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#1 Bobby3

Posted 20 May 2018 - 11:20 PM

Hi everyone,
I’m 2 days away from being induced and my husband and I are seriously stumped when it comes to names. We’re expecting a surprise so really would like at least a couple of options for each.
Currently we have agreed on a middle name for each so that’s a good start. James and Marika. And we’ve agreed we don’t want something too common - but we also don’t want an unusual or made up name. Just trying to avoid the top 100-200 names so our baby doesn’t share names with 3 others at childcare.

So far we like Wolf for a boy and Murphy for a girl. But worry with these is that Wolf is too odd, so would like a more traditional option, and Murphy is too masculine so a more feminine name would be good to include.

Any ideas or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

#2 chickendrumstick

Posted 21 May 2018 - 12:03 AM

I quite like Wolf and Murphy, I didn't immediately but then they grew on me quite quickly!

Other ideas that I wouldn't think to be doubles at childcare:



#3 Lou-bags

Posted 21 May 2018 - 02:00 AM

Wolf is not my style, but it’s a cool name that I could see working.

Can’t get behind Murphy I’m sorry. I have a thing against traditionally male names for females. I dislike that it’s considered edgy and cool to give girls a boy name but the opposite is not also true. When it goes both ways I’ll be all for it!

I think Marika might be tricky to match, but I quite like it as a first name. I assume there is a reason you haven’t considered that?


Good luck with the impending birth! Exiting times!

Edited to add- my top 10 named DS1 has not had another boy with his name in his 4 years of childcare (none in his kindy cohort either). Though there were two in my mothers group. It’s so unpredictable. If you love a name, don’t rule it out just for this reason.

Edited by Lou-bags, 21 May 2018 - 02:05 AM.

#4 majirlo

Posted 21 May 2018 - 07:12 AM

I don't mind Wolfe but much prefer Wilder - Wilder James :) Love that you've chosen a solid name like James with something more unusual.

Sorry but not a fan of Murphy at all. I also find Marika a bit harsh so Murphy Marika doesn't work well imo (sorry if it's a family name).

Top 100-200 is a lot to rule out, did you mean top 10-20...?

Fletcher James
Ari James
Orlo James (a very old name, rarely used but easy to say/spell)
Morgan James
Travis James
Nash James (I know a man called Nash, really suits him and nice/easy to say/spell, etc)


#5 laridae

Posted 21 May 2018 - 07:29 AM

I like Wolf. You could go Wolfgang and shorten to Wolf too.
I don’t think I could  go Murphy for a girl. Will it be shortened to Murph or Fee?
You could go another Fee name. Phoebe, Fiona, Delphi, Sophie, Serafina

Edited by laridae, 21 May 2018 - 07:31 AM.

#6 Drat

Posted 21 May 2018 - 07:47 AM

What about;



#7 Drat

Posted 21 May 2018 - 07:49 AM

Btw, Wolf is definitely getting more popular, so I wouldn't think it odd at all.

If I ever wonder about the popularity of a name I like, I always search the bonds baby search to see. There is quite a few Wolf /Wolfe/Wolfgangs on there!


#8 Astrocyte

Posted 21 May 2018 - 08:00 AM

I love the name Wolf.

Cannot like Murphy for a girl. Terrible name for a girl. I don’t like this trend of girls having traditional boys name, and it annoys me that boys don’t get given traditional girls names. Unisex names is a different thing altogether.

Some unique girls names
Cora or Coralie

#9 Bobby3

Posted 21 May 2018 - 08:23 AM

Thanks so much for all the amazing suggestions. You’ve got me feeling better about Wolf. Murphy Rose I think might work better. Marika is a family name, but so is Rose so would be good to have as an option. I also love Miles and Willow so thank you!

And to whoever suggested we worry less about how common a name is and go with what we love - thank
You. I think that’s really good advise and might take the pressure off a little.

#10 Gudrun

Posted 21 May 2018 - 08:28 AM



#11 Astrocyte

Posted 21 May 2018 - 08:42 AM

OP Willow is such a lovely name for a girl. Much better than Murphy.

Also really like Miles for a boy.

#12 Akadia

Posted 21 May 2018 - 08:49 AM

Yes Murphy Rose sounds much more fluid together

Do like Wolf James

I think when it comes to names you and your husband need to back yourselves - people will always love or dislike the names you've chosen based on their own preferences - the important thing is that you both love it!

#13 Bobby3

Posted 21 May 2018 - 08:57 AM

Thanks @Akadia

#14 little lion

Posted 21 May 2018 - 09:27 AM

I really like the combo Wolfgang James.

Murphy is not my style at all. Sounds worse with Marika too. I like Astrocyte’s girl name suggestions.

#15 MsLaurie

Posted 21 May 2018 - 04:34 PM

Marika for a middle name is nice, and a bit less common than Rose, which is used a lot for middle names.

Some possibilities with Marika:

Rachel Marika
Fern Marika
Bernadette Marika
Xanthe Marika
Yvonne Marika

#16 Bearynice

Posted 21 May 2018 - 04:46 PM

I think ignore the popularity factor and choose something you love.
Try to choose a name that suits as a child or a grown up ( not too cutesy iykwim)
Marika is a bit of a tricky middle name to make the whole name flow

#17 Lou-bags

Posted 21 May 2018 - 04:47 PM

If you really wanted to keep Marika but chose a first name that won't quite flow perfectly, you could also consider two middle names?

Murphy Rose Marika is much better than Murphy Marika.

#18 Blondiebear

Posted 21 May 2018 - 04:59 PM

What about Rose Marika?

#19 Lou-bags

Posted 21 May 2018 - 05:08 PM

View PostBlondiebear, on 21 May 2018 - 04:59 PM, said:

What about Rose Marika?

Or Marika Rose.

I don't think Marika would be particularly common right now. Some nickname potential too.

#20 magic_marker

Posted 21 May 2018 - 05:16 PM

Odette Marika Or Odette Rose Marika

Wolfgang James

Felix James

#21 kerilyntaryn

Posted 21 May 2018 - 05:55 PM

sorry I dont like Wolf or Murphy  James and Marika

oh I like Odette

Felix James in nice too

Clare, Esther, Amy, Elise, Alice, Chelsea, Eden, Heidi, Hazel, Tamsyn, Erin

Callum, Todd, Dean, Grant, Corbin, Cormac, Bryce, Elliott, Blake, Calvin, Kian, Leon, Levi, Nolan, Roland, Stewart, Quinton, Talon, Silas, Vincent, Vaughn, Timothy, Tobias

#22 Imaginary friend

Posted 21 May 2018 - 07:36 PM

Not a fan of either Wolf or Murphy.

Marika is pretty, would make a good first name, unusual but easy for people to 'get it' - but if you want it as a middle named after somebody, and you like Willow, then Willow Marika works well.

I wouldnt go as far as avoiding names in top 200 - top 20, I get, if you want something less popular, but trying to avoid popularity too much is too restrictive IMO

#23 theboys2

Posted 22 May 2018 - 09:15 AM

My two boys are named Sl@ter and T@nner

we love them. infact Sl@ters middle name is james as well!

#24 Lou-bags

Posted 22 May 2018 - 10:09 AM

Good luck today OP!

#25 .kmb

Posted 22 May 2018 - 10:15 PM

I don't like Murphy or Wolf sorry.

I would prefer Marika as a first name.  

Marika Rose
Marika Grace
Marika Jade/Jane

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