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September 2016 Parents Group Chat Thread
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Posted 17 November 2016 - 12:13 PM
Hi ladies how is everyone going with motherhood?
My little man is now ten weeks and we finally have the reflux sorted 👏👏 after many specialist appts and working it all out he is much happier.
Posted 17 November 2016 - 02:27 PM
Hello!also been MIA here. Baby is nearly 11 weeks!!! To be honest I have been dinding it pretty challenging the last 3 or so weeks with my 2. DD1 had been so good but i feel so bad that she misses out on a lot of my time. DD2 became very unsettled a few weeks ago and now only sleeps on me so i basically wear her all day. It really exhaustes me especially in the evenings when i really want some time to myself but end up just wearing baby until i go to bed. The upside is that sincce i started co sleeping she usually only wakes for a feed once bwtween 11 and 7 so nights are pretty good
Edited by miffee, 17 November 2016 - 02:32 PM.
Posted 17 November 2016 - 04:04 PM
I've been having a challenging time this week! DS2 isn't sleeping that well at night because of a stuffy nose and DS1 is really putting up a fight at bedtime so we're lucky to get him to bed by 10pm He tends to find his way into our bed in the night as well, so the sleep I am getting isn't great because I'm almost falling out of bed!
I am getting lots of smiles from DS2 now and he is growing, growing, growing! He has put on about 3kg since birth and I can now barely remember how little he was as a newborn. I think I need to make a cup of tea and look through my photos to remind myself!
Posted 18 November 2016 - 09:02 AM
My DS is painful at the moment. He has taken to spitting. All. The. Time. He spits on everything including the cat. It is doing my head in but no idea how to stop it. Ignoring it doesn't seem to be making a difference, giving him extra attention isn't helping either. It's exhausting. His favourite thing to do is run into DDs room and screech until she wakes up. I need to baby gate the hallway off so he can't get up there.
DD is perfect. She's such a sweet girl with a placid soul. She's put on 2kg since birth and will be 9 weeks old tomorrow! She sleeps 8pm-3.30/4am every night, has a quick feed and then is up around 6/6.30am.
Gotta love their little smiles hey memly!
Posted 11 December 2016 - 04:04 PM
Three months yesterday! How did that even happen? Hope you're all going well! Sorry I don't check in here all the often. Time gets away from me with the two kids at times.
Posted 11 December 2016 - 09:30 PM
Hi all we've been crazy busy here too. I'm certainly yelling a lot more
But it's definitely been easier than it was going from 1 to 2. Last time I was really struggling. It's probably because I don't have to play with ds1 since he has ds2. Ds3 is super cute and very interactive already. He just wants to join in with them already.
I went to a birthday party today and the table I was at had some old aquaintances(childhood ones) and it was just funny how many kids we had between us.
Posted 11 December 2016 - 10:19 PM
We're doing ok.
DS2 is still cruisey as, sleeps well and doesn't cry a great deal.
We had his upper lip and tongue ties cut about a week and a half ago now, on the hopes that it would improve his latch so he wouldn't gulp as much air and struggle with wind and refluxing when burping. The procedure was way more upsetting than I anticipated (DS1 had his done at 2 days old and that was a non event so I had thought it wouldn't be much worse than that). We were unlucky in that he bled a little more than typical and then he was super upset that night. Not nice. It's improved his latch marginally so far but he's sick (again) so I've been letting him do whatever it takes to feed and we'll work on it again when he's well. Even with the crappy latch and ties though, he's managed to chunk on the weight and is over 8kg already and wearing mostly 00.
He's not as active and smiley as DS1 was at this age. DS1 was giving big gummy grins to anyone and everything, freely showing his pleasure- and he was pulling up his legs and rolling onto his side by this age too.
DS2 smiles more cautiously, mostly just for those he knows well. And while he flaps and kicks, no attempts at anything more yet. Mind you between the positing when layed flat too soon after a feed, and the sleeping so much, he hasn't had a great deal of time to get busy with his body. He has discovered his hands in the last week or two though, and loves to suck on them etc.
c.sanders I've been yelling a bit too. I used to be so patient with DS1 but by gosh am I exhausted by him lately! He will not leave his brother be, always in his face hence the illness after illness (seriously DS2 has had some cold or other for more of his short life than he has been well!!!). I say 'please give your brother some space' about a million billion times a day! I love that he adores him, I just wish he could do it from a touch further away!
Edited by Lou-bags o tinsel, 11 December 2016 - 10:24 PM.
Posted 12 December 2016 - 11:51 PM
Definitely more yelling here too, feel terrible for it. I've been working on it and thankfully curbing it a bit wow 8 kgs is amazing! Adaline is nearly 6, such a huge difference to her prem brother who's only 10kgs at nearly 3 years old!
Glad to hear from you both and that you're hanging in there too!
Posted 13 December 2016 - 03:44 PM
Big bubbas! DD is in 00 too these days. She'll be three months on Saturday. Where has the time gone?!
Sick and tired of yelling. 2yos are hard work.
Posted 13 December 2016 - 03:55 PM
Oh yes...4yo Ds1 does that too....bub hates it...i hate it! Literally on top of him smothering him with love and affection. Ds2 though younger and only just 2 will sit beside him, give him a quick peck and back off...
Posted 21 December 2016 - 02:31 PM
Glad you have all found your new spot.
Hope you are all going well.
Post and chat just as you did in the DIG and if you have any questions please just ask.
Posted 02 February 2017 - 06:26 PM
I was just thinking of posting actually!! Haha hope everyone is well
Question! Is anyone else going through the "4 month sleep regression"?? Bub has never slept through but he got down to just waking at 12 and 3 for feeds and otherwise sleeping from 7pm - midnight. Now he's up between 4 and 7 times a night and it's been 4 weeks already I've read people saying the only way out of it is to sleep train but I just don't think I can do any crying out methods. I'm so tired and it would take so much longer to "settle" him than to just feed and put him back to bed without the dummy which he does fine. But seriously how long is this going to keep going on for and am I doing something wrong? Any help appreciated. Or if anyone can reassure me that he will just sort it out on his own soon
Posted 03 February 2017 - 06:55 PM
Lunar it's so hard! I don't personally believe in sleep training, so we just ride it out. I just feed and get her back into bed asap and she's fine. It's exhausting but if you can nap the next day when he does it helps! I don't care about housework etc in the early months, keeping baby and yourself alive is all that matters haha. It does pass!!! I do miss my naps now that I have a second, because DS is usually awake when DD is sleeping and vice versa so no mummy nap times here. hugs xxx
Posted 03 February 2017 - 07:28 PM
Thanks so much tealover! Funniest thing... Last night he only woke at 10:30 and 2:30 for feeds haha! Amazing. More amazingly, he took solids today for the first time and was so into it! Opening his mouth and making little chewing motions. It's amazing how they go from 0-100 overnight sometimes. He woke up on the day of turning 4 months and rolled over both ways and hasn't stopped since. So bizarre! Maybe I just find it crazier because he's my first lol I'm sure the novelty wears off.
Thanks so much for the reassurance. Even just that one "good" night last night gives me so much hope and feel better about the whole thing. I see light at the end of the tunnel even if it was just a once off. Heres hoping tonight is good too. Can't imagine how much work it would be having 2 littles ones running around haha. Im flat out managing the one
Posted 03 February 2017 - 07:39 PM
I'm another who won't sleep train, not in the traditional sense anyway (any of the crying methods). I just couldn't do it with DS1, who got so distressed so quickly. So I'm happy to ride any sleep troubles out with DS2. That said, so far so good with DS2... he's typically up for a feed 1-3 times a night which I can live with easily.
I survived DS1's rubbish sleep with bed sharing. He would usually become unable to put back in his cot around 4am so that was when I'd take him to bed with me instead.
You're not doing anything wrong! It's so normal for your baby to be doing what he is and also so normal for you to find it easiest to feed him back to sleep. I'd do that over wasting precious sleep patting and shushing endlessly!
My best tip is to not mention it to anyone you don't think will be supportive. I found everyone else's advice, solutions and expectations the hardest to manage- when I just wanted an understanding nod and a 'this will pass'.
I hope it's short lived for you, fingers crossed!
DS2 is going well, big cruisey lump of a child that he is. He's just hit 9.5kg at 20 weeks and can't really be bothered rolling yet (his big bro was rolling both ways by now).
Posted 03 February 2017 - 08:16 PM
Omg I can so relate! And I agree, I'd be happy with 2 or 3 wakes a night for a quick feed because it's so easy to just put them down in a milk coma and go back to bed in a half asleep state still. I've always been of the mind set that if he wakes, he's waking for a reason, and if he eats, then maybe he needs the food. I don't think I could just not feed him because how can you know for sure why they are waking. Especially if it's a growth spurt. I'd rather feed him when he doesn't need it than not feed him when he does
I have learnt the hard way about asking for advice lol. I don't think people realise that tell me their baby sleeps for 12-14 hours and that there must be some issue causing bub to wake (sleeping too much during the day, not eating enough during the day, needs solids early bla bla bla) is not helpful and strangely... Doesn't make me less tired or my baby sleep longer haha. All I've ever really wanted to hear was " that happened to me and I kept doing what I was doing on demand and it passed on its own" haha. In a perfect world.
I'm sure it will pass and I'm just being a sook. Sometimes when you have a week or two of torturous nights you think you literally cannot take a single bad night more yet here we are, we push on and take it day by day and somehow survive it. Then bub does something cute or giggles when you pick him up in the morning like nothing ever happened haha.
9.5kg!! What a solid little bubba. Must be that tasty milk haha. Bub is 22 weeks and just hit 7kg haha. But he has always only just been 50th percentile for weight and 90th percile for height haha. Lean mean baby. I wonder sometimes if he's so mobile because he's a light weight and has less weight to carry lol. I know I move quicker with less weight hahaha! Hope you're going OK with the 2 together. Would keep you very busy!
Posted 03 February 2017 - 09:22 PM
Well DS1 still goes to childcare 2 days a week, which helps immensely. He gets to have a good, tiring play with his friends and DS2 and I get some time just the two of us.
DS1 has been wonderful with DS2 (though he will sometimes wake him from naps deliberately which does my head in). But I suspect we'll be in for some dramas once DS2 is mobile and getting into all of DS1's things. So far there has been no jealously at all, he's proud as punch of his little brother and shows him off to everyone.
Posted 03 February 2017 - 10:04 PM
I can never find this thread but always see the Sept 2017 DIG and it amazes me how fast time flies on EB.
Ds3 is growing so fast as well. But he's becoming clingy lately which is not fun. I start back at uni at the end of this month.
It does feel like groundhog day when the kids are at home.
Posted 04 February 2017 - 06:21 PM
Sorry it's been a little while since I checked in.
Things are going quite well here - though Adaline's currently super whiny as I type this and her dads having a hard time settling her. Not sure if she's getting teeth but she's usually such a happy babe!
Her big brother just adores her which is really lovely though he can be a bit rough at times.
I've been contemplating moving her in to her own room and trailed a nap in there today but I love having her close. And of course after pretty much sleeping through for a month she woke up three times last night!
How's everyone else going?
I'm way more active on Insta if anyone's over there?
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