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Posted 09 March 2017 - 09:25 PM
So I'm tired & not sure what to do about DS2's sleep...He's about 5 months old.
He cat naps during the day, which is fine with me - ends up having about 4 x 40 mins and is starting to stretch some out to two cycles occasionally. Awake times around around 1.5 hrs. I think he's generally pretty well slept. So that's all good.
For night sleeps he's great at bed time - we do our little bath, feed, book, song routine & then he falls asleep with white noise. Sometimes with a dummy but mainly just sucking his thumb - does this count as self settling? So the start of the night is a breeze but after the first wake up (normally after 2-3 hours asleep) it's been difficult to get him back to sleep. During the 4 month sleep regression I ended up bringing him into bed with me so now we have been co-sleeping after the first wake up for about a month.
I guess my question is how do I go about moving from the current arrangement to DS2 sleeping in his cot? He's rapidly growing out of the bassinet and DH wants to sleep in bed together again (he finds it too hard to sleep with kids in the bed so goes to the spare room). While I quite enjoy it at the moment, I'm also concerned about continuing it once he is more mobile & could fall out of the bed....
Posted 09 March 2017 - 09:36 PM
That's not really weird. It's quite normal.
I tried to get babies back into bed (we had a snuggle bed on our mattress for 3 months that then went into the cot until they outgrew it) until an early feed but it didn't always work. And the babies were always on the wall side so couldn't fall out.
I currently have a 6 yo and 3 yo asleep in my bed. If dh was home he'd be on another bed in another room. I'd like to sleep with DH occasionally but I'm too tired to care enough. If he cares that much then he can fix it.
Posted 09 March 2017 - 10:41 PM
My DS1 co slept at least part of the night with me from around 4 months old. He's now 3.5, still sleeps part of the night with me and has never fallen out. When he was a mobile baby I found that I would just wake up if he moved away from me. You don't sleep the same with a baby in bed with you, you're always aware of them.
I would count your bedtime as self settling, but I don't really know if it is for sure. My DS2 goes to sleep on his own with a dummy and I thought that counted (coz he doesn't need me, most of the time)- am I wrong?
Do you feed when he wakes?
Posted 15 March 2017 - 08:46 PM
Thanks for the replies.
Haha, sorry badly worded - I don't think cosleeping is weird at all! I think it's very natural. What's weird is it's just totally different to DS1 who was very difficult to settle & hated cosleeping. I also thought that once they self settle then will happily settle again all night...Silly me should know they don't read the books, though!
I really would be happy to keep going but for the falling out of bed thing or getting stuck between the bed & wall. A friend mentioned recently that she slept through her DD rolling out of the bed & didn't wake until she'd hit the floor! Fortunately she was ok. So that kind of freaked me out...
Nasty-bags, yes I do feed whenever he wakes. At least it's down to about 3-4 times a night now & resettling is pretty quick now in bed with me.
I think I'm going to try naps in the cot during the day & tonight he went off to sleep without white noise so hopefully that helps as I normally turn it off once I come in to sleep as I can't stand the noise! Nup that's a good idea about side carting the cot. I'm not sure if I could do it with our bed but I might at least chat to DH about bringing the cot into our room. That might be a gentle way of making the transition...
Edited by AlmondButter, 15 March 2017 - 09:13 PM.
Posted 16 March 2017 - 12:53 AM
He's not strictly self settling. He's using sucking on the dummy & white noise as sleep aides. If he wakes in the night and is without white noise of a dummy then he probably won't be able to resettle easily.
There's nothing weird about co-sleeping. If you want to make a change though, I find the most important thing is to be consistent. If you want him in his cot then don't pop him in your bed. Short term pain for long term gain. It's confusing if you put them in the cot one night and in your bed another night.
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