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First time mum with a great birth
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Posted 05 January 2018 - 07:29 PM
I'll start by saying I'm a young ftm (23) and am of a petite build (5ft) so the birth of my son was something I was super nervous for. My DS due date was the 16/12/17, and I was super nervous to have him so close to Christmas because I didn't want to be in hospital during Christmas. But everyone kept telling me ftm often go over their due dates. Luckily for me, I was 38±5 when I went into labour.
It was 6am exactly on the 7/12/17 and I got out of bed to go to the toilet as usual this time of morning. On my way I felt what felt like a large amount of mucus come out. When I was halfway down the hall I felt a sudden gush of liquid (about 1cup) quickly made it to the toilet in time so most of it ended up there, the rest ended up in my underwear (thankfully no mess). I then rang my midwife to let her know as I was strep b positive & my waters had broken before contractions had started. It was now around 6:15am and I'd just gotten off the phone to the midwife who said come straight in to the hospital (a 45min drive from my house). When the phone call concluded contractions had started and were at about 10 minutes apart already. I quickly packed my sons bag & grabbed my own & notified my mum who was transporting my partner and myself to the hospital. By this point it was about 7am when we got into the car and headed to the hospital.
Things progressed quickly. 10 minutes into the hospital trip (still another 35 minutes away), my contractions were now at 8 minutes apart and getting stronger.
We finally arrived at the hospital around 7:45 and headed to labour and delivery, where I was asked to wait in the waiting room while they got a room set up for me. They took what felt like forever. My contractions were now at about 5-6 minutes apart and I told them that things were moving super fast and they needed to hurry (but I think they didn't believe me being a ftm?).
I finally got into a room at around 8am and the midwife had a quick 'chat' with me and then said she would check to see where I was at dilation wise. She then said that I was at 4cms and had a long way to go & things 'seem to be slowing down' (although it certainly didn't feel like it!). She told me because I was strep B positive I needed antibiotics and they needed to be taken asap and they wanted to induce me because it could take up to 12 hours for me to be fully dilated and ready to push. I've always reacted bad to antibiotics and it was never my plan to have antibiotics as I wanted to have a natural water birth.
Through all the pain I honestly couldn't make a decision and I really had my heart set on a natural birth (the midwife was still trying to get the bath ready). My gut instinct just told me not to rush anything and just wait it out. By now the time was around 10am and my contractions were about 2-3 minutes apart and very strong. The midwives had all pretty much walked off and I pressed and urgent call button and when they arrived back I told them I felt like things had progress much faster than they thought and begged them to check dilation & let me know how things were going. They said they feel as though they didn't need to because although contractions were close together I was showing signs like it wasn't progressing (which was rubbish), although after me begging they agreed to check at 10:30am. At around 10:20 I started feeling the urge to push and I begged the midwife to check because I didn't want to push unless I was at 10cm dilated (i've heard horror stories of women pushing before being fully dilated).
The midwife said if I'm having urges to push I should push & she will come and check. She then confirmed I was 10cm dilated and had entered 2nd stage of labour. After around an hour or so of pushing my son was born at 11:27am. I never did end up making the bath/water birth and things progressed quickly antibiotics would have been ineffective as the birth happened too quickly and obviously an induction wasn't needed, so I'm glad I followed my instincts and delayed my decision. Not wanting to be stuck on my back as I birthed, I opted to give birth kneeling on the bed instead so I had gravity for assistance, while squeezing my mum and partners hand.
Immediately afterwards we did skin to skin and waited for the cord to stop pulsating before being clamped and cut (by my partner). It reached the 45 minute mark and the placenta still hadn't been delivered yet. The midwives wanted to do the injection to speed things along, however wanting the whole process to be as natural as possible I begged them to hold off and allow my body to sort it out itself (bodies aren't always text book perfect). The placenta was then naturally delivered at the 55 minute mark. I did have second degree tearing and received stitches.
Overall I felt the whole experience was great and although not entirely what I wanted (the water birth). I'm happy that it was 100% natural and unassisted and that it went very quickly and also I got to spend Christmas at home with my family. We did have a 48 hour hospital stay because of the strep B, but everything was fine and on the 2nd day we were discharged.
Here's a few pictures of my beautiful son Leo.
First day home:
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First car ride (2 days old, left) second car ride (4 weeks old, right).
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And just because he's cute:
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And Leo on Christmas day:
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Posted 05 January 2018 - 07:54 PM
Congratulations on the arrival of your darling boy, he is super cute! Sounds like a brilliant experience for you both. Well Done for trusting your instincts too xx
Posted 05 January 2018 - 08:40 PM
Congratulations! What a beautiful little boy you have. Thanks for sharing his lovely birth story.
Posted 05 January 2018 - 09:23 PM
Congratulations! Your memory recall of the birth is amazing. Beautiful baby.
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