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8yo boy Anxiety and behaviour
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Posted 11 January 2019 - 10:30 AM
Just putting this out there for any advice. Its something I keep thinking about but have no idea what to do or if I should even do anything. I have an 8yo son who is my eldest, is an anxious child and has always struggled going to school (cried almost every day up to year 2); asks me where I'm going and how long I'll be and gives me 50kisses before I leave the house; can't handle if anything is lost or broken - stresses him out far more than it should; likes routine and gets nervous if something is outside of that (Ie school carnival going on a bus/ordering lunch from canteen/changing classroom/even things as little as changing which gate he enters school through of a morning). He struggles to get along with my 5yo boy because my 5yo is so carefree and takes risks. I'm finding it really hard to build a good relationship between the two of them because they constantly fight. I also have a 1yo daughter who he adores and in his eyes she can't do anything wrong which makes the relationship between him and the 5yo even harder to watch. I don't know if I should be looking into a diagnosis for anything for the purpose of getting support and ideas on how to manage it? (he also has sensory issues - has a blanket that he smells and rubs on his face as often as he is around it throughout the day and in bed/ would change his shirt if he got even one drop of water on it); plus he bounces around the house a lot of the time rather than walking. I'm open to any advice, suggestions or ideas that anyone might have to better manage his relationship with his brother and also whether I should look into anything further. Thanks
Posted 11 January 2019 - 10:53 AM
I say if you're worried check it out. Book with GP, then paediatrician. A psychologist will help with anxiety and give you help on managing siblings etc.
Posted 11 January 2019 - 10:58 AM
I always thik an overview with a Development Paediatrician is a great start. From there, they can also give an authority for a Psychologist (expert for the anxiety) which will enable you to get a higher medicare rebate for some sessions too which assists with the affordability.
Anxiety is hard. It can be hard to understand and hard to live with for the person and their family.
Posted 11 January 2019 - 11:41 AM
I would have it looked at. I have an extremely anxious child that just got worse as he got older. I should have done something sooner and thought he would grow out of it.
On the sibling rivalry front, I don't have any answers. Some of my kids get on better with different siblings. My DH's siblings are really messed up (even by my standards), so we have nothing to do with them.
As a mother I would be sad to think my kids didn't get together for holidays and celebrations but just because they are related, does not mean they are going to like each other.
I tell them I will haunt them if they are not close when they grow up and I am no longer in the picture.
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