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#26 dearydo

Posted 08 January 2017 - 11:20 AM

Day sleeps -

First one was a looooong rock/feed/rock/feed/carrier and others were either feed to sleep or carrier to sleep. Bassinet was useless, it was used as a wash basket :)

My aim at that age was simply to have them sleep, no care about if it were the 'right' way. Just whatever worked for them so they weren't so over tired later.

Edited by dearydo, 08 January 2017 - 11:21 AM.

#27 Coeur de Lion

Posted 08 January 2017 - 11:22 AM

Yeah - agree with Dearydo. Bassinets are the enemy of long day sleeps. We have put both of ours in a baby hammock for day sleeps - it makes resettling a breeze. No real problems transferring to the cot when they could roll etc.

#28 Lunafreya

Posted 08 January 2017 - 11:37 AM

View PostMose, on 08 January 2017 - 11:09 AM, said:

I am not aware of DH having a mood disorder. He just likes things to be good, and to be able to fix them if they are not.

Having had 3 nights of it, he is now down with the fact that it's just how it is, nothing is "wrong" and we just have to agree on coping strategies.  Not saying we both aren't still finding it a little stressful, and we certainly wish it would stop, but we are ok.
Sometimes theres no "fixing" a baby, there's just enduring. When DS would cry and cry as a newborn me and DH would pass pass him between us, taking turns in comforting. Having a different person holding baby helps.

Another was just walking around the house and talking to DS in a calm voice as if nothing is wrong. We would go find the cats and DH, then say hello and good bye to them. This still sort of works even though DS is now a toddler.

We used to have a list we got from googling "why is my baby crying", went rough ti one by one until it was down to tiredness.

I still think getting a baby to sleep is the worst thing about havung a baby. Nothing you can do if a baby won't sleep. Good thing it ends.

Good luck!

#29 cordyline

Posted 08 January 2017 - 01:53 PM

Another thing we did as PP have said is take shifts between DH and I.

DH would often do the 9-midnight shift (he held/rocked baby with headphones on while playing videogames/watching TV shows. I have some funny photos of him playing with baby in the bjorn or on his lap while gaming. She never heard the sound as he had headphones and he didnt have to have the full onslaught of the screaming.

Baby seemed to sleep well from midnight to 2am and I would take the 2am-6am slot. Tended to sit with her on the rocking chair, or co-sleep.

This really helped mentally - I used to sit there in the dead of the night and found comfort in thinking about all the other parents in the world who were also up, cuddling and rocking their newborns to sleep. I could see my neighbour across the street who had a baby too and when they had their light on, I would guess that they were also up with their little one. I wasn't alone.

#30 c.sanders

Posted 08 January 2017 - 04:14 PM

I'm only telling you my own experience with my 3 babies. One thing I did wrong with ds1 is that when he would fall asleep I would break the latch and move away. He would wake quickly...after 5 to 20mins. I realised that because he was so young what I needed to be doing is letting him feed even in his sleep until HE broke the latch. Because they spend so much time sleeping, they actually needed to spend a long time feeding even in their sleep or they would wake after short naps because they were hungry. This would result in getting over tired which lead to the night fussinesss and a bad cycle overall. Our feeding session would easily last 1 hour or so...even while he slept. But I could feel when my milk was being sucked as opposed to him using me as a dummy because he was latched on. I also offered the second breast (not always) after he latched off the first one to make sure he was full. I know it's all easier said than done.

Eta. Are you waiting for bub to empty one breast before offering the other. The hind milk is more filling than the front milk.

Edited by c.sanders, 08 January 2017 - 04:15 PM.

#31 c.sanders

Posted 08 January 2017 - 04:16 PM

View PostSafety Queen, on 07 January 2017 - 11:15 PM, said:

thank you for the link I have a gassy 3 week old and I was trying to figure out how to get the extra gas out  


Let me know how you go :)

#32 Safety Queen

Posted 08 January 2017 - 04:33 PM

View Postc.sanders, on 08 January 2017 - 04:16 PM, said:

Let me know how you go Posted Image

We had 3 lots of 3 hours sleep so it worked :) My first born could feed go straight to bed no problem so all new territory for us

#33 AlmondButter

Posted 08 January 2017 - 05:45 PM

It's tiring & time consuming but for the first 6 weeks or so mine had most naps either sleeping on me while I sat or in the ergo baby against my chest...We are gradually moving towards sleeping in the bassinet with white noise, wrap & dummy now at 3 months with DS2.

#34 JustBeige

Posted 09 January 2017 - 10:36 AM

View PostCoeur de Lion, on 08 January 2017 - 11:22 AM, said:

Yeah - agree with Dearydo. Bassinets are the enemy of long day sleeps. We have put both of ours in a baby hammock for day sleeps - it makes resettling a breeze. No real problems transferring to the cot when they could roll etc.
  I did this a lot too.  Also used the pram quite a bit.  I used to walk it around the house.

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