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10 Year old boy puberty
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Posted 05 December 2018 - 02:47 PM
I have just found out that my 10y 9 month old son has started puberty. I noticed a couple of fine hairs under his arms and after talking to him he said he has some pubic hair as well.
My older son who is 13 is currently going through it too but started much later so I worry about my son being so young and having to deal with these changes in his body.
Any advise on where to go from here. Things that might have helped with your child going through early puberty and things I should be discussing with him? Should I be talking to him about sexual stuff since he will be developing those feelings at a young age which scares me.
Thanks for any advice
Posted 05 December 2018 - 03:14 PM
Is Dad or another significant male around? The whole puberty thing makes me apprehensive as a sole parent to a male child. Most other aspects of parenting I have lived personally. I'm lucky as my step dad is heavily involved with DS.
My plan is to read up on the practicalities. (That's my plan whenever I am met with an unknown, I read about 14 cat books when I got the cat and I love the kid so much more!).
Then and as I do know, keep the path of communication open. DS is 5 and we already talk about it being Ok to touch your penis but in the privacy of your room. As he enters teenage hood, I'll stress being clean, private with this normal part of life.
Keep talking to both boys, how are they feeling, shaving, comfortable underwear. Little and often. Def include sexual feelings. That what they see online isnt real. Respect for themselves and their partners. Access to condoms. Golly, it's a long list so will need multiple conversations!
Good on you for having conscious thoughts on this. All the best!
Posted 05 December 2018 - 03:14 PM
My son was 11 a few months ago and we think he is having mood swings (I am not being funny by that we are not sure if it is connected or not). He did a course at school called interelate (sp?) (NSW public) which we think went into too much detail for the kids ages BUT in a way we are pleased as it opens up the discussion as we did not how to start it ourselves.
We are fine answering direct questions it was the where to begin thing we had trouble with.
We do not think our son's body has change but am waiting for it.
I am not sure how to define 'puberty' as such we just take it as it comes - does your sons school have a similar course coming up?
Posted 05 December 2018 - 03:37 PM
10yo is not out of the norm for puberty to start, I think it is us parents that freak more than the kids. lol
Puberty isn't just about sex so I don't think you need to go straight in to that, just explain how our bodies change as we get older etc.. We get hair in those places, willy gets bigger, voice changes etc
There is some great books around, of which I can't recall the names.
My kid is 13yo and he probably started getting signs when he was 11yo -ish.
Posted 05 December 2018 - 03:54 PM
In a medical sense, 10 isn't young. 8 is considered the lower end of normal (for girls anyway) My DD started getting pubic and underarm hair at 7. She didn't fully hit puberty (menses) until she was 10. SO you may have some time. However at 10 they should definitely know about their changing bodies and basic sexual education.
Edited by liveworkplay, 05 December 2018 - 03:55 PM.
Posted 05 December 2018 - 04:04 PM
My 10 year old Dd is getting pubes and breast buds and she turned 10 last sept . Her older sister didint start until closer to 12 . She is rather small and skinny so it has surprised me but is rather socially precocious . Has not been interested in toys for about a year and very much a ‘teen’ already.
It’s strange how it all works .
Was going to talk about periods ect to her and she looked at me like I was a idiot because she already knew all about it lol .
Posted 05 December 2018 - 04:26 PM
My daughter was 9 when she got her period, and my boys voices changed around 9 and 10. Just talk, and be open to them, talk about hygiene, deodorants etc too
Posted 05 December 2018 - 06:23 PM
My 10yo DS, nearly 11yo has started too. He’s getting pimples, oily skin, pubic hair, mood swings etc. we’re a pretty open family so he told us when he started growing hair and was proud of himself lol. We just take it day by day. So far I haven’t had the sexual talk yet, he’s definitely not ready but we did talk to him about the importance of hygiene as he started getting BO. Oh, the joys of it all.
Posted 07 December 2018 - 03:07 PM
I have a just turned 13yo who is basically completed puberty.
He started changing in grade 4. His voice broke at just turned 11yrs. Started getting really bad acne so at just turned 12 in grade 6 was referred to Dermatologist. So at 12yrs started Roaccutane.
He has always been aware of sex as we are an open family for discussion around these topics. But like PP said his body is changing but he has zero interest in sex. We periodically remind him about wet dreams being perfectly normal but at 13yrs end of grade 7 none.
We did see a paediatric Endocrinologist who said DS1 had done puberty early and fast (then assessed as a 15/16 yo in 12.5yo body), but said it was not outside the realms of normal. He also said if we had brought him earlier at 9yrs when we had first signs, the outcome would not be different. Endocrinologist was very against endocrine disrupters to delay puberty unless absolutely necessary as they felt the side effects etc were too much.
So now I have a lovely 13yo who has just finished grade 7 and has lovely clear skin. He is still a bit of a young boy in some respects, but older and wiser in others.
My just turned 11yo DS2 is also going fast through puberty. I expect his voice to break within 12m too. His pimples are starting to get to the point of needing to see the Dr too.
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