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#1 dannielle92

Posted 16 March 2018 - 04:13 PM

First time mum, second pregnancy
i miscarried in December at 11 weeks, chose the D&C option as i wanted this baby more than anything, and figured rather than waiting 2-3 weeks painfully and bleeding i wanted the process over and done with.

im very happy with my decision for the surgery even though it was a lot to take on emotionally on top of my miscarriage and losing my dad the month before it was a really rough couple of months

after finally healing and all the hcg out of my system we started again 3 months later here i am, 5 weeks pregnant and absolutely terrified of he road ahead.. i feel that everything i do.. eat and think could end in miscarriage again

i am in so much fear of this happening again, and nothing can get this thought from my mind

when i go to the toilet im terrified of their being blood, terrified of sex and every single little twinge or cramp takes me right back to that day, hoping after the 11 week milestone will get easier but i am just so sad im going to not enjoy my pregnancy for a while yet

just needing a vent, thanks for reading ladies xx

#2 born.a.girl

Posted 16 March 2018 - 04:36 PM

It's completely understandable.  I'm sorry it's so traumatic for you and you're not able to enjoy this time.

I had quite a bit of bleeding, was told to not work and lie in bed which wasn't possible.  I didn't have a miscarriage and even then still spent the whole nine months nervously checking every time I went to the toilet.

I can't imagine how much worse I'd have been if I'd actually had one.  Hope it gets better for you as the weeks pass.

#3 123Babies4Me

Posted 17 March 2018 - 05:31 AM

Hi OP. I was like this too. I had a blighted ovum and D&C last August (the whole process took a month because the dr took so long to diagnose - which was heartbreaking). My DH also lost his job and struggled to find a new one and we eventually had to relocate. It was a bad year.

I fell pregnant again in October. To say the first trimester was full of anxiety feels like an understatement! I felt like there was no way I could cope with miscarrying again. It was only in recent weeks (I’m now 24 weeks) that I have started to relax a little bit.

I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. Do you think that speaking to a counsellor, or a friend, or your partner could help with the anxiety? A counsellor might be able to help with some strategies for coping with anxiety too, they have for me in the past.

Best of luck OP xx

Edited by 123Babies4Me, 17 March 2018 - 05:33 AM.


#4 AuntyJJJ

Posted 25 September 2019 - 02:27 PM

Sorry for your loss. My first pregnancy was like this too as I was so anxious about everything. Just accept things for what they are. It's never going to be some Hollywood movie experience...everything you eat will be worrying...and the further along you are more invested and the more you don't want to lose baby (at least that was my experience...)

Just accept that until you are holding your precious baby nothing will really be ok!

Then you'll have another and you won't even pay attention to anything you'll be so busy chasing after the first...

#5 Mooples

Posted 25 September 2019 - 03:33 PM

So sorry for your loss op, I went through the same. By about half way I was able to relax a little knowing he was all ok in there. It’s such a horrible time waiting. The 2 weeks waiting from when I got my positive pregnancy test until my 6 week appointment with my ob was the longest 2 weeks and I was just so desperate to see the heartbeat. Good luck.

#6 Kattikat

Posted 25 September 2019 - 03:40 PM

I had totally normal first pregnancy, then had 2 miscarriages at about 6 weeks when trying for number 2. Then bleeding from week 6 to week 13 with my now 2 year old. I was so cocky and cavalier during my first pregnancy and my second one was a completely different experience! I didn't really start to relax until after my 20 week scan and once I'd felt bub moving and growing. It's so hard, I totally get it. I think you just have to think of each pregnancy as its own discrete occurrence and that what has happened previously doesn't have any bearing in what happens this time. All the best x

#7 born.a.girl

Posted 25 September 2019 - 03:42 PM

The OP's hopefully planning the baby's first birthday.

#8 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 25 September 2019 - 03:51 PM

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Edited by 22Fruitmincepies, 25 September 2019 - 03:52 PM.


#9 Mollyksy

Posted 25 September 2019 - 05:19 PM

Always fall for it!! I never look at dates. Hope it worked our for the OP.

#10 born.a.girl

Posted 25 September 2019 - 05:20 PM

 Mollyksy, on 25 September 2019 - 05:19 PM, said:

Always fall for it!! I never look at dates. Hope it worked our for the OP.


Me neither, until I realised I'd already made a comment. :)




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