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#1 newmumandexcited

Posted 01 December 2018 - 05:35 PM

I’ve posted about this guy before but just checking in.. one of my twins (youngest of three) is so different to my other two sons and I wondered if he sounded well.. ‘normal’ to you.

Good stuff -

- He’s intelligent - picks up words almost the first time it’s heard, has been putting full sentences like ‘I want ice cream daddy’ together for about four months, so has his brother so prob a second-child thing, recognises and identifies numbers etc
- Understands appropriate behaviour, will apologise if hurts someone, if someone is hurt will often stroke their head and kiss them, love other kids, no issue with eye contact or overstimulation in shopping centres etc
- Understands directions - for example, if you ask him to sit down properly on the stool or the tv will go off, understands completely what you ask and the consequences
- Is capable of sitting for a few mins quietly looking at a book etc
- Have done Monash ASD app and no signs of autism on it though I know it’s not exact
- Sleeps through but did need less than brothers, still has a 1-2 hour nap daily, resists sleeping and rolls and cries (you have to be there with him on the bed) but sleeps soundly once asleep


- So intense, 0-100 and hard to calm down emotionally, often crying for long periods of time and wanting to be held basically all day, could never ever sleep in a cot etc, only rarely seems satisfied with life, obsessed with certain foods and fussy eater but no discernible pattern with texture or anything
- Must have his way immediately and cannot seem to wait for a thing - maybe he has to wait more than my eldest with three kids, constantly demanding things all day - water, dummies, shoes, certain foods..
- A little bit inappropriately physical - will often lie on his brother and can’t sit still for long periods on your lap, leans against others etc - this could be more noticeable as he’s very heavy

What do you guys think? It’s very difficult for me to see anyone with the nature of my life so thought I’d check in..maybe it’s the paranoid teacher in me.

Edited by newmumandexcited, 01 December 2018 - 05:46 PM.

#2 Smoo

Posted 01 December 2018 - 06:18 PM

He sounds a lot like my now 7yo who has now been assessed as gifted. Have a look at Dabrowski's Overexitabilities https://www.verywell...hildren-1449118

#3 newmumandexcited

Posted 01 December 2018 - 06:28 PM

View PostSmoo, on 01 December 2018 - 06:18 PM, said:

He sounds a lot like my now 7yo who has now been assessed as gifted. Have a look at Dabrowski's Overexitabilities https://www.verywell...hildren-1449118

This does sound a lot like him. I have actually thought adhd myself, as this article says, but he can concentrate for periods. He’s just so much work.

#4 PrincessPeach

Posted 02 December 2018 - 07:50 PM

View Postnewmumandexcited, on 01 December 2018 - 06:28 PM, said:

This does sound a lot like him. I have actually thought adhd myself, as this article says, but he can concentrate for periods. He’s just so much work.

My brother has what is now termed as ADHD (back then was ADD), he can concentrate for ages on things he is interested in, anything else - he really has to force himself to focus, so at this age the concentration issues might not be so obvious.

#5 alchetta

Posted 03 December 2018 - 02:52 AM

My nearly 20 month old is also non stop 0-100 extremely demanding of time. She doesn't cry all day long but since recently has to drag you around everywhere and make you sit down with her. Her speech is also very advanced and she howls at any sleep time, sleeps 10 hours at night and 1-2h daytime but wakes at the slightest noise. She's also a pretty fussy eater and I never know if she'll eat what I put in front of her.

I figured she's just ahead of herself on speech and probably a bit frustrated by that (she's bilingual so I expected speech to take longer) and very highly strung. I have to give her loads of exercise outside every day from early or she starts screaming. It's full on but I think she's much more regulated at childcare and doesn't talk so much there.

Probably no help but I do see plenty of similarities with my very empathetic chatty energetic toddler who I consider normal if a handful having not had other kids!

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