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Worried about my 12yo DD *UPDATED - diabetes diagnosis*

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#26 ipsee

Posted 11 February 2019 - 09:33 AM

There are challenges but it can be well managed, and she should actually be much healthier than she has been once it is all under control. Best of luck with it.


Posted 11 February 2019 - 11:28 AM

I just want to say your DD is lucky to have you as her Mum x

#28 FuzzyChocolateToes

Posted 11 February 2019 - 12:07 PM

Wow, that must have come as a shock. All the best to your dd and you.

#29 Kafkaesque

Posted 11 February 2019 - 02:07 PM

I’m very glad your DD is ok! But just wanted to point out to any future readers of this thread that if you ever suspect possibility of diabetes please see a Dr immediately. You can die if untreated. Not to be alarmist but it’s not something to hang onto getting checked.

#30 zande

Posted 11 February 2019 - 02:17 PM

Yep I def should have had it checked earlier, but I honestly didn’t think it could possibly happen. It was the first thing I thought of 3 weeks ago but just couldn’t believe it.

#31 Fossy

Posted 11 February 2019 - 02:36 PM

 Kafkaesque, on 11 February 2019 - 02:07 PM, said:

I’m very glad your DD is ok! But just wanted to point out to any future readers of this thread that if you ever suspect possibility of diabetes please see a Dr immediately. You can die if untreated. Not to be alarmist but it’s not something to hang onto getting checked.
Very wise words!

Glad your daughter is ok OP, she’s very lucky. The outcome could’ve been much worse. Hope she adapts to her new diagnosis well x

#32 Kafkaesque

Posted 11 February 2019 - 03:07 PM

 zande, on 11 February 2019 - 02:17 PM, said:

Yep I def should have had it checked earlier, but I honestly didn’t think it could possibly happen. It was the first thing I thought of 3 weeks ago but just couldn’t believe it.

I should of said Zande that I wasn’t trying to be critical. Sorry if it was taken that way. Just we never want to think of the worst things and it’s easy to put it off when the child still seems ok.

#33 zande

Posted 11 February 2019 - 03:54 PM

No that’s cool, I knew what you meant :-)

#34 aluminium

Posted 11 February 2019 - 06:02 PM

I'm very glad to read your daughter is OK.

#35 SplashingRainbows

Posted 11 February 2019 - 06:19 PM

How are things today Zande?

#36 Mamabug

Posted 11 February 2019 - 07:03 PM

Zande, you and your family have a rocky, but manageable path ahead. I wish you all well.

#37 MooGuru

Posted 11 February 2019 - 07:45 PM

Glad you got answers in a relatively safe way and that the path ahead is as manageable as possible

#38 zande

Posted 11 February 2019 - 07:51 PM

I’m very overwhelmed - lots of crying today. Thanks for all your messsges. I haven’t slept yet so I’m swapping with my ex tonight so I get a good sleep. DD actually doing better than me I think, though it’s very very early days and I’m not processing much yet, it’s just a total bombardment of info at this stage. Hard to see a way clear or that my life will ever be “normal” again, I’m worried about being able to work (single mum) - just very very scared.

#39 steppy

Posted 11 February 2019 - 08:14 PM

It's really not that awful. I mean yes it's serious but you're not going to have to be a fulltime carer or anything. It has to be well managed but that's mostly about balancing foods and insulin - and you can get a pump if it really seems too much. Don't let the doctors and educators scare you too much! They gave us the biggest spiel but our child was older than yours and working so would just buy sugary and carb heavy snacks constantly and the same teams that scared the life out of us would just say 'we'll adjust your dose' instead of lecturing him. As a parent it's like spitting in the wind. That's why the pump is a solution for worry - they eat whatever and it manages the insulin for them)

Edited by steppy, 11 February 2019 - 08:21 PM.

#40 ipsee

Posted 11 February 2019 - 08:23 PM

Don't feel bad for missing it for a short time. A child we know saw several doctors over weeks and weeks, getting sicker and sicker until they finally got an urgent call to go to hospital after a blood test.

She is much better now after diagnosis than she was before, and put weight and colour back on quickly.

It is a huge learning curve, but she manages it herself very well now at school time etc.

#41 thebabysitter

Posted 11 February 2019 - 08:56 PM

Zande I sent you a private message

#42 charmalee

Posted 12 February 2019 - 10:09 AM

Much love to you Zande. I can understand how overwhelming this must be for you atm but assure you things will settle eventually. Take one day at a time, or moment by moment if you need to.
I have followed your posts for years and think you are amazing! I know you and your daughter will find the strength to move through this time xxx

#43 zande

Posted 14 February 2019 - 07:44 AM

Thank you for all your lovely messages of support. Things are going well and we are being discharged either late today or tomorrow morning. It is incredible to see the difference in DD, she looks amazing and I am seeing signs of the girl she used to be! I am so proud of her, she’s taken this in her stride so far and is being incredibly mature about it all. The school have been very reassuring and DD received a lovely card from the couple of girls she had only befriended the week before.

So thank you all again for the support, it meant a lot.

#44 MooGuru

Posted 14 February 2019 - 07:56 AM

That's such great news. I've been wondering how you were all getting on.

#45 SelceLisbeth

Posted 14 February 2019 - 09:41 AM

I have been thinking of you a lot since the first post. It must be a big shock and your normal has changed but it will become a new normal. Give yourself time to adjust and process.

#46 excellent

Posted 14 February 2019 - 09:57 AM

How lovely of the new friends to send her a card. That's such a promising sign for her going back to school. May sound a bit silly but kids will be naturally curious about what happened so she should be prepared a bit for that, you never know it may be a good ice breaker for her in making other friends too. Good luck and well done!

#47 Crooked Frame

Posted 14 February 2019 - 11:13 AM

I've been following this thread and haven't known what to say, but I'm so glad your DD is doing well and I hope you're being taken care of too.


Posted 14 February 2019 - 12:00 PM

Kudos to your DD, she's shown such strength at a difficult time in her life.

She will go far!

#49 xjrx

Posted 15 February 2019 - 02:12 PM

Our DS13 was diagnosed last year also unexpectedly. Lots to read and learn but also some great support groups available. We are not quite 12 months into this but he has adjusted really well as I’m sure your DD will. Big hugs to you both.

#50 The Little Engine

Posted 16 February 2019 - 09:09 AM

Hi. I'm heading out now but my 9yo daughter was diagnosed mid last year. It will be a steep learning curve. Pm me if you want to know some support groups on Facebook etc. Best of luck!

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