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Posted 14 January 2019 - 02:03 PM
I had that moment the night before my first birth- I was up laying reading a birthing book in the way one might cram before an exam, with the same feeling of dread and the general understating that, no matter how much I read tonight, this is gonna hurt like hell tomorrow.
I didn’t even have a birth plan. Baby still came out, though. They always do, one way or another.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 02:17 PM
Baby still came out, though. They always do, one way or another.
Haha! I had a moment during DS1’s birth when I’d been pushing for maybe half an hour and it felt like nothing was happening and I was crying and asking for help. The OB said we can’t help you, you need to do this yourself. And I genuinely thought well that’s it then, I’ll stay pregnant forever. I really believed it for a few moments. I was so tired I was convinced I was completely incapable of continuing to push.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 02:38 PM
My SIL had her baby 4 weeks before I had DD and I remember standing over the baby and having a major freak out - she seemed so huge and all of a sudden I wanted out.
Of course, my niece was 2.8 kgs and I went on to deliver a 4.1 behemoth, but anyway, perfectly understandable response to be freaking out.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 02:40 PM
Having had an elective caesar, loving the stories of vaginal births. I somehow assumed that labour prepared women mentally for the arrival of a baby. I'd be thinking 'feck, there needs to be damned good reward at the end of this'.
At the end, when I was actually birthing DS1, I don’t think I was thinking much about the baby at all tbh, except in the sense that I wanted it OUT! I shouted at him ‘get out!!’ a lot, and ‘get this effing baby out of me’ at whoever was there. Oh the sweet relief when it was done!
Posted 14 January 2019 - 02:47 PM
I need to say I am in no way saying this in a bragging way at all so please do not read anything else into to it, but my situation was no morning sickness, no showing even in late pregnancy, and an epidural meant I felt nothing at all so it was the most surreal situation I have ever been through because the only symptoms I had was no period and a few contractions till the epidural kicked in.
So logically I knew I was pregnant but in my head I wasn't, not once did I FEEL pregnant, so to have 9 months of people telling me I will have a baby and to be told we had to get organised but very bizarre indeed.
It was like me being sat here at work and just being handed a baby and being told 'here take this'
Posted 14 January 2019 - 07:16 PM
My most recent baby was born at 29 weeks and 1.6kgs... once she got up around the 2.5kg mark I remember thinking one day when she was lying on my chest 'she's still meant to fit inside me'!!
Considering her big sister was 4kg born she still had lots of catching up to do but she still seemed way too big to fit inside my belly.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 07:36 PM
I remember just telling myself over and over that if billions of women had done this already, then it had to be possible. I clearly remember my second birth and the feeling of him going “pop” as he came out. It was weirdly like popping a huge pimple - a massive gush of fluid and baby.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 07:49 PM
Yeah I remember that last week completely freaking out.
Then DS1 was born and another weird moment of oh yeah we are actually getting a baby out of this!
Then he screamed for over an hour and that is NOT what happens in birthing suites in the movies!
With DS2 we were shocked all over again as it was such an easy labour and only about ten pushes. Our OB said he’s here and my response was “no way!”
Posted 14 January 2019 - 07:54 PM
I spent most of my first pregnancy thinking to myself "Holy Hell I am PREGNANT!!".
I was so in shock that I didn't actually think until about month seven - "Holy Hell now I have to GIVE BIRTH".
That was basically my thinking until DD#1 arrived.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 08:04 PM
Honestly, I tried not to worry too much about how I was going to give birth, as I get anxious at the best of times.
Ended up kinda going with the flow and trying lots of things: pethidine, gas, water injections, which were fantastic, then an epidural, laboured for 17 hours or so and then finally had a c-section. I gave it a red hot go and even though things didn't go precisely to plan, I still got DS in the end, so I was pretty happy with that.
A few things that stand out from that experience, I was really polite and didn't swear once during labour hahaha. If I had my time over again, I'd throw in a few swears. And DS had the loudest cry in the whole new baby ward, he was pretty notorious by the time we went home.
We also had the disbelief that we got to take a real live baby home. Most exciting.
One more thing, leading up to the birth, I took photos of washing all of DS' brand new clothing and blankets that I'd lovingly washed in soap flakes and hung on the line to dry. Ahh, memories. Now I just shove white and colours in the washing machine and hope I can get the stains out lol.
Edited because I forgot the gas. I tried all the drugs, baby!
Edited by Silverstreak, 14 January 2019 - 08:18 PM.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 08:19 PM
You are probably still going to look 20 weeks pregnant AFTER you’ve given birth. The rest will slowly shrink over the next 6 weeks as your uterus shrinks back into shape. So you’ll only be pushing out 1/2 of your pregnant belly.
I still looked full term after the birth of my twins!
Posted 14 January 2019 - 08:23 PM
I never forget being left alone the first night DS was born and having to change his nappy. I had no idea which way It went I ended up buzzing a midwife to ask if I put it on correctly.
We had this little newborn suit that a friend had bought us, it was gorgeous, but buttoned up on an angle. DH and I nicknamed it the "suit of doom." Not sure if I kept the suit of doom or passed it onto an unsuspecting friend!
Posted 14 January 2019 - 08:24 PM
it’s daunting - a by product of evolution I’m afraid - in order to walk upright we developed a narrower pelvis - combined with the big brains (ergo big heads) of homo sapiens - women got the raw end of the deal....but our bodies are amazing....you can do it! (and there’s drugs).
Posted 14 January 2019 - 08:24 PM
Oh I told my OB and my husband to **** off after 26 hours of labour mid stand off re my refusing to push. I’d missed a night of sleep and was half deranged. It all worked out and he was in peals of laughter when I apologised the next morning.
Posted 14 January 2019 - 08:34 PM
It's also why our babies come out relatively undeveloped (both in brain and body) compared to.lots of other mammal young, if they got bigger we simply couldn't give birth to them. It's a design flaw that we got in exchange for big brains and being able to run away, i guess.
I did not know this about the narrow pelvis. But now I think about it, yes we do have narrow pelvis’ compared to other mammals
Posted 14 January 2019 - 08:35 PM
Team Hatching for sure.
I do like the idea of a pouch. Or laying an egg that DH can sit on and hatch as I have a nap.
It’s just absurd though isn’t it, we grow someone else . Bizarro.
And then I think about the lengthy online modules and workbooks and training you go through for work until you’re signed off to be responsible for task x,y,x. like inputting important data into Software program B.
And yet they hand you a helpless human and say ”off you go, raise’em”.
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