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#1 BluJay

Posted 30 October 2018 - 12:04 PM

Ok. So I'm sure I'm going to sound weird, but.....

I'm expecting my third baby. Its my third boy.

We like Ezra alot.


I have been wanting to use the name Esme for three children now. Obviously for a girl who has never eventuated....

So, do I use the name Ezra for the baby who IS coming, or find something else in case I DO ever get my girl? Obviously having an Ezra and then an Esme is a bit same-same and I'm not sure I could do it. But if I do get my girl I would be heartbroken not to use the name I have had picked out for years.


#2 Pearson

Posted 30 October 2018 - 12:06 PM

How many more kids are you going to have? You could use Ezra as a middle name, same w esme.

#3 BluJay

Posted 30 October 2018 - 12:10 PM

We would only have one more, even if it was a fourth boy.

Only problem is, Ezra is the only boys name we can agree on. And we are both in love with Esme. It's the one name we have both loved from day one of expecting our first.

Just don't know what to do

#4 MrsT2018

Posted 30 October 2018 - 12:19 PM

Maybe look for a similar boys name???


Otherwise, use Ezra and if you have a girl later on, call her Esme. I don't think its completely ridiculous :-)

#5 BluJay

Posted 30 October 2018 - 12:23 PM

I have tried for Elijah, Ezekiel and Elias - but can't get them over the  line. I would be happy with Ezekiel!

Isaac is a possibility. We both like it, just don't love it.

#6 born.a.girl

Posted 30 October 2018 - 01:10 PM

I don't see a problem with Ezra and Esme either.

#7 Threelittleducks

Posted 30 October 2018 - 01:14 PM

I see no problem with having siblings born years apart being called Ezra and Esme.

Beautiful names. Go for it.

Best wishes.

#8 Gudrun

Posted 30 October 2018 - 01:30 PM

I think it's smart to think ahead regarding possible sibsets.

Regarding your particular dilemma though I love Ezra and I don't love Esme. Since you love Esme that much though and want to be able to hold it in reserve I would look for similar names to Ezra first before abandonnning Esme..

#9 laridae

Posted 30 October 2018 - 01:31 PM

I'd just go with Ezra. You may never have a girl to call Esme, and even if you did you might find something else you like, or you could just use it anyway.

#10 Nebula

Posted 30 October 2018 - 01:44 PM

I'd keep looking for something else but if you can't find anything you both love still use Ezra when your son is born

#11 kerilyntaryn

Posted 30 October 2018 - 03:50 PM

I say see if you can find anything else,  but it wouldnt really matter if you used both

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#12 Inkogneatoh

Posted 30 October 2018 - 04:06 PM

With your plan for one more, I'd keep looking for something totally different and use Ezra or Esme for the forth. But I have an issue with siblings with the same initials that many don't have, even before you get to the similar sounding names.

#13 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 30 October 2018 - 04:20 PM

I know of siblings called Olivia and Oliver, I think that’s weird. Ezra and Esme as siblings are fine I think.

#14 Flutteby

Posted 30 October 2018 - 04:25 PM

My opinion: Use Ezra and if you do have a girl next use Esme. I don't think it's a big deal if they are similar. They are not always going to be referred to in the same sentence. They are not always going to live together. In the big scheme of things it really doesn't matter. They are both great names that you love so why not use them both if you can?

#15 Lou-bags

Posted 30 October 2018 - 04:31 PM

I'd find another boy's name. However, I am biased in a sense, as I dislike the name Ezra quite a lot, but think Esme is quite lovely. PPs idea of saving Ezra and Esme for the 4th child is a good one.

For what it is worth, neither DH nor I felt like we loved either of our DS's names. We have reasonably similar taste but couldn't get to the "love" level of excitement about names, even ones we didn't agree on. We were both very happy with the names we've chosen, despite never feeling like they were "the one" so to speak. Children have a way of growing into their names I think.

#16 Tough titties

Posted 30 October 2018 - 04:32 PM

I think Ezra and Esme are fine. Imagine having twins Ezra and Esme, that would be cute.

#17 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 30 October 2018 - 04:33 PM

They do Loubags. Also we had another name picked out for DS but changed our mind when he was born.

#18 Lesley225

Posted 30 October 2018 - 05:15 PM

Children are together for such a short period of their lives I don't see it matters.  And they're not that similiar.

#19 little lion

Posted 30 October 2018 - 05:20 PM

Just name him Ezra. If you do have another baby after and if that baby is a girl, then call her Esme. That’s a lot of ifs.

#20 Astrocyte

Posted 30 October 2018 - 05:26 PM

I really don’t see a problem with using Ezra and Esme for siblings. To me they are quite different names, with the only similarity being they both start with the letter E.

#21 amdirel

Posted 30 October 2018 - 07:15 PM

I think Ezra and Esme are too similar for siblings. If you've really had your heart set on Esme and you're going to have more babies, I would not go with Ezra.

#22 Silvers

Posted 30 October 2018 - 07:26 PM

I wouldn’t have an Ezra and Esme for siblings.  I think you need to decide which name you love the most and go from there.

#23 Plaxy

Posted 30 October 2018 - 08:10 PM

I'd work on finding another boy's name. Like a pp said, it may in the end though come down to which you prefer out of Ezra and Esme. I'm not keen on them as siblings. I'm not a fan of Ezra though so easy for me to say find something else....

#24 Ollie83

Posted 30 October 2018 - 08:13 PM

I don’t have an issue with Ezra & Esme as siblings, it’s a bit of a tongue twist but it’s still fine.

I’d go with who is coming now & deal with that bridge if you cross it later.

#25 Silver Girl

Posted 30 October 2018 - 08:25 PM

I would save both Ezra and Esme and use one for your fourth child.

They are too similar for me to use both. Having said that, my Mum and her brother had rhyming names (along the lines of Bonnie and Johnny) and it was never an issue. I don’t think it was deliberate on their parents’ part, either.

I have a few names that I couldn’t use saved up to use on future pets!

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