that will go into the dress the more you wear it to special occasions.

[Overtherainbow]

Definitely wear it.

I’m ignorant to what most people around me wear. I wouldn’t know you were wearing it again. If I did, I still wouldn’t care.

Weddings are a time to celebrate a marriage and to catch up with people you care about. Look lovely for photos, but you can do that without buying new.

[WTFJerk]

Gosh yes.

I've worn my own wedding dress to multiple weddings.  Granted, it was a black cocktail dress.  I really enjoyed dressing up in it and as I went to every wedding with my DH it was quite romantic for us too.

[nup]

I hang with some incredibly wealthy people but don't go to many weddings. They come in waves for me. My friends and family don't have new outfits for every occasion. One friend is particularly stylish and always seems to be wearing extremely fabulous outfits. I recently joked about her never showing in the same outfit twice but I'm not it's true. I just haven't seen her children wearing clothes on high repeat whereas I wear almost the same thing most days with very little variation.

[Toddlerandme]

Absolutely wear the dress you have and love. It sounds like a lovely classic dress.

[Mollycoddle]

I only have one 'good' dress. I don't go out enough to justify having more than one. I've had occasion to wear it twice since buying it in 2012.  It is black though, I wore it for a ball then a fancy do at the casino.  If I had to go to a daytime summer wedding or such I'd probably go for something lighter in colour and style.

Edited by Mollycoddle, 12 February 2019 - 08:47 AM.

[lonestranger]

Absolutely...my ‘good’ dresses have been in rotation for a decade! No point getting a new one if the old ones still look good and make me feel good. If I feel the need to make it ‘new’, I might get a new accessory, such as earrings. Enjoy the wedding!

[Hands Up]

Back when I went to 12+ weddings per year I always had three or four dresses on rotation. Now I would never buy a dress for a wedding. The wedding I went to on the weekend just gone I wore a floral work dress and got lots of compliments.

[TheGreenSheep]

If wearing the same dress to different weddings were a crime, throw me in gaol.

Definitely wear it.

[Coffeegirl]

I bought a long velvet sleeveless dress from Monsoon back in the early ‘00s.   It’s a style that you can dress up or down and still looks fabulous.  

I wore last in November to my work cocktail party.  

Looking back I’ve easily worn it to 2 formal balls, a number of weddings, work dos, and even just out for a fancy dinner.

Best $99 I ever spent