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#26 lucky 2

Posted 01 March 2018 - 03:45 PM

Hi gemgirl,

I have moved your topic to the "Babies born early" forum.

Though I hope your little one continues to develop on the inside!

All the best,

lucky 2

#27 born.a.girl

Posted 01 March 2018 - 03:56 PM

I have to confess I didn't do anything, despite the fact that I was warned beforehand that worst case scenario was a caesar at 26 weeks.  I had pre-existing severe high blood pressure that was really hard to control, even with a very high level of medication, inc a Category D that I had to stay on until pregnant as there wasn't much else.

Turned out to be fine, made it to 37.5 weeks, and although the 'pre' talk was absolutely necessary, I actually didn't feel confident enough about ending up with a baby, premature or otherwise, to actually prepare.

Can only wish you the same further, relatively uneventful journey to a healthy, near term baby.

(Not doing what I did, but following the great suggestions. :)  )

#28 A NEW HOPE

Posted 01 March 2018 - 04:05 PM

I have had 3 premmies and I knew ahead of time with my last 2 that they would be early. i had 35 weeks, 32 weeks and 32+5.

My biggest bit of advice is to have a name picked. Bubs will be whisked off you very quickly after birth (you may not even get a cuddle) and in SCBU/ NICU they write a name tag on your baby's cot. Because you haven't really had a chance to bond after birth having that cute little card with their chosen name makes it all a bit more real IYKWIM. Instead of "baby of smith".

#29 born.a.girl

Posted 01 March 2018 - 04:29 PM

View PostA NEW HOPE, on 01 March 2018 - 04:05 PM, said:

I have had 3 premmies and I knew ahead of time with my last 2 that they would be early. i had 35 weeks, 32 weeks and 32+5.

My biggest bit of advice is to have a name picked. Bubs will be whisked off you very quickly after birth (you may not even get a cuddle) and in SCBU/ NICU they write a name tag on your baby's cot. Because you haven't really had a chance to bond after birth having that cute little card with their chosen name makes it all a bit more real IYKWIM. Instead of "baby of smith".

What a great suggestion, it would never have entered my head.

#30 Dirty Cat

Posted 01 March 2018 - 04:56 PM

I had PE and help syndrome which resulted in a 900g 30weeker. My suggestion would ever mentally prepare. Think about looking up what micro-prems look like. Think about how you will manage baby in hospital.will you have to stay or can you drive there. While you are still unwell and can't drive who will take you there etc etc.

I peice of advice that rang true was people will not react as you expect. People will avoid you until the baby is well because they don't know what to do or offer

#31 Riotproof

Posted 01 March 2018 - 04:58 PM

Gemgirl, how are you doing?

#32 gemgirl

Posted 01 March 2018 - 05:47 PM

Thanks. I'm doing well - only 20 weeks along, so still a long way to go. BP has been quite high, but my last reading (on Saturday) was good :) I'm mostly having weekly BP checks.

That said, this week my feet have started to swell (nothing nearly as bad as last time, though, so that's a relief!) and I'm getting my high BP symptoms again (headaches etc) so I'll possibly need to increase meds next visit. Still too early for any pre-e diagnosis, thankfully.

I'm hopeful that I'll born.a.girl and go to to 37 weeks. That's what happened last time, but the BP wasn't as high as it has been this time around. At 13 weeks it was the highest it's ever been and we immediately increased my medication, but it's been harder to control than it was last pregnancy.

#33 Riotproof

Posted 01 March 2018 - 10:26 PM

I hope you do too. Try to stay calm.

#34 jovana

Posted 02 March 2018 - 10:51 AM

You seem like you're in good hands. I hope it all goes well for you.

My BP was high since about end of 3rd trimester. It never went down. I had C section at 31+6 with severe PE/HELLP, IUGR baby and other complications.

I had no clue, my OB never mentioned PE, what high BP means, explained symptoms etc etc. You can see where I'm going with this. My point is, be ready, ask your Dr, Google if necessary, etc... but knowing some early signs will help save you and baby.
I was dismissed twice by my local hospital were I was supposed to give birth at. By "trained" and "experienced " midwives and Drs. I went in though ED due to severe liver pain.

I hope your Dr is way better, weekly visits already sound like he's keeping an eye on you quite well.

I was not ready at all, we still had most of our baby stuff on lay buy. But we got through it all. The only important thing is that mum and baby are doing fine.

And yes my 960gr baby is doing great. :) She's 10 now, healthy, doing well at school, absolutely no issues from being premature. She's turning into a bit of a teenage hormonal monster lol.

#35 gemgirl

Posted 02 March 2018 - 11:00 AM

View Postjovana, on 02 March 2018 - 10:51 AM, said:


My BP was high since about end of 3rd trimester. It never went down. I had C section at 31+6 with severe PE/HELLP, IUGR baby and other complications.


Do you mean since about end of 2nd trimester?

I'm a little concerned b/c it's been high since the start, but hopefully that means I can cope with it. My last baby was IUGR due to the pre-e, but not as small as yours. Thanks for sharing :) I am in good hands, my OB is a high risk specialist, and she's great, and then I have a regular midwife, too, so I feel well looked after. What a shame your OB didn't educate you :( It's a topic of conversation for me, since my aunty had pre-e, and I had high BP outside of pregnancy, too




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