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#1 Gateaugirl

Posted 18 March 2017 - 10:07 AM

I'm going to bite the bullet and try toilet training next week. DD2 is very interested in the potty and toilet insert, is doing lots of sitting (though not doing anything yet) and knows when she's done a wee or poo.

And her nappy refusal is driving me bananas.

I'm going to do a big shop and then go nowhere for a week (or two ugh).

I need a good plan.

Please help with your best websites or routines or tips. I've been dreading this!

#2 LuckyMummy ♥♥

Posted 18 March 2017 - 11:26 AM

I was like you and felt a bit overwhelmed about how to start. So I just kind of took the plunge. I put the potty in the laundry, rolled up the rug, put towels on the couch and put him straight in undies.

We gave him stickers or a smartie for every attempt at a potty wee. Then reduced that to just a treat for every actual wee.

Took about 2 days of weeing on the floor before he learned to hold it until he got to the potty. Then another week before he was somewhat reliable. A month later and he is pretty good unless he drinks too much (like a while drinkbottle of ribena!) in which case he usually runs to the potty and may wee on the floor before his pants are down.  He has also started doing poos in the potty and most naps are now nappy free. I've even unrolled the rug.

I tried a toilet seat insert but he doesn't like it, tried three different seats and step arrangements but he just couldn't coordinate climbing and pulling his pants down, so we are sticking with the potty for now.

Make sure you give lots of praise for potty attempts. And don't get angry about accidents.

Good luck

#3 Gateaugirl

Posted 18 March 2017 - 05:59 PM

Thanks so much, LM. I bought a tub of stickers for something else, but maybe should use them for TT!

Thanks for the tip about towels on the couch.

So you put him back in nappies for naps? Did he find that confusing?

#4 Pip_longstockings

Posted 18 March 2017 - 06:10 PM

I found, no nappies and no undies worked best. Even under clothes, my son seemed to remember he wasn't wearing a nappy when he didn't have undies on, even under shorts, but as soon as he had underwear on he felt he was in a nappy and we had more accidents. After a couple of weeks, he could wear underwear no problem and we had no accidents.

#5 LuckyMummy ♥♥

Posted 18 March 2017 - 06:16 PM

At first we did nappies for naps, and he would end up saving his wees for his nap and poos too! He only really started getting better at toilet training when I ditched the nap time nappies. So yes, it did confuse him a bit.

But he also gets really upset when he has an accident. So now, I try and coax him to wee before his nap, or I time his nap for immediately after a wee, and he didn't have accidents then.  If he refuses to wee before his nap then I put a nappy on him. It also helps that the potty is right next door to his bedroom and we have taken the side off his cot. So he gets up and goes by himself. He isn't 3 yet so I'm not rushing for him to be 100% trained yet.

We still do nappies if we have an outing that's more than 2 hours long too, if there isn't a good toilet spot that he is comfortable with. (And he refuses to use public toilets, so we take the potty with us! Even to bunnings. Lol)

#6 LuckyMummy ♥♥

Posted 18 March 2017 - 06:19 PM

I have to add, due to a long outing this afternoon, we accidentally left him in a nappy. But he still has had two big wees in the potty this evening! Even with a nappy on he managed to pull it down and up again. I am very impressed.

#7 Gateaugirl

Posted 18 March 2017 - 06:27 PM

Thanks Pip, I'll keep that in mind. I have some fabric trainer pants but now I'm wondering if I should skip them. It might be easier without them. But how will she learn the pull up, pull down routine?

Thanks again, LM. If she starts following your DS' style, I'll ditch the nap time nappies. Great tip about napping after a wee, though!

#8 22Fruitmincepies

Posted 18 March 2017 - 06:38 PM

View PostGateaugirl, on 18 March 2017 - 06:27 PM, said:

Thanks Pip, I'll keep that in mind. I have some fabric trainer pants but now I'm wondering if I should skip them. It might be easier without them. But how will she learn the pull up, pull down routine?

Thanks again, LM. If she starts following your DS' style, I'll ditch the nap time nappies. Great tip about napping after a wee, though!

DD spent most of the first period of TT wearing no pants whenever we are at home. She had no problems figuring out how to pull her knickers and shorts down.

My advice is that if it is really difficult, and there is no progress within a few days, it might be better to stop and try again later. Our problem was that reminding DD caused her to not go - little rebel - so she would then wee on the floor. We stopped and waiting 2 months and she then asked to wear undies. She was then mostly done in 3 days.

#9 crazy87

Posted 18 March 2017 - 08:24 PM

I've been TT my 3yo in the last 2 weeks. I used the 3 day method outlined by Lora Jensen. Thoroughly recommend it!! It's basically throw out the nappies, put them in pants 24/7 and stay right by their side. By the 2nd day he got it, 10 days on he's reliable.

Google it, there's an ebook you can buy.

#10 Gateaugirl

Posted 19 March 2017 - 06:28 AM

Thanks guys, this is all reassuring!

#11 Gateaugirl

Posted 22 March 2017 - 06:04 PM

Just an update:

Day 2 of TT and she's doing extremely well. Pantless and knickerless all day except for a nappy at nap time. She's sitting on the potty when she knows she needs to go, and she even pulled off her nappy just before her nap so she could do a poo.

One accident, but that was due to the potty being too far away and she couldn't quite get there in time (running towards it herself).

It's full on shadowing her, but so far so good!

Thanks so much for your advice, it really really helped.

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