Due in June 2017 thread #2
, Nov 07 2016 12:11 PM
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Posted 10 November 2016 - 01:10 PM
I take my hat off to so many of you waiting to find out the gender of your baby! I am going crazy with anticipation. I have to know.
I had my OB appointment today and looking all good. Strong HR at 148. DH was there and it was so much fun, love my OB- haven't seen him in 6yrs and he just made me feel so good!
He said to my DH "everything looks great, but why test fate? I don't want her exercising, lifting, worrying, cleaning or cooking"!!!
Ha - then proceeded to take my handbag off my arm and gave it to DH to carry! 💗😂😂
Edited by 4springlets, 10 November 2016 - 01:28 PM.
Posted 10 November 2016 - 06:18 PM
I'm so relieved. Buns measured 10w6d even though I'm only 10w2d, strong heartbeat of 167 and I even saw bubs kick their legs and wiggle a little. It was so amazing to see a little human shape in there moving. As opposed to the blob at 6 weeks. I'm relaxed again
Wow your results were fast for your harmony tests. I have mine Saturday morning. I didn't realise you get a scan with it. Nobody mentioned a scan. They just said blood test.
Your OB sounds fantastic 4springlets!
Posted 10 November 2016 - 07:17 PM
Great news KJI woohoo 👏🏼😍 Such a reassurance to see the movement & a good hb. You must be same due date as me now as I'm 10+6 today though I wonder if that will change any at my next scan on 22nd. Not that I'm really hanging out for a 2nd June due date going by last pregnancy when he came at 41+6!! Every day overdue felt like a week!
Great scan too 4springlets - your ob sounds amazing haha I might have to say same thing to my husband about no housework for me 😂
Posted 10 November 2016 - 07:50 PM
Thanks Appletree. The sonographer said they stick to the dating scan date as it's the most accurate. Do my due date is stil 6/6 but bubs has just grown a little faster since the scan. They say that the dates often jump around st each scan which is why they go by the first one. I actually know my O date anyway because I was tracking with OPKs and temping. My o date and the due date I was given was only 1 day difference so I'm happy with that. The beautiful thing is that the day I Od was my due date for the bub I lost at the beginning of the year. It made me feel really positive about the month we got pg when I saw my O was that day. The world is magical sometimes
Posted 10 November 2016 - 08:03 PM
Yeah 4springlets, your OB sounds fun!
KJI, that's amazing news! See, i told you it would be incredible to see. I had a cry when i saw it. Now it's been a week and starts feeling unreal again. I'd love a scan every two days please to remind myself there is a human growing inside me.
They do the scan for the harmony test quickly to see if it's all still ok as there is no point of doing the expensive blood test otherwise.
I measured 4 days ahead too but they said they wouldn't adjust the due date at this stage as it balances itself out later on. It would have put me into May.
Has anybody else little abdominal pains? Not cramps but small niggles that sometimes give me shivers. Guess it's normal as everything is stretching and growing..
Posted 11 November 2016 - 05:34 AM
Terfl- I'm with u on wanting a scan every second day to remember it's real lol. Once everyone knows about it, we have developed proper little bumps etc it will probably make it more 'real'. But then I'm sure I'll only be wishing I could feel it kick. I need to enjoy every day of the ride and stop panicking now I think.
The scan prior to the harmony test makes perfect sense when u put it like that.
I had a tiny niggle of a pain/ stretching feeling on the left side yesterday but haven't really had a lot of it since early days when it felt like dull AF cramps. My lower back has been aching most days though so maybe my bubs is sitting far back and that's y I'm getting the aching in my back? Who knows... I'd say it's definitely the stretching.
Posted 11 November 2016 - 07:06 AM
The due dates are all over the place in my experience. I had a c-section the first time around, 39+3 then 41+1 then 40 then 38+3. I got told a long time ago by someone with 3 children her births came earlier each time. I guess that could be true in my case as my first was a c-section. I wasn't tracking ovulation but since my first I've made sure to track periods.
I have heard the earlier the scan the more accurate. That's why they tend to stick with the dating scan date.
I think kicks can be felt from around 15 weeks but they are harder to identify when it's a first baby. They just feel like flutters originally.
Terfl, I've had a few fleeting cramps, nothing serious or lasting very long.
Kji, my back has been hurting a lot. I got back pain during my other pregnancies but I was further along. I wondered if it was weight gain as I already feel so big. The baby position makes way more sense though.
4springlets, there's a lot of positives to finding the gender out.
Are you hoping for a boy or a girl? Or do you just want to know?
I have thought about having both. A boy would be nice since I only have one son, but he will turn 7 by the time this baby is born. Whereas my youngest will be around 23 months and is a girl. Though there's no reason why she couldn't be close with a boy either. It's just something I like thinking about.
I have 2 boy names picked out but only 1 girl name. I have loved the name Lily forever, my husband's sister called her daughter Lillian last year though. It's not the same name, they live in America and I have zero contact with her but my husband says no. It's really frustrating because I have had that name picked forever. The other girl name I picked is something I have loved for a long time, too, but is gaining in popularity. My son is one of 3 of his name at school. And there's only 160 kids. So I'd like to avoid that. Sorry I'm rambling! Has anyone else got names picked?
Posted 11 November 2016 - 07:24 AM
Yay KJI that's great news! Was checking here all night last night for news from you! So lovely to see the lil legs and arms wriggling isn't it!? ❤️
Posted 11 November 2016 - 11:22 AM
4Springlets, I hope my doctors give my bf similar advice
I have my GP appointment today 9weeks2days to schedule the 10 week blood test and 12 week scan. Any advice on what to ask for? Is the Harmony test the same as the 10 week blood test?
Posted 11 November 2016 - 11:49 AM
What is the 10 week blood test?
Posted 11 November 2016 - 04:48 PM
I'm not too sure what the blood test looks for when you are doing the blood test/NT scan. All I know is they call it the first trimester screen so you might find some online information using that name. The harmony test is a different blood test. It looks for chromosome abnormalities in some fancy way (technical term lol) that's meant to be 98% accurate. The combined blood test is less effective and has a higher false positive rate. If u go that track and get a positive result for something they generally follow up with other tests to be sure.
Posted 11 November 2016 - 05:22 PM
Thought I'd finally jump in here. I'm 7+1, 38 years old, first baby due 29/6
Now that I've gotten over the shock (we were going to start trying in January....took a risk when I went off the pill thinking 'no one gets pregnant in the first cycle' - doctor's words as well! Then BAM! BFP and back in my GP's office three weeks later where she was as shocked as I was!)
Had all the bloods etc and doctor said she'd call if there was a problem with my HCG levels and I haven't heard so I assume all was good.
Dating scan last Wednesday had me at 5+6 and I saw the flickering heartbeat.
Sore boobs, some nausea first thing in the morning this week - seems to go away if I eat something. Peeing every freaking five minutes and pretty tired - but considering a work colleague is 19 weeks and is still vomiting, I'm doing ok!
Going back to the GP to have the harmony test and the other scan (can't remember the name - the one that gives you odds for down syndrom etc) at 9 weeks and first OB appointment at 10 weeks.
I'm a naturally anxious person and have just started to worry about missed miscarriage. Because this has all happened so quickly and easily (I was waiting for it to take ages due to my age and because other friends have all had to do IVF) I'm half expecting things to go wrong :-( Hoping that seeing the heartbeat at the scan was a good sign?
Feel bloated already and have definitely put on weight. I was supposed to start an 8 week challenge at my gym the week I tested - oops! Know I need to exercise but it's just been so tiring I can't find the time to go to the gym - also we got a puppy two weeks ago so EVERYTHING is happening at once!
Looking forward to sharing the journey!
Posted 11 November 2016 - 05:48 PM
Welcome elawood. Congratulations.
Sounds like you have some hectic times.
Yes the heartbeat is a good sign!
I had my bloods early on too. I think kji is right, first trimester blood tests sounds correct.
Try and relax, I know it's hard.
Have you told anyone yet?
Posted 11 November 2016 - 06:27 PM
EarlyLateBloomer, do i remember correctly that you haven't had any blood tests yet? No HCG, no STIs etc? I guess they might want to do that at 10 wks? The harmony test costs about $450 and is voluntarily, your doctor might offer or suggest it. You might want to wait until after the NT combined scan and bloods and only do it if it comes back high risk.
I admire how you made it through the 10 wks without any scans. I had 3 by then...
Posted 11 November 2016 - 07:33 PM
Welcome, elawood! Exciting times ahead! I'm 38, too, pregnant with my first. Seeing the heartbeat is definitely a good sign.
MummyMustard, you've already got 4 children? How old are they? It must be super busy and fun in your house.
Regarding baby names - isn't it challenging?! I had some names I liked for a really long time and with a simple 'no' DP wiped them off the table, haha. I've got the added challenge that I'm German (been here for 9 years though) and would like a name that works in both languages and my mum would be able to say easily. I'd also like a name that isn't very common but still quite simple. I recently remembered the nick name of a great-aunt and suggested it to DP and he actually liked it. I hope he doesn't change his mind as I'm pretty excited about it and nobody will have this name.
I have a feeling it's a boy though and I have zero ideas for boys and can't get excited about any names.
I struggled a lot with back pain too last week and often had to lie flat on the floor when watching TV as everything else was unbearable. I ended up getting a pregnancy safe massage and my back hasn't hurt since.
Posted 14 November 2016 - 02:45 PM
Can I ask what kind of (if any!) exercise people are doing? I was exercising quite a lot before finding out I was pregnant and my doctor cleared me to keep going however...
In my head I'm swimming three times a week and doing two light weight sessions at the gym.
In reality I am exhausted and doing nothing. Not even walking because our puppy is still too young to take out on the leash (hoping that when she is I will run out of excuses.)
I know it's important to exercise, I just kind fight the fatigue at the end of the day. Wondering if anyone has hit on any winners to get around that?
Posted 14 November 2016 - 05:22 PM
Hi elawood. I wish I was more help but I have the same problem as you. Too tired to exercise despite wanting to stay fit and heathy. When I'm in my second trimester I've decided I'll do pregnancy Pilates. Either weekly or fortnightly. And in the third trimester I thought it would be nice to do some swimming when I'm feeling extra heavy and need some weightless time out for my poor aching body lol. It's what my friend has done in her pregnancy and it's working for her. I think I'll need to book in for classes to motivate myself.
Posted 14 November 2016 - 06:14 PM
Elawood & KJI, I'm feeling exactly the same about exercising. Before I found out I did group classes at the gym almost every day but now ended up doing just Reformer Pilates (the one on the bed) as I wasn't too sure of what to do and didn't have the energy either. I also didn't want to tell each trainer about the pregnancy. One was enough. But to be honest, half the exercises I couldn't do anyway in Pilates and I'm not very flexible so the rest of the exercises were kind of pointless.
So I booked a personal trainer session at the gym a couple of weeks ago and it was really good. She gave me a lot of great tips and put together a little routine. Biggest thing was not to get your heart rate above 125 bpm. And drink heaps more than you normally would. Sweating is fine but not panting and/or overheating. Stop when you're too hot. No core exercises at all. Light weights are great, squats are fine. Cross trainer and bicycle are good. Maybe not treadmill, unless you love running.
I do find that I feel better / less tired when I make it to the gym or even manage to go for a walk.
Posted 15 November 2016 - 09:58 AM
thanks Terfl, that's the clearest advice I've gotten about pregnancy exercise!
I was running before I fell pregnant, which my doctor said I could continue, but the run I did the day before I found out was like running through mud so I decided to ditch that!
So I guess pilates isn't ok if we can't do core exercises? I used to do reformer pilates as well and I saw pregnant women there...I guess like you say you just have to tell the instructor - which yes gets a bit annoying!
I might take your advice and book a personal training session. I would really like to build up my muscles to prevent my posture going totally haywire when I'm massive...and I guess strong muscles will be good in labor... !!
At the moment it's finding the time when I'm not ready to collapse in a heap. Doesn't help that it's been 37 degrees either. Definitely will be taking up swimming over the summer.
Hoping in the second trimester I will have some energy back - however a friend who is 6 weeks ahead of me told me that all she is doing is peeing and sleeping still !
Posted 15 November 2016 - 05:45 PM
I'll be 12 wks on Thursday and i promise you, it does get better. I'm still in bed fairly early, which then means i usually have to get up once to pee but i don't feel like my head is going to hit the desk at work anymore. And just a bit brighter and fresher overall. Moving definitely helps, i promise
The PT was just from the gym, they offer free sessions every 3 months at my gym and I've asked for someone with experience in that field. The girl was really great and had 2 kids herself.
She said it's not recommended to do normal mat pilates after 12 wks but reformer is fine. There are some mild core things you can still do in the beginning but the pilates teacher gives me alternatives for the rest. To be honest, it didn't feel like much exercise at all and i only went because the teacher was so nice. You'd get more out of a pump class but you should go easy on the weights. There used to be a lot of pregnant girls in that class.
Swimming is a great idea! Think I'll try it as well.
Posted 15 November 2016 - 07:49 PM
I can't believe you're 12 weeks on Thursday Terfl. That's so exciting!! Are you planning on doing an 'announcement' of any kind?
Posted 15 November 2016 - 08:50 PM
KJI, you're not far behind me... I had another OB appointment today and dragged DP to it. OB did a quick scan and DP finally got to see the baby. He had the biggest smile on his face and OBs machine wasn't even particularly good. I booked the 12 wk scan for Friday so that hopefully we can finally tell our friends and families on the weekend. A few of my close girlfriends know already but we haven't told our mutual friends and parents yet. Not sure how to do it, our parents are overseas... DP seriously suggested not to tell his family anything until the baby is here - like 'look what happened', hahaha. I don't think they would be impressed.
What are you planning to do?
Posted 16 November 2016 - 05:51 AM
Oh yay! I'm so glad your DP got too see bubs at the scan. That's so special. I think it sinks in more for our partners when they see it as a baby shape. They're not the ones with symptoms and other daily reminders that it's really happening.
We are telling family later this week too. Thurs night for some of my family, Monday night for the rest (my parents aren't together) and Saturday for DHs family. It's a weekend earlier than I would have liked to tell everyone but it's just worked out that we were all getting together at this time and it would be too suspicious to try and organise for everyone to get back together in a week. Then there'd be the risk that not everyone could make it too. That 10 week scan has made me feel better about telling them though. And my 12 week scans are next tues at OB and Fri at U/S specialist. I've worked out my ways of telling everyone to make it a surprise and a little bit cute.
My sister is going to pull an U/S pic that says 'you're going to be an Aunty' out of what she thinks is the Kris Kringle draw. My dad I haven't seen since before Fathers Day so his present is a book called 'spot loves his grandpa'. And DHs family is getting together for a belated bday lunch so, at the very end when they open their cards, ours is going to be signed off with our names plus 'our baby (last name)'. I checked with my mil when we told her and she thinks it's a wonderful idea and that the person whose bday it is will love it. We're just making sure it's at the very end of the day before people leave.
I'll tell my boss next week but hold off from any social media announcement until my bump is too big to hide.
Posted 16 November 2016 - 12:16 PM
Awwwww, KJI, I'm loving your announcement ideas. Think I'll have to get a little more creative. Have you had your harmony test results yet?
I'm still contemplating when to tell work. One of my direct bosses knows and one work friend. One of my clients knows too because of this awkward lunch we had in week 5 but we haven't spoken about it since. I'm going on holiday for a week in early December and thinking to keep it to myself until after. I will be after 14 wks when i get back and officially in the 2nd trimester. Hope i can hide my belly till then. It's getting difficult. I don't think I'll do anything on social media, I'm not very active on FB.
Posted 16 November 2016 - 04:29 PM
I remember that lunch. I remember us trying to think of ways u could hide it, like mocktails etc. it's great the client had kept it to themselves. I'm only telling my main boss next week as there's some ramifications of the timing of my mat leave that will affect another staff member (in a good way) and I want to give him time to put a new plan in place. Basically as I'm leaving another colleague will be coming back and I want them to know they will be able to do so.
Holding out to week 14 sounds great seeing as you're away for a week before it. Nobody can be guessing while you're away so it gives u more time to hide it. I actually don't want to do a big social media thing. Pre-pregnancy I always thought I would but I just don't feel like it's right for us. DH on the other hand is barely keeping it in and wants to shout it from the mountains lol. Maybe we can compromise and do a clever photo announcement and send it to everyone we consider close. I haven't got my harmony results back yet. I'm wondering if I'll even get a call or if my OB will just wait til Tuesday's appointment to tell me. It's one thing I'm actually not stressing about. I'd love scans every 2-3 days though hahaha.
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