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#1 nasty buddha

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:29 PM

Maybe I'm getting paranoid, but I keep getting looks when I BF in public. Disapproving looks that I shouldn't  be feeding in a shop etc.

Am I supposed to leave the shop and find a parent room or whatever? Can't I just feed then and there?

#2 Crazy4

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:37 PM

Ofcourse you can feed everywhere, wherever you feel comfortable. You will get funny looks because some people are aholes, but that is on them, not you. You are nourishing your baby and that’s awesome.

#3 AsperHacker

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:38 PM

Nope. You dont have to leave anywhere. Kids is hungry, feed it. End of. Ignore the looks. (Most people probably arent looking but ignore the ones who are).

#4 lucky 2

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:38 PM

You can bf on a bench or chair at the shops, you don't have to segregate yourself if you and your baby find a comfortable place to rest and feed.
Maybe try not looking too much at those around you. Get comfortable, breath, relax if you can.
I presume you are not bf in the shop, IE a clothes shop or shoe shop. That would be different!
At a cafe or anywhere else that provides seating should be fine.

#5 Kafkaesque

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:39 PM

You certainly can feed anywhere. Like the PP said people are dicks. Feed wherever you are comfortable! Ignore the looks and just smile if someone looks at you. It makes them feel awkward lol

#6 nasty buddha

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM

Yeah if I am in a shoe or clothes shop I just stand and feed.

Is that bad form / bad etiquette?

#7 EsmeLennox

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM

Flip ‘em the bird.

Just ignore it, OP.

What’s wrong with feeding in a shop?

Edited by EsmeLennox, 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM.


#8 Mooples

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:46 PM

View Postnasty buddha, on 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM, said:

Yeah if I am in a shoe or clothes shop I just stand and feed.

Is that bad form / bad etiquette?

I would feel physically uncomfortable doing that myself. I prefer to feed sitting down. I would probably look at you thinking you’d surely be more comfortable sitting down somewhere rather than standing amongst shoes and customers. Of course you are free to do as you please but I’d say the increased looks are because that is less common even amongst breastfeeding women.

#9 Lunafreya

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:47 PM

Well I couldn’t, I always had to sit. But if you can, I might look at you to admire how skilled you are.

But you are allowed to BF anywhere you are comfortable.

#10 nasty buddha

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:48 PM

Oh okay. I stand to feed a fair bit. Maybe that is what is odd.

#11 Kabu84

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:48 PM

You are allowed to bf anywhere people are legally  allowed to be. No one can tell you to leave or not bf somewhere. It is actually the law.
I used to feel all self-conscious when feeding and getting those looks but now I feed and stare right back at them. F them! And I hope by breastfeeding in public it helps to normalise it and boost the confidence of other women who want or need to bf their babies in public.

#12 nasty buddha

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:49 PM

What I meant to say is maybe I get odd looks as it is unexpected.

#13 rosie28

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:50 PM

I imagine it’s slightly unusual for people to see someone feeding standing up. Half of them are probably wondering if they should offer you a chair or something. But you can feed wherever you want. I often fed standing up, though not in shops that I remember. Probably the strangest place was on the floor of a church during a funeral- needs must! I never noticed anyone looking at me and I only ever had positive comments!

#14 PocketGingerJingle

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:50 PM

I've fed in clothes and shoe shops. I've fed pushing a trolley round Woolworths (small baby, cooperative boobs).

Some people haven't realised that breastfeeding is none of their business.

Edit to add, now I think about it I would often stand to feed even at home, I was more comfortable standing and rocking or walking than sitting.

But yes I can see that people might be surprised to see it.

Edited by PocketGingerJingle, 04 December 2018 - 09:55 PM.


#15 nasty buddha

Posted 04 December 2018 - 09:55 PM

I often end up BF and pushing a pram ... not easy but otherwise I won't get to where I need to go

#16 AsperHacker

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:00 PM

View Postlucky 2, on 04 December 2018 - 09:38 PM, said:

You can bf on a bench or chair at the shops, you don't have to segregate yourself if you and your baby find a comfortable place to rest and feed.
Maybe try not looking too much at those around you. Get comfortable, breath, relax if you can.
I presume you are not bf in the shop, IE a clothes shop or shoe shop. That would be different!
At a cafe or anywhere else that provides seating should be fine.

Really? How is a shop any different to anywhere else? Kid is hungry, feed it.

I'm a little bit concerned that ebs *lactation expert* is suggesting that a mother feeding her baby in a shoe shop is not ok.

OP, if you can stand and feed in clothes or shoe shop then that's perfectly fine (with 3 kids, walking and feeding was necessary) if you cant then that's cool too. Feed where YOU and YOUR BABY are comfortable.

#17 Mrs Zee

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:02 PM

View Postlucky 2, on 04 December 2018 - 09:38 PM, said:

You can bf on a bench or chair at the shops, you don't have to segregate yourself if you and your baby find a comfortable place to rest and feed.
Maybe try not looking too much at those around you. Get comfortable, breath, relax if you can.
I presume you are not bf in the shop, IE a clothes shop or shoe shop. That would be different!
At a cafe or anywhere else that provides seating should be fine.

I'm really surprised at your response.

Ive bf walking through the super market while pushing a trolley. Is that weird too?

Bf is about so much more than just nutrition and the need to eat. I see nothing weird about bf while walking around a shop. I'd never get anything done these days if I had to find a seat every time my daughter wants to bf.

I'm sorry you've been made to feel uncomfortable OP. You absolutely have the right to feed wherever you choose to.

#18 Ellie bean

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:05 PM

I’m just jealous you can bf standing up, my boobs were so huge I couldn’t do it unless I was sitting down with a pillow, one hand holding the baby and the other holding up my gigantiboob!
You should be able to feed anywhere you like

#19 nasty buddha

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:06 PM

That's just it. My baby feeds for comfort or to sleep. So it isn't always a matter of a quick feed and off we go again.  If I don't feed and walk I just wouldn't get anything done.

#20 Magnolia2

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:06 PM

View Postnasty buddha, on 04 December 2018 - 09:48 PM, said:

Oh okay. I stand to feed a fair bit. Maybe that is what is odd.

Hells yes I'd be staring at you because I was JEALOUS! Standing to feed is a feat of amazingness!

(Finished BFing a few months ago, and I was the sort who needed to go back to the car to feed because I had about 47 pillows I needed to prop all around me to make it comfortable/hold my extremely heavy, wriggly DS.)

#21 EsmeLennox

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:07 PM

If a woman can BF standing up, walking around etc, more power to her, I reckon.

I was able to do it with two of mine, but not the other one.

Feed where you want OP.

#22 Hey what.@

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:07 PM

View Postnasty buddha, on 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM, said:

Yeah if I am in a shoe or clothes shop I just stand and feed.

Is that bad form / bad etiquette?

Of course you can feed in a shop. My understanding is you can feed anywhere you and bub are legally permitted to be. I've BF walking through a major shopping centre, church pew, during a vet consultation when it went longer than expected.

My advice is per PP - ignore the looks.

If I see a walking / standing mum BF at the shops  I think 'good for her,  great BF skills'.

#23 OneDayDreamer

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:08 PM

I feed wherever. Walking round a market, eating dinner in a restaurant. Usually I'll try for somewhere to sit comfortably, or out of the way (giant pram!) but if she's hungry, she's hungry and I'd rather stick her on the boob than get the stares for having a screaming child!

#24 Crazy4

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:08 PM

View Postnasty buddha, on 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM, said:

Yeah if I am in a shoe or clothes shop I just stand and feed.

Is that bad form / bad etiquette?

One of my friends would stand and feed her baby while we were waiting in q’s, in shops or wherever.  She made it look so easy that I was envious. I always felt more comfortable sitting but if I could have done it easily like my friend, I definitely would have.

#25 sarahec

Posted 04 December 2018 - 10:14 PM

View Postnasty buddha, on 04 December 2018 - 09:41 PM, said:

Yeah if I am in a shoe or clothes shop I just stand and feed.

Is that bad form / bad etiquette?

I used to do that. I was too tired to noticed if anyone cared.




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