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#1 LisbethSalander

Posted 21 March 2017 - 12:14 PM

Not posting for attention, but because I do have people on here who I know care about my family and would wonder and maybe worry if I went quiet.

I do need to step back though. I can see I am not responding well to this forum right now. I am not happy with how much I am thinking about this virtual community and how much it invades my thoughts and self image in a very skewed way.

I know its not this place, its me and my own mental health issues. Every slight negative here is something I take on to the nth degree and embeds itself in my psyche. I dont shrug things off well as the best of times. All of my emotional strength is used in keeping my kids ticking along and leaves me rather vulnerable.

DS's latest illness seems to have been the straw that broke the camels back for me. It was one thing thinking he was really sick, but the night he came close to death has changed something in me. Im not bouncing back so well this time.

I love this place and the people I have got to know here and I have no intention of leaving on a permanent basis, but my current emotional state makes me a bad fit for here right now.

Anyone wants to keep in touch, just send me a PM. Youse are not all b**ches, far from it. I hope to be back when Im on a more even keel.

DS is going back for another review today as he is not recovering the way we had expected. I have two assignments due next week and a new stream of therapies and providers to settle into. Thats where my focus needs to be right now.

Best wishes to all. x

#2 wallofdodo

Posted 21 March 2017 - 12:19 PM

Don't forget to come back when you are ready.

#3 flopflop

Posted 21 March 2017 - 12:35 PM

I'll be keeping you and your boys in my thoughts.

#4 IamtheMumma

Posted 21 March 2017 - 12:38 PM

Do what you need to do to take care of you and yours. Be kind to yourself.

#5 ~Nasty_Jodama~

Posted 21 March 2017 - 12:42 PM

Best of luck LS. You will be missed :bighug:

Hope things begin to look up for you and your family soon.

#6 Owls

Posted 21 March 2017 - 12:50 PM

Another (very) long time lurker who enjoys your posts and has for years. EB won't be the same without you around but certainly look after yourself and take a rest. Sorry to hear about your son, after the highjump post it sounded like things were going very well.

#7 Nastyflea

Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:16 PM

Take care of yourself LS.
You're stronger and wiser than you know.

#8 *Spikey*

Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:19 PM

Take care and enjoy your holiday from EB. Know that our best wishes go with you.

#9 JustBeige

Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:19 PM

I think that its awesome that you realise that you need to take a break.  It shows that you are aware of what is helping and what is not at the  moment.

All the best LS to you and your boys.

#10 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:23 PM

Everyone deserves a holiday, even from EB! :)

Do whatever you need to do to care for your boys, as well as whatever you need for yourself.  You are stronger than you realise but everyone goes through period where they simply need to nurture themselves, to acknowledge their own fragility and give themselves some strengthening time.

I hope we hear from you again (soon).  

I really hope your son turns a corner very soon and recovers well.

#11 Silverstreak

Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:40 PM

Come back soon and take care of yourself xo

#12 JJ

Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:52 PM

I understand. Take care of yourself and hope to see you back when you're ready. :)

#13 Starletta

Posted 21 March 2017 - 01:52 PM

We will all be waiting! You'll be missed. I will be thinking of you. x

#14 usandthem

Posted 21 March 2017 - 03:38 PM

Take care of yourself LS. I don't post often but I read your threads and admire your resilience.

#15 *Nasty*Squeekums*

Posted 21 March 2017 - 03:44 PM

Hope the break helps
will be thinking of you all
we will be here when you get back :bighug:

#16 Ghost Girl

Posted 21 March 2017 - 03:45 PM

completely understandable. Thanks for updating. We would probably start to worry if you hadnt been on for a while.
EB is here when you are ready to come back.

#17 Tiger Print

Posted 21 March 2017 - 03:45 PM

All the best LS, take care of you and your boys.

#18 NastyMuddyPuddles

Posted 21 March 2017 - 04:44 PM

Take care of yourself LS xx

#19 Tomahawk

Posted 21 March 2017 - 07:06 PM

I also don't post a whole lot but want you to know you will be missed. I always read your posts and really like you. We will be here when you want to come back xx

#20 DJandJ

Posted 21 March 2017 - 07:15 PM

Do come back when the time is right. Your responses to other posters are a magic combination of thoughtful, articulate and funny.

#21 Lifesgood

Posted 21 March 2017 - 07:19 PM

I hear you LS, and wish you all the best on your EB break I hope you can get back on your feet again soon.

#22 Tender Heart

Posted 21 March 2017 - 07:22 PM

Take the time you and your family need LS.

I hope your DS' recovery improves - even if slowly, but surely.

Take care LS, lots of people thinking of you.

#23 Silver Girl

Posted 21 March 2017 - 07:23 PM

I'll miss your resilience and wisdom. I understand your need to take time out though. Look after yourself.

#24 sueratbag

Posted 21 March 2017 - 07:24 PM

Take care, be kind to you, wishing you and yours all the best. :hugs:


Posted 21 March 2017 - 07:26 PM

Take care of yourself LS.  I hope your DS starts picking up.

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