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#201 Navy Blue

Posted 13 January 2019 - 11:20 AM

Yes, exactly. Sometimes they have misunderstood, and sometimes they are just not telling the truth.

DS2 came home one day from school with his lunch uneaten. He said that they were naughty so the teacher didn't let them eat all day! Um yeah ok.

I'm not saying immediately disbelieve your child, but do some digging to get the whole story.

#202 Kafkaesque

Posted 14 January 2019 - 12:34 AM

View PostNanns, on 11 January 2019 - 02:38 PM, said:



I moved one street and yes it was at least 4k.  I can't remember the exact amount but we had 4 guys, the trucks (which was done as a light pack so it is cheaper ie they don't have everything locked down because they are not going far and the chance of anything breaking is unlikely - so they load and unload faster).

We had difficult access issues getting out of the existing house and had some stuff roped up as it is could not fit through the door. Ironically it was a glass table top that took hours to get out of the house and then smashed into a million pieces when they carried it to the new house. The guys were going until 9pm the same day after starting at around 7am. There was actually more stuff to do in terms of assembly but I just wanted the day to be over.

I would say we do not have alot of stuff. We have lots of small kid things but have the minimal look from a furniture perspective.  

Two friends from my kid's school recently moved and both spent over 10k. Both packed their own boxes.  One moved to a different suburb and the other a couple of streets away - again access was an issue and one sent most of their belongings to storage.

I should add that I had a separate mover and packer for art that probably added another $1500 to the move.

I did pack most of the stuff myself but you also need to add in insurance which adds to the cost.

I didn't get them to unpack but I did get them to assemble things and put large furniture in the correct place.

I am just trying  to be realistic about the cost and effort to move. I took the day off work (ie worked from home) and the kids were at school and DH at work.

I despise moving. I would also add that we had alot of boxes and cabinets in archive that relates to tax, so that would have been a couple of hours to move all the filing cabinets and archive boxes.

Kudos to people who can move for $500. I was actively involved and that is what it cost. I was moving with a budget mover and 4 guys to make sure they got things in and out faster.

In the end it cost us nothing after the reimbursement for the broken glass. But now we eat from a $20 dollar bunnings fold away table. I despise all forms of shopping (especially furniture) so there has been no rush to replace or have vogue styling. It is pretty agricultural as I have a large family and learnt the hard way to not value possessions as everything gets wrecked by curious hands.

I would do alot of un-natural acts before I moved again, especially if I was happy with the place I lived.

Good luck. Maybe if the rental market has pulled back, you can renegotiate your rent with the landlord. It happens all the time and excessively during the GFC.

The landlord would weigh up the cost of potential lost rent and vacancy, a re-let fee, cleaning, advertising, so it is probably worth at least a 50 dollar reduction a week to keep you, particularly if there are a number of rentals available in your area.

So you had a table worth more than $4k and an art collection valuable enough that you spent $1500 on movers just for that. Classy, coming into a thread about someone struggling and posting your ancetdata.

#203 AliasMater

Posted 14 January 2019 - 01:02 AM

View PostKafkaesque, on 14 January 2019 - 12:34 AM, said:



So you had a table worth more than $4k and an art collection valuable enough that you spent $1500 on movers just for that. Classy, coming into a thread about someone struggling and posting your ancetdata.

The pp has an art budget of 40k per year. She mentioned this in her own doing it tough thread. I'm surprised it only cost $1500 to move and insure her collection.

#204 miriams

Posted 10 February 2019 - 05:28 PM

They have less kids? We're on more than triple that and only have two. That said, my parents  (teachers) were struggling at one point and a wealthier member of their church just outright gave them his old station wagon.

#205 But seriously

Posted 10 February 2019 - 07:14 PM

View Postmiriams, on 10 February 2019 - 05:28 PM, said:

They have less kids? We're on more than triple that and only have two. That said, my parents  (teachers) were struggling at one point and a wealthier member of their church just outright gave them his old station wagon.

?

#206 Jenflea

Posted 10 February 2019 - 07:28 PM

12 grand a month means you can only afford 2 kids??

#207 Nobodyelse

Posted 10 February 2019 - 07:42 PM

I'd better sell 1.5 of mine.

#208 premmie

Posted 19 February 2019 - 01:48 PM

DH and I both went to private Jewish Day school. When our boys were born we didn't really imagine that we would choose something different for them. We decided on our excellent local public school for our kids. We're saving our money for private high school. It was a bit of a leap of faith (pardon the pun) as we had no experience whatsoever with the public system. Its an excellent school and both my older boys have thrived. I still can't believe our luck and we are saving upwards for $45k in fees. Based on uniforms and school fees only I think we spent under $1000 on two kids last year.

Religious education and Hebrew lessons are done as extra curricular. In line with my more recent thinking that religion and practice is a private matter between you and your god.

If I'm honest 90% of religious educations/practice and identity and Zionism (for us) comes from home. So I can understand wanting the religious education for your kids, but financially that seems to be out of your reach at this time. Look into additional religious education/youth groups etc outside school hours if you feel your daughter would miss out. And honestly if she has issues with her faith being questioned in public, then she'll need to get over it, unless the kids are being needlessly cruel.

Edited by premmie, 19 February 2019 - 02:19 PM.


#209 amaza

Posted 19 February 2019 - 02:22 PM

I don't think it's necessary to come into the large families forum to tell an already pregnant OP to have less kids.

Giving her ideas to get by is fine. Telling her not to have more than two kids when she's already got 3 (nearly 4) is really just inappropriate.

#210 cvbn

Posted 19 February 2019 - 04:03 PM

View Postamaza, on 19 February 2019 - 02:22 PM, said:

I don't think it's necessary to come into the large families forum to tell an already pregnant OP to have less kids.

Giving her ideas to get by is fine. Telling her not to have more than two kids when she's already got 3 (nearly 4) is really just inappropriate.

Yes, and quite frankly, daft.
She can't stuff them back.

#211 Greatmum

Posted 19 February 2019 - 04:26 PM

I don’t send my kids to private school that how we afford it. No way we could afford $5000 on school fees.

#212 cabbage88

Posted 24 February 2019 - 01:48 PM

Updated

#213 deedee15

Posted 24 February 2019 - 02:13 PM

Sorry OP but I don’t think increasing your work hours given that you are pregnant, is sustainable, just so you can keep your child at an expensive private primary school, good luck with it though.

#214 cabbage88

Posted 24 February 2019 - 02:33 PM

View Postdeedee15, on 24 February 2019 - 02:13 PM, said:

Sorry OP but I don’t think increasing your work hours given that you are pregnant, is sustainable, just so you can keep your child at an expensive private primary school, good luck with it though.

We picked up a side job and earned enough in 10 days to pay her whole years fee. I'm happy with that- it's not a long term solution (That work is rare) but it at least gives me until next year to decide what we want to do.
But definitely once bub comes and mat leave fishes up we will need to figure ourselves out again for next year.

#215 José

Posted 24 February 2019 - 02:40 PM

View Postpremmie, on 19 February 2019 - 01:48 PM, said:

We decided on our excellent local public school for our kids. We're saving our money for private high school. It was a bit of a leap of faith (pardon the pun) as we had no experience whatsoever with the public system. Its an excellent school and both my older boys have thrived. I still can't believe our luck and we are saving upwards for $45k in fees. Based on uniforms and school fees only I think we spent under $1000 on two kids last year.


there are many wonderful public schools, i don't think its about luck though.  its mostly due to the dedicated and wonderful school staff who often work well with their committed families to create a lovely learning environment.

#216 José

Posted 24 February 2019 - 02:46 PM

View Postcabbage88, on 24 February 2019 - 02:33 PM, said:



We picked up a side job and earned enough in 10 days to pay her whole years fee. I'm happy with that- it's not a long term solution (That work is rare) but it at least gives me until next year to decide what we want to do.
But definitely once bub comes and mat leave fishes up we will need to figure ourselves out again for next year.

im glad you have figured something out that you're happy with.

personally, id be concerned about enrolling my child in a school with doubts about how i could afford it. i know you said you can afford it this year but you dont even know about next year let alone more long term.
i hope it all works out for you.

#217 WTFancie shmancie

Posted 24 February 2019 - 03:06 PM

View PostJosé, on 24 February 2019 - 02:46 PM, said:

im glad you have figured something out that you're happy with.

personally, id be concerned about enrolling my child in a school with doubts about how i could afford it. i know you said you can afford it this year but you dont even know about next year let alone more long term.
i hope it all works out for you.

and by next year you will have another child and your ability to pick up extra work may have disappeared.

Your money, your choice OP, but I will stand by my earlier posts - your responsibility is to feed your children and yourselves before spending money on private schools.  I think the money from your extra work would have been much better spent on food.

#218 MrsLexiK

Posted 24 February 2019 - 05:14 PM

I don’t actually have a large family but read your update. Would your DH be willing to swap the roles around if you earn more then he does? For mat leave etc.

We’ve chosen public (we do have good public here) but I had the luxury of private (very high traditional single sex private) and the extras (holidays, brand clothes, big house etc) . DH had religion private (low fees like you have and the expectation that he attend) and family struggled. His parents struggled and really only came out of the struggle when they stopped paying school fees! What I remember now as a 31 year old with my own kids is not “the school yard” it’s holidays with my families, family school picnics, Sunday’s going for a lunch in the hills, readers at a night time, etc. when I read my children stories from their first bible I don’t think back to school chapel but rather Good Friday or Easter Sunday with the family.

#219 premmie

Posted 01 March 2019 - 10:13 AM

View PostJosé, on 24 February 2019 - 02:40 PM, said:

there are many wonderful public schools, i don't think its about luck though.  its mostly due to the dedicated and wonderful school staff who often work well with their committed families to create a lovely learning environment.

They absolutely do, it's a lovely school. My point was that we feel lucky to have this wonderful school. Because we were more than willing to spend the private school fees if need be.




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